Speak Up Before You Set It Down
My husband wrote a great post about letting go when your spouse is unwilling to change.
When you come to an impasse and you are going to give up over it, don’t just shut up and let it go (your guy may think it means it’s no longer a problem or that you think he’s right).
Before you go dark over it, let him know that it’s still a problem, but you are not going to fight over it. You have decided to take the hit and stop the arguing (make sure this is something you can really do before you go there).
Can you learn to live with it graciously? Can you come up with a creative workaround that will make it easier for you? Can you forgive ongoing offense?
Your silence is not agreement. Your husband needs to understand that it is still a problem and it’s hurting your marriage. Letting it go is just your way of downsizing the friction in your marriage.
Say it as kindly as you can (sometimes a letter works better). Then actually set it down and work to build the rest of your marriage. Pray and give God room to calm your heart and help you show grace.
Good sense and discretion make a man slow to anger, and it is his honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11 Amplified
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