I have a treat for you today. Sharon (from Marriage Essentials) is our guest author today. Thanks, Sharon, for your words of encouragement.
I was reflecting back to a question I hear quite often, when someone learns Kevin and I have been married for over 39 years, “How do you stay married to one person that long?”
I laugh in my heart as I think, one person? Was not that the way it was designed? You mean I could have walked away at any point, when things were tough? :) The answer always goes back to commitment… and don’t believe your own reviews, because nobody is perfect and we all have faults.
Always know that the grass is NOT greener on the other side. It just appears that way because you are standing afar off. When you begin to walk on it, it is then when you’ll see spots.
Marriage is an investment. Not just with funds, but time. Take what we have and work with it. Just like a house. We don’t move out because we have a leak in the roof.
It’s called maintenance. Generally speaking, when something is broken in the house we fix it. If it’s more than you can handle you call in the experts. In our home Kevin always calls in the professionals, he doesn’t try to repair anything himself, and I appreciate him knowing his limits.
Now contrasting that to our actual house, when Kevin and my marriage had been broken, we would try very hard to fix it and often we were successful. However, there has been time when we had to call in the professionals.
I say to anyone, on that special day that is so very beautiful, your wedding day, go into it as you are making an everlasting home for the two of you. Pay close attention to the vows.
We must consciously plan to make it last till death do us part. Work hard at it, just as we would our education, jobs and the other valuable entities of our lives. There will come a day when it will be just you two sitting around the fireplace, reminiscing.
Make plenty of great, joyful memories, work hard to overcome trials, just as one would continue to move the logs around in the fireplace, so the flames don’t die, tender the time you spend together, so your marriage can continue to blaze and not sit as ashes as you reminisce on what could have been.
First, love, then commitment, and last, but not least work, work and work a bit more, never giving in and never giving up… and then the day will come for you when someone will ask,” How in the world do you stay married to one person that long?”
Sharon Verrett, who’s originally from New Orleans, Louisiana, now residing in Charleston SC., is a firm believer in “re-inventing yourself” and the fact of, “anything you, truly, strive to do can be accomplished,” including a successful marriage.
Sharon was a Surgical Technologist, for twenty years, today she’s a Cosmetologist, part-time, a writer having written her first book on friends and relationships, Just Between Friends, and a blogger.
Sharon’s central base is God. She and her husband have spent plenty of time over the years in church marriage seminars and fellowships. Now, after over thirty-nine years of marriage, she’s decided to try to help others overcome some of the bumps and view the good in marriage, through writing her recent blog, Marriage Essentials. Sharon wants to help others learn the difficult task of respecting other’s positions, as she has learned to do over the years.
When she’s not worshiping, spending time with her husband, working, and writing, she’s relaxing, enjoying time with her children and grandchildren. Sharon also loves eating out and traveling.
By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. Proverbs 24:3-4 ESV
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