Splish Splash

August 13, 2015

in the generous life

Challenge your husband to help you create a water-themed date.

a squirt gun battle
swimming at the lake (or local pool)
share a shower
run through the sprinklers (you could invite the kids too)
go fishing
brew some tea and share a snack on the patio
 a day at the beach
an evening of watercolor fun

What ideas do you have? Please share as a comment.

Life is simple. Just add water.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Thank God for the goodness of His creation and the opportunity to play in it.

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Family Life: Does Your Spouse Annoy You? Opposites attract. smile

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy: Time for the 2 of You: How to Make Time for Your Marriage Free ebook!

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When your husband voices a frustration or shares a problem, grab him for a hug and pray for the situation. Don’t pray long (really, don’t pray long), just a couple of sentences. Then go right on with your day. 

It’s amazing how encouraging it is to have your wife on your team, to know she routinely brings your needs up to God.

(If your man is not a believer, you can hug him and pray silently. Let him know how much he matters to you and that you are in his corner.)

Trouble and perplexity drive me to prayer and prayer drives away perplexity and trouble.  Philip Melanchthen

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see and move on those opportunities to pray for your husband.

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The Forgiven Wife: Three Steps You Can Take to Work on Sex Right Now Love this baby step perspective.

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Messy Marriage: A Tool for Recapturing Young Love Freebie printable with questions to help soften your heart toward your man.

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My husband buys me flowers fairly regularly (he usually picks something us at the grocery store when he’s picking up milk or tomato paste). It might only be a single stem, but he knows I love them, so they show up fairly frequently on my dining table.

It’s a small thoughtful gesture that says he loves me, knows what I like, and he wants to please me.

As I was looking at the flowers on my table, I began to wonder if I was returning the favor. For a moment I couldn’t think of anything because I needed to move from “Lori speak” to “Paul speak.” Then the thoughts starting rolling in.

Spinach. I dry the spinach for his daily smoothies. We don’t have room for bags of it in the fridge or freezer (RV appliances are small), so I dry it in a dehydrator and it crumbles down small.

Errands. He likes to have the company so I tag along most times (I know our local Ace Hardware pretty well, they have a new store cat).  smile

Editing. This is actually something we do for each other. We read each other’s posts to edit and critique. It makes us better bloggers.

Well, y’all get the idea.

What small thoughtful gestures can you routinely do for your husband that says you love him, you know what he likes, and you want to please him.

Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. Scott Adams

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you create some small thoughtful routines that will bless your husband.

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Etsy: RevealU My son’s sister-in-law is extremely creative (he married into a creative bunch of folks). I thought I would share her Etsy shop. I love the crocheted lace barefoot sandals.

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For Better – Or What?: Thinking About Divorce? Turn to someone whose mission it is to repair marriages (rather than your nearest divorce attorney).

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In a Rut

August 10, 2015

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We all have ruts in our lives. Sometimes we call them habits.  smile

And, really, ruts are OK if they take you where you want to go and they do good for you and yours.

I just wanted to remind y’all that some ruts are not-so-good, but we keep going down them because … well, we’re in a rut. Those activities are what we’ve always done. They’re habit.

It takes effort to change things. I get why it’s easier to keep moving along in the same ol’ ways, but if you’re in a not-so-good rut, do make the effort to start a new and healthier habit.

 Get up a half hour earlier.
 Cut up some veggies for snacking.
 Read 10-15 minutes a day.
 Kiss your hubbie for 20 seconds (or 30 or more).
 Clean off the kitchen table.

From time to time, look over your life and make sure you are headed the way you want to go, in life and in marriage.

A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an undo-it-yourself project.  Abigail Van Buren

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you those things that are habit for you and help you get out of those not-so-good ruts.

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Refine Us: 3 Ways to Surround Your Marriage With the Right People Be careful about who speaks into your marriage.

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Intimacy in Marriage: Do You “Accommodate” Your Husband’s Desire for Sex, But Never Really… God designed sex to be a profound encounter between husband and wife.

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From time to time I receive a lovely note from my husband or a friend. I have to admit, it encourages me in a way that few other things can. A handful of words in a note of appreciation let me know that I matter and what I do has helped or blessed someone. It makes my day.

I’m willing to bet you and your husband would respond similarly.

Why not create a note box to leave somewhere in your bedroom. Fill it with paper, pens, stickers, and whatnot. Every once in a while (or perhaps every day for a week), write out a few words of appreciation and leave the note on your husband’s pillow.

You can stroke people with words.  F. Scott Fitzgerald

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you write words that will touch your husband’s heart.

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As a weekend project, pick an area of the house, garage, or yard to clean up and organize.

Think through what you would like to happen in a particular spot. Remove anything that doesn’t belong and move what does belong to that spot.

To spark your imagination:

 a game area in the family room
 a dining and conversation area in the backyard
 a snuggle and talk area in the bedroom
 an organized place for all your garden tools or sports equipment
 an entertaining area in your living room
 a coffee and tea center in your kitchen

Organizing items for a particular purpose can make an area more usable and you can more easily make time for certain activities with your favorite people.

Once you have a clear idea of your priorities … organize around them.  Stephen Covey

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you create a home that is husband and family friendly.

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(in)courage: A Table with Leaves “May we never mind rubbing elbows and sharing ourselves with one another.”

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Love Hope Adventure: How to Develop Friendship In Marriage Through Steering Your Conversations It’s more than discussing work and the kids.

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Stay Focused

August 7, 2015

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The next time you make love with your husband, begin to focus on those things that you love about him.

Do you love the color or texture of his hair? His chest? His fingers? Kiss him and enjoy the simple pleasure of it.

If you feel yourself slipping away to loads of laundry to be done or dinnertime plans, bring yourself back to a focus on him.

It is a mental exercise, but just as with regular exercise, the more you do it, the better and stronger you get at it.

Distractions happen, fight back with attention to those things that you love about your man.

My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
    distinguished among ten thousand.
His head is the finest gold;
    his locks are wavy,
    black as a raven.
His eyes are like doves
    beside streams of water,
    bathed in milk,
    sitting beside a full pool.
His cheeks are like beds of spices,
    mounds of sweet-smelling herbs.
His lips are lilies,
    dripping liquid myrrh.
His arms are rods of gold,
    set with jewels.
His body is polished ivory,
    bedecked with sapphires.
His legs are alabaster columns,
    set on bases of gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
    choice as the cedars.
His mouth is most sweet,
    and he is altogether desirable.
This is my beloved and this is my friend,
    O daughters of Jerusalem.
  Song of Songs 5:10-16 ESV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you stay husband and pleasure focused when you are making love.

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Love Hope Adventure: 3 Ways to Feel More Confident When Being Physically Intimate Boost your bedroom confidence.

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Authentic Intimacy: Why Controlling Women Kill Relationships Respect others’ right to rule their own life.

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