Run the Risk

April 13, 2016

in the generous life

The other day Paul thanked me for going on the adventure with him (we’re traveling the US by RV).

Turns out most guys need a certain amount of risk and adventure to be healthy and happy. It’s a guy/testosterone thing. (Having had both a daughter and son I had a front row seat to the hormonal dance that differs by gender.)

Run the Risk

That said, the trick is in finding those things that are fun but not life threatening.  :)

Do step back and give your sweetie room to explore, try, challenge, and risk. Maybe even encourage him. Maybe even join him.

… and pray … a lot.

A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.  John A. Shedd

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for His protective grace over you and your husband.

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Keep Talking

April 12, 2016

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Something I hear fairly frequently as we talk with others about marriage is the importance of ongoing communication. Staying connected verbally translates into staying connected over the years.

Keep Talking

That can look like 10-20 minutes of talk time after the kids are in bed, to a daily question, to regular work or play that gives you opportunity to talk.

If you’ve slipped away from sharing every day, start by sharing something simple over dinner or compliment him as he heads out the door in the morning. Later invite and offer more.

Use your words.  :)   Keep talking.

Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.  Rollo May

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband find regular talk time.

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Got Budget?

April 11, 2016

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Finances can be an incredibly stressful subject for couples (it’s tax time in the USA). Different spending styles, different savings goals, and such can cause fuss after fuss.

If you haven’t come up with a financial budget you and your husband can both get behind, I sincerely encourage you to look into Financial Peace University. Dave Ramsey has an amazing 9-week course that can help you work through your finances peaceably.

Got Budget?

I can also recommend Wave software (which I love, love, love). It’s designed for use by folks who are not accountants and it’s free too. You can organize your personal and any business accounts on the program. Because it can be accessed by computer and phone apps, you and hubby can see with a click what is going on with your dollars.

This may also be a time to talk through how you handle receipts, record keeping, and learn from any tax time struggles. Work together as a team to get your finances and financial habits in order.

I believe that through knowledge and discipline, financial peace is possible for all of us.  Dave Ramsey

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband get on the same page with the finances.

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Years ago Paul worked long hours in the Texas heat. He would come home, shower, and become a lump on the living room floor (so he could “play” with our then toddler son, our son was tickled to climb on dad and thought it wonderful fun even though dad was really just a lump).

I, pretty much, took care of the rest of the household responsibilities. I cooked, cleaned, did yard work and most of the child care (except the a fore mentioned floor play), dealt with the mail and banking, ad infinitum.

Years later, the kids are grown. Paul does most of the cooking. I do most of the cleaning. We handle the jobs as they come along, whoever has a free moment takes care of the mail or packing away pantry items.

Different seasons. Different choices.

It's Not Fair

If we took the attitude of doing what was “fair” (as in splitting things evenly) we would have had some difficult times over the years.

Far better to serve each other and understand that different seasons call for different levels of service to each other.

If you’re in a season of doing more, understand that it is just a season and serve your spouse with a smile. If your spouse is doing the heavy lifting be sure to thank him and let him know how much you appreciate what he does for you.

Fairness does not mean everyone gets the same. Fairness means everyone gets what they need.  Rick Riordan

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband to address the need of  each season as servants.

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Refreshing

April 9, 2016

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Paul and I have been making use of more state and local parks. They tend to be less expensive and they are amazingly beautiful and spacious.

Refreshing

I didn’t realize how much I needed to be in nature. The sun, clouds, trees (and often a lake) are so soothing. It’s refreshing in a way that calms the inside of me. It also knits our hearts together as we share the view.

Refreshing

I encourage y’all to find ways to explore and enjoy nature with your husband (you can sit on the patio and look at the stars). Let the beauty of nature awe and nurture your hearts.

God writes the gospel not in the Bible alone, but on trees and flowers and clouds and stars.  attributed to Martin Luther

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Focus on those things you find attractive about your spouse.

Lookin' Good

Write them down. Speak them out loud.

It’s a truism that you tend to follow that which you focus on. If you talk about what you find attractive in your husband you will find yourself that much more attracted to him.

My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished among ten thousand.  Song of Songs 5:10  ESV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you focus on your husband’s attractive qualities.

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DEALING WITH THE OOPS
(originally posted January 23, 2014)

Recently my man was very gracious to me when I messed up. It was a simple slip up and no real harm done, but that he had responded with kindness (and a lack of fussiness) really touched me.

Thursday Throwback - Dealing With the Oops

I think because I am studying graciousness it really stood out to me. Am I open to being that kind of gracious? When something goes wrong, do I stay calm and kind? Really, most mess ups aren’t helped by crankiness and the blame game stinks big time. Being gracious and helpful is a more sane way of approaching difficulties.

So let’s agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other. Help others with encouraging words; don’t drag them down by finding fault.  Romans 14:19  MSG  

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