Seasonal Fun

March 27, 2014

in the generous life

As the seasons change (we’re moving into Spring, woohoo!), what new opportunities do you have for couple time with your husband?

For me, it’s working in the garden, going for walks and enjoying the evening by a recreational fire. I’m looking forward to those things.

Spring is nature’s way of saying, “Let’s party!”  Robin Williams

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Love and Respect: You Can Be Right, But Wrong… How you say it is important too.

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Holley Gerth: Remember Who You Really Are Sometimes we just need to be reminded.

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The Forgiven Wife: I’m Changing, but My Husband Doesn’t Seem to Notice Understanding his side of the healing journey.

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The other day someone made an assumption about me that was … well, wrong. It was understandable and not particularly hurtful, but it got me to thinking about the assumptions that I have about others, and in particular my husband.

People do change over time and I don’t always get things right anyway. I need to be better about asking questions and giving my husband room to change and grow.

Not a bad life skill to have.

Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in. Alan Alda

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Unveiled Wife: Why I Stopped Saying No To My Husband And Why You Should Too Is “No” your default answer to requests from your man? Become a “Yes!” wife.

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Raising up Rubies: an easy way to meal plan for one year with free printables I know this sounds like a lot, but it’s interesting and actually do-able.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: How to Initiate Sex with Your Husband: Top 10 Tips to Make it Great! Pick 1-3 things and then DO THEM. You don’t need to do all 10.

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Hang in There

March 25, 2014

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The last few days my quiet time with God has been drier than saw dust. The heavens are brass and distractions rule.

It’s a bother, but I know it will pass. I’ll keep on taking the time to pray, read and just hang out with Jesus. Life will go on and we’ll connect again. It’s a matter of staying constant and giving everything a chance to move back into place.

Sometimes that happens with my husband too. Our time together seems less intimate. We don’t hear each other as well and life seems to run over us.

It’s a bother, but I know it will pass. I’ll keep on making time to talk with him and just hang out with him. Life will go on and we’ll connect again. It’s a matter of staying constant and giving everything a chance to move back into place.

We all have moments when our marriage shifts out of place. We don’t feel as close, we have a series of misunderstandings, or the things we normal cherish annoy the snot out of us. Just hang in there and keep investing. Persevere in the process of reconnecting.

Perseverance, secret of all triumphs. Victor Hugo

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The Hudsucker: Can You Have a Happy Marriage Without Sex? Paul and I were interviewed awhile back as a part of research for this article.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy: Don’t Look Away from Your Marriage Choose your words carefully to fight dissatisfaction in your marriage.

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From The Generous Wife archive:

Seth Godin had a great post that reminded me that our marriages are rather like gardens.

To keep your garden healthy and productive you have to tend it over time. You water and weed. You divide plants and gather fruit. You mulch and get rid of pests. It’s an ongoing act of service.

The same is true for marriage. A hug here. A helping hand there. His favorite cookies. Making love in the afternoon. Conversation over dinner. It’s the ongoing little bits of connection and care that make your marriage strong and healthy.

Remember that children, marriages, and flower gardens reflect the kind of care they get.  H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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Happy Wives Club: Top 20 Springtime Dates on the Web Spring is (more or less) here! Grab your man and have a bit of fun.

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Intimacy in Marriage: I Like Him Better After We Have Sex It makes the marriage journey easier.

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Leadership Couples: Are You Happy With The Direction Of Your Marriage? Great advice from oldyweds.

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Look Around

March 23, 2014

in the generous life

Is there a couple that you know that seems to have a great marriage?

Invite them over for lunch. Get to know them. If it seems like a good fit, build a friendship and learn from their marriage strengths.

Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.  John C. Crosby

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My husband recently penned 7 Awesome Things I Love About Being a Married Man (he got the idea from Black and Married with Kids).

I thought this was a terrific idea because it’s always smart to list the good stuff in your life and it’s an encouragement to others to do likewise.

So here are a few of the reasons I love being a married gal.

1. I have someone with whom to share my life.
There is just something about turning to share what I’ve seen or read or experienced. People are made to interact and share life with others. I love sharing my life with Paul. I love the companionship.

2. It’s lovely to have someone to help share the load.
I have gifts. Paul has gifts. Together we cover things better and the work load is shouldered by two instead of one. 

3. Having a spouse is like having a mirror.
In the scope of ever day life I see myself more clearly in how my husband responds to me. It helps me grow up. I’m grateful that he is so gracious about it. It makes my work easier.

4. Sex.
My husband is my only sexual partner. That’s the way God designed it. Sex is sweet and it builds a deeper kind of intimacy. 

5. I love having someone to have adventures with.
We share and shape each other’s dreams. We cheer each other on. The dreaming and doing is amazing fun. 

Be sure to make up a list of your own and share with your man (feel free to share as a comment too!).

A good marriage is each for the other and two against the world.  Robert Brault

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Ferguson Values: Is it Time to Give Your Marriage a Rest? A different kind of rest.

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The Forgiven Wife: Are You in Love with Your Husband? I love her perspective and encouragement.  

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Do Not Disturb: Marriage Challenge: Explore, Discover It’s amazing what you can learn, even years out.

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Checking In

March 21, 2014

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How are y’all doing on your yearly goals/words/baby steps?

 

I’m doing much better asking for what I want in a clear (and reasonable) way. It’s becoming easier and I catch myself more quickly when I’m hinting or rambling.

Being “gracious” is an ongoing pursuit and is running in all directions in my life. Recently I’ve been trying to be more calm in stressful moments. I did well learning a new bookkeeping program, not so much this morning when bit.ly ate my links (I recreated them, but not after being grumpy and flaky).

Ah, well … back on track.

I’d love to hear how y’all are doing. (If you’ve fallen off the wagon, now is a good time to create some baby steps and get moving again. There is no shame in starts and stops, successes and failures. It’s all a part of the learning process.)

Failure isn’t fatal. Mike Ditka

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Bowling with Ed: 5 Things You Should Always Say to Your Spouse Amazing post. If we all did this, divorces would be cut in half overnight.

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Pearl’s OysterBed: Overcoming Sexual Objections: He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That’s Not Me. Dealing with your objections.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy: This Week, Do One Thing to Invest in Your Marriage Build your marriage investment.

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