Nix the Correction and Criticism

I have a dear friend who has stopped trying to cook. I think he would like to learn, but he met with so much correction and criticism that he gave up. It was easier to let it go. 

I think the bottom line is, we can’t stand up to ongoing negativity. Sooner or later you wind up taking an angry stance or walking away feeling very, very stupid.

I’d like to think we all value our husbands more than that.

Nix the Correction and Criticism - Say thank you for all he does.

So, the next time you are tempted to correct the way your husband puts the dishes in the dishwasher, stop. Let him do the work and be sure to say thank you. If you wind up with a few dirty dishes, that’s a small price to pay for valuing your man and appreciating his willingness to serve.

I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.  Charles Schwab


Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you encourage your husband waaaay more than you correct him.

This Month’s Marriage Challenge: Look for opportunities to compliment your husband (to his face and behind his back).

Start Marriage Right: He Had Me At, “So What I Heard You Say…” Use words that create safety in intimacy.

 Calm.Healthy.Sexy: 5 Free Gifts to Give Yourself You can’t buy them, but you need them.


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5 Comments on “Nix the Correction and Criticism

    • Thanks for reminding us all to take care of ourselves.

  1. Wow! You described my husband’s childhood! When I clued in to his homelife I started aiming for 90% thank you’s to 10% correcting the grown man! I know there are, and will be, days when I’m just plain cranky, but I don’t let them become habit. He appreciates this. Interestingly, I have also noticed he can fall into moods when he expects to be criticized and hears it no matter what I say. At those times I often give him a hug and remind him he’s with me now. But, my, if we stopped to listen to ourselves… would I want to live with me?

    • Thanks for sharing. Yes, I think it’s just about being aware and being intentional about being encouraging rather than being cranky. Good for you for being aware of his moods and helping him step out of the negative.

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