I recently received a request to share an article about budgeting and since it’s coming up on the holiday season, I thought that was a pretty good idea. The holidays can put a serious dent in your bank account. Get out ahead of this and make wise choices about your spending now.
The article includes a budgeting calculator and info about budgeting concepts (which is helpful), but I think the real wealth is in the review of a number of financial tools.
One of the most serious marriage stressors is dealing with finances (it’s always listed in the top three or four). And since budgeting really only works if you stick with it, share this article with your man and pick out a tool to two. Let the tools help you make wise choices and keep you on track.
Better for your holidays. Better for your life. Better for your marriage.
A budget is telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went. Dave Ramsey
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you and your husband get on the same page with the finances.
♥ Heaven Made Marriage: Affirmation: A Big Fat Yes Affirmation is a culture changer!
♥ The XY Code: Can He Relax In His Home? Find a reasonable balance between his needs and yours.
Paul and I spent last weekend in Oregon. He went to a men’s retreat with a friend and I hung out with the friend’s wife (a long time friend of mine).
We had a blast. We went to a very large BLICK store, wandered through beachside art galleries, walked on sand dodging the waves, and ate fish and chips. The only downside was I kept turning to share with Paul … and he wasn’t there. Now, I love hanging with my friend and we had lots of girl time (I even watched a chic flic, not my usual thing), so I’m not complaining.
It’s just that it brought home to me that having your husband as your best friend is a good thing and sharing about your day keeps you current and close.
My BHF (best hubby friend) and I are back together. We’ve spent time sharing about our weekend and got caught up on snuggle time.
I encourage y’all to look for opportunities to turn toward your husband and share your thoughts, dreams, and the stuff of your day. Be best friends.
“‘Are we going to be friends forever?’ Asked Piglet. ‘Even longer,’ Pooh answered.” A.A. Milne
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you turn toward your husband to share your day.
♥ Of the Hearth: Coffee: Friend or Foe? It’s a good thing! <happy dance>
♥ Gary Thomas: Don’t Be a Peg Drop criticism. Pick up encouragement.
The other day my husband stood behind me at the computer and rubbed my shoulders. It was just a minute or so, but it felt so good. In that moment tension was released, I probably got a good dose of feel-good hormones, and my hubby endeared himself to me for being so kind and thoughtful.
Look for ways to touch your husband. Pat him as you walk by. Lean in to touch shoulders when you sit next to him. Give him little mini-massages. Kiss him as you pass in the hallway
When you touch a body, you touch the whole person, the intellect, the spirit, and the emotions. Jane Harrington
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to show you opportunities to touch and connect with your husband.
♥ The XY Code: Good Tease or Bad Tease? Understand how teasing affects him.
♥ Kathi Lipp: Is it time to get rid of that friendship? Five signs to know when to let go.
(Originally posted on October 14, 2015.)
Where are your husband’s wounds?
Does he struggle with a fear of failure? Does the word “stupid” make him wince? Is there a memory that haunts him?
Make those wounds a matter of prayer and be an encouragement and support. You don’t have to walk around on eggshells, just be honest about them and let him know that you believe in him.
Life has a way of banging us up pretty good. Be there with the band-aids and a kind word or two.
Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 ESV
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you speak truth and comfort to those wounded places in your husband’s heart.
♥ We Are THAT Family: This is The Sign You’ve Been Looking For Do something.
♥ The Generous Husband: The Power of Friends Your friends are a powerful influence.
Do you have a habit that annoys your husband?
Do you chew your nails or leave laundry in the basket (instead of putting it away)? Do you make it difficult for him to park in the driveway or finish his sentences?
What do you do that irritates him? (If you don’t know you can ask.)
Why not create a new habit that blesses your husband instead.
Make good habits and they will make you. Parks Cousins
♥ Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you grow new habits that bless your man.
♥ The XY Code: See Past the Mess Thank him for the work he does.
♥ Kevin A. Thompson: The Secret Sauce of Healthy Couples Do this with your husband.