When you are kind to your husband, why are you kind?
♥ Do you want to show your love?
♥ Are you hoping he will be nice back?
♥ To get something you want or need?
♥ To encourage him?
♥ To get your way?
♥ To get him to calm down and back away?
♥ As an expression of who you are or want to be?
I think it is important to understand the why of what you do.
When you are kind as a genuine expression of love, the fruit will be sweet. When you are “kind” to manipulate or get your way, the fruit will be less so. People can usually sense the difference.
Examine your motives. Why do you do what you do in your marriage? Ask yourself who you want to be and then act out of that regardless of what others do. Be kind because that is a life choice you make.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 ESV
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to teach you to live out of your values.