We Should vs. I Prefer

I have standards.

The end of the toilet paper roll should come up over the top toward you. The spoons in the drawer need to nestle against each other the same direction (spooning, if you will). Books should be organized by type and shoes belong in the closet.

If I’ll be honest, there really is no right or wrong here. This is really about my preference.

For me to declare my preferences as the right standard and expect my husband to go along all the time is … a bit arrogant.

Far better to acknowledge my wishes as preferences and work to accommodate both his preferences and mine (win/win situations do exist).

In love, there is also that place of serving another and laying down my preferences. Perhaps not all the time (do ask for what you want and need, I think being a doormat makes you boring), but certainly at those times that matter deeply to your husband or when you want to say I love you.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, … Philippians 2:3 NIV  

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