The Generous Wife

April 30, 2013

Marriage Piles

Filed under: to do — The Generous Wife @ 1:30 am

Yesterday's post, Laundry Piles, was about fixing up your bedroom.

What I found in looking at my own bedroom is that I have a bad case of the "piles." If I don't immediately know what to do with something (or I don't want to take the time for it), I set it on a pile. That makes for a very cluttered look.

I got to thinking about the concept and I realized that any part of your life can get a bad case of the "piles" ... including your marriage relationship.

If you don't know how to (or don't want to) deal with something it's easy to park it off to the side. In time you wind up with "piles" of issues sitting around making your marriage feel cluttered with unsolved issues. That makes for a difficult relationship that is a far cry from the peaceful, loving relationship that marriage can be.

The lesson? Deal with problems and issues in as timely a manner as you can. Don't let them pile up and damage your marriage.

Indecision becomes decision with time. Author Unknown

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April 29, 2013

Laundry Piles

Filed under: to do — The Generous Wife @ 1:30 am

Time for a bedroom check.

Stand back and take in the overall look of your bedroom.

Does your room look peaceful and welcoming?
Do you have laundry to put away?
Do you have any clutter that needs to be removed?
Is there anything you can do to pretty up the room?

Your bedroom is a special room just for the two of you. Stay on top of the little messes so that your room is a place of refreshing and intimacy.

Life is amazingly good when it's simple and amazingly simple when it's good. Terri Guillemets

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Calm Healthy Sexy: Live Calmer with a “Start the Week” List So smart!

Intimacy in Marriage: Is It Truly Possible to Escape Pornography Addiction Permanently? So nice to read a success story. Great encourage and help for those who are caught in pornography.

This week's ebook bundle is about tech & the Internet:

Once Upon the Internet by Marla Taviano
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Pin-terpretation by Holley Gerth & Stephanie Bryant
Paperless Home Organization by Mystie Winckler
Evernote for Moms by Lauren Rothlisberger

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April 28, 2013

Rest

Filed under: to do together — The Generous Wife @ 1:30 am

Invite your husband to a time of rest.

Sit on the couch for conversation. Take a nap. Pray together. Curl up and watch a movie. Have a leisurely meal. Sit on the patio and watch the sunset.

Rest your bodies and your minds. A little down time is good for you.

And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. Mark 6:31 ESV

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April 27, 2013

Points for Mr. Darcy

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I watched Pride and Prejudice the other night (for the first time).

I don't normally watch chic flicks (just my personal taste), but a friend twisted my arm and lent the movie to me, so ...

There was one scene between the two main characters (Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy) that was absolutely painful and I saw it coming. I kept thinking, surely Elizabeth will be gracious. Nope. She hauls off and blisters Mr. Darcy over some pretty serious assumptions. She didn't take the time to find out all the facts.

Have I been guilty of that? You bet. And I've been deeply sorry and am, hopefully, learning to dig up all the facts before responding. That and, even when there is something to be upset about, it's still a good plan to speak kindly and respectfully.

Not a bad skill to learn and one that will benefit any relationship (and especially your marriage relationship).

He who loves purity of heart, and whose speech is gracious, will have the king as his friend. Proverbs 22:11 ESV

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Do Not Disturb: Marriage Challenge: Personal Pursuits and a Question Make margin in your life for personal pursuits. It's healthy and beneficial for you and your marriage.

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April 26, 2013

Invitation to Intimacy

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Invite your husband to make love with you.

You could arrange a piece of sexy lingerie on the bed with a note. Buy or make a small pillow that signals an evening of love making (Here's one on Amazon). Write an invitation on your bathroom mirror with a white marker. You could develop a set of signals (a tap on his wrist means "meet me in the bedroom").

Our guys need to know that they are wanted. A little creativity never hurt.

Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have. Aimee Mullins

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April 25, 2013

The Artist’s Daughter

Filed under: from me — The Generous Wife @ 1:30 am

From time to time I have folks offer to send me books to read and hopefully recommend.

I have a fairly strict policy of only recommending things that I like or use or that I think a fair number of y'all will like or use. So when someone asked me to read a memoir, I had my doubts (never had much luck with memoirs).

The book in question? The Artist's Daughter by Alexandra Kuykendall.

I was pleasantly surprised. I actually read it in one day (yes, I'm a fast reader). The story captured me and I had to read it to its conclusion.

The author talks through her daddy hunger, her need for approval, her marriage problems and her struggle with tragedy. I was also impressed with how supportive the MOPS groups were in her life. The connections and encouragement were amazing.

I walked away having seen God's faithfulness and the strength that comes from family and fellowship. I was inspired by the author's courage and her willingness to let others see into her life struggles.

I may have to give memoirs more of a chance.

... God, the artist of all things true and beautiful, loved me, called me into existence, claimed me as his daughter, and never left. Alexandra Kuykendall

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One Flesh Marriage: Tear the Book In Half Great encouragement to deal with your own stuff.

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