Pass the Salt

January 7, 2015

in the generous life

Don’t forget to enter to win the Let’s Get Organized giveaway (a purse insert organizer (comes in a variety of colors) or a book from the Marriage Book Library).

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It’s an incredible blessing to sit down to a healthy, tasty meal. And don’t forget the conversation and laughter. Meals really are no small deal in the course of marriage and family relationships.

I encourage y’all to spend a little extra time on meal planning and snack ideas.

You can’t make family meal times picture perfect, but you can offer your husband and family something good and healthy with the opportunity to connect. That is an amazing gift of love.

There is no sight on earth more appealing than the sight of a woman making dinner for someone she loves. Thomas Wolfe

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for wisdom and direction for healthy meals and happy meal times.

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The Forgiven Wife: Of Strawberries, Fish, and Olives: A Matter of Preference Because our tastes can change over time.

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SafeAtHome: So What If This Year Was REALLY Different At Your House? Y’all, you can make choices that will make a difference.

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Sweet Talk

January 6, 2015

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This is a simple idea that I’ve mentioned before, but it bears repeating. Leaving little notes on your bathroom mirror is a sweet way to communicate. (Try using white board markers as they clean up nicely with a tissue wipe.)

You can write notes, draw little kisses, or play couple’s hangman. If your kiddos use your bathroom, you can go PG or use code words. If you have a master bathroom that the kids don’t use, you can turn the heat up a bit. 

We learn by watching effective role models – most specifically by observing how our parents express love for each other day in and day out.  Josh McDowell

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for little opportunities to connect with your husband.

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Turning the Page: Sheep, Habits and Walking Down The Right Path Are your habits taking you where you want to go?

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Modern Mrs. Darcy: The 2015 Reading Challenge 12 books in 12 months. Really, that’s doable and you are worth it!

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This is National Get Organized Month.

What does this have to do with marriage you might ask?

Well, how much marital friction do you have over misplaced items, forgotten appointments or just dealing with the clutter in your home?

The good news is … being organized is a skill that can be learned. You don’t have to be born with an “organized gene.” You can practice and get better. You can create habits and step-by-step build order in your home and in your life. But like everything else, taking small baby steps works better than taking on too much and burning out.

I say all this not to overwhelm you, but to encourage you. Small changes over time will create more order (and hopefully less friction in your home and marriage).

As a way of getting us all moving, let’s share ideas and have a giveaway.

Please share in a comment to this post, one SMALL thing you can do this week to make your home or your life more orderly. On Friday I’ll pick a random number and the poster on that spot will win a purse insert organizer (comes in a variety of colors) or they may choose a book from the Marriage Book Library.

Let’s share our ideas and help each other take baby steps to a more organized life.

For every minute spent organizing, an hour is earned.  Anonymous

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find one small thing to clean up and organize.

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Home Storage Solutions 101: January Declutter Calendar: 15 Minute Daily Missions For Month I mentioned this link before, but this site offers a sane, doable plan for reducing clutter and getting organized.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy.: 8 Things to Do Today to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year Great baby steps to a healthier you.

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This is the first Sunday of the month (and the first Sunday of the year!), so it’s time for a cyber prayer meeting.

Please pray for a sense of hope in marriages. Ask God to help couples see they can grow, change, and develop happy, healthy marriages. Ask for miracles for those marriages that are faltering. Ask for creative ideas and solutions to problems.

You might also want to give your marriage to God. Ask Him to give you a vision of how He would like your marriage to be. Ask Him how to start living that.

If you have any personal prayer requests, feel free to leave them as a comment to this post (this is a public forum, so please be discreet and kind).

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV

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Prayer Prompt Pray for the marriages of generous wives everywhere.

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
tell your husband one thing you love or admire about him.

 
While you are contemplating small changes for the new year, consider doing something to bless your man.

It might be working to meet a core need of his or perhaps you want to break a bad habit that annoys him.

It will require knowing what makes your man tick, what he likes, and what he dislikes.

If he craves order, pick up before bedtime so he can wake up to a neat house. If light makes it hard for him to sleep, work to darken your bedroom. Make his favorite meals on Fridays or stop chewing ice (I used to do that).

Know him and brainstorm how to bless him. Remember to make your changes small and do-able.

Always be thoughtful of others.  Jackie Joyner-Kersee

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you pick one small change to make to bless your husband.

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The XY Code: Near Daily Sex A challenge that is saner than you might think.

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God’s Help For Marriage: 15 Tips To Rock Your Marriage in 2015 It would be great to discuss one a week with your husband.

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Think Margin

January 2, 2015

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
tell your husband one thing you love or admire about him.

 
While you are considering the new year, be sure to give some thought to creating margin in your life.

If you plan your life down to the minute, there won’t be the time or energy to deal with those things life throws at you (or time to take advantage of fun opportunities that crop up unexpectedly).

To govern my time, I’ve created a morning and evening routine (for the everyday things like laundry, making the bed, bookkeeping, writing, etc.) and I pick out 2-4 additional things to get done that day (from a fairly large list of to-do’s, organized by projects and broken down into steps). When my 2-4 things are done, my day is open to whatever I want to do. I can do something else on the list or I can do something fun and creative. I don’t worry about forgetting anything that needs to be done because it all gets written down as I think of it (either on my daily routines or on my long list of to-do’s ~ I use a system similar to Getting Things Done by David Allen).

You would be surprised how much can be done by completing a few to-do jobs each day. If you load down your day with a huge number of things, you don’t give your best to them and you’re likely to be frustrated daily by the never-ending list. 

Be sure to take small breaks during the day to rest or play. It’s also good to take one day off a week to rest and do things that build you up.

I realize this might seem impossible to do if you have a crazy, busy life, but that’s just my point. Crazy, busy is not healthy and it’s a miserable way to live.

Cut back to the most important relationships and responsibilities. Carefully add activities that bring joy to your life. Think margin.

Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work your judgment will be surer. Leonardo DaVinci

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you how to simplify your life and build in a little margin.

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Home Storage Solutions 101: January Declutter Calendar: 15 Minute Daily Missions For Month If you want to simplify your home, here’s a great tool. Thanks, Bonny (of Pearl’s Oyster Bed) for sharing this resource.

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Fierce Marriage: 10 Resolutions for a Better Marriage This Year Perhaps one or two might speak to you.

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Sweet Dreams

January 1, 2015

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
tell your husband one thing you love or admire about him.

 
From The Generous Wife archive:

January is a good time for you and your husband to revisit your dreams. Dreams keep us passionate and alive.

I understand stuff has a way of happening and distraction can be a way of life. At the same time, a little dreaming and planning can be the start of a grand adventure with lots of fun and amazing couple time.

So grab your sweetie and go out for coffee. Talk about your dreams and ask each other what next step can you take to make those dreams come true.

Nothing happens unless first a dream.  Carl Sandburg

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to give you good dreams to chase and explore together.

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Online fundraising for Year-end-kickoffThanks so much, all, for your financial support and for your prayers. Paul and I are deeply touched by your generosity. We are looking forward to another year of writing and hanging out with the amazing folks we meet on and offline.

(A few folks asked up to extend the fundraiser into the first week of January (for first of the month paychecks). Donations received or mailed by Dec. 31st will be eligible for a 2014 US tax deduction. Anything after that goes toward 2015.)

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The Generous Husband: Habit: A Powerful Tool Habits can also be a way of getting stuck. Examine your habits from time to time, and make changes as seems wise.

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