Brave

August 18, 2014

in the generous life

My husband tells me I’m brave.

Now, honestly, I don’t know how brave I really am, but having my husband tell me I’m brave makes me at least consider being brave (and it sure beats being told I’m weak and wimpy).

Words have power. Use that power for good with your husband. Speak goodness into his life. Encourage. Praise. Bless. Tell him he’s brave.

The wicked flee when no one pursues, but the righteous are bold as a lion.  Proverbs 28:1 ESV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to give your and husband courage, to help you both be brave.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: If I Wrote the Sex Scenes   :)

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(in)courage: Listening to the Story Slow down. Listen with your whole heart to the God-stories playing out all around you.

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Some friends and I have started a challenge. Each day for two weeks we’re going to list 3 things we are grateful for.

For fun I decided to text my 3 things today.

1. oatmeal (I really like oatmeal)

2. my flower garden
3. a grandbaby on the way

Why not challenge your husband to do something similar (or make it a dinner time game for the whole family).

The more you recognize and express gratitude for the things you have, the more things you will have to express gratitude for.  Zig Ziglar

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see all the good things in your life and give you a grateful heart.

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There will be times when you need your husband’s help.

If possible, do the courteous thing and let him know ahead of time what you need, any extenuating circumstances and how long you think it will take. That will make it easier for him to work it into his life in a more convenient way.

“Sometime this week can I have your help to dig up and divide that big flower clump on the corner of the house?”
“I was hoping to get into town and pick up that table at Auna’s house. Could we piggyback that on our errands on Friday?”
“I could use your help with my blog. I’m not happy with my comments widget and I need to find a different one. It may take awhile.”

I realize that sometimes you need help ASAP, but when you can, be thoughtful about your husband’s time.

A little Consideration, a little Thought for Others, makes all the difference. Winnie the Pooh

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you remember to be considerate.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Does Marriage Counseling Help? The stats paint a positive picture.

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In a recent post Seth Godin talked about the difference between “doing the best I can” and “doing everything I can.”

He talked about how “doing everything I can” means stepping out into those things that can make us uncomfortable and how “doing the best I can” often means we’re only willing to do the comfortable thing (while I would disagree this is always the case, I think most of the time it is about comfort).

Real change happens when you begin to step outside of the usual, outside of your comfort zone.

You want to change your sex life? Be willing to make love without your jammies on. You want to change your financial situation? Take an FPU class. You want to get fit/healthy? Grab a friend and be accountable to them in diet and exercise.

Step out of your comfort zone and “do everything you can.”

The difference between try and triumph is a little umph.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you those areas where you are making excuses and ask for His help in making real change.

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Becoming Minimalist: A Life-Changing Challenge: Add One Compliment “Our words are important. They have the potential to carry life within them.”

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Talk Time

August 14, 2014

in the generous life

How transparent are you with your man? Building intimacy requires a certain level of openness and honesty.

If you’ve been too busy or drifted a bit (it happens to us all), I encourage you to start small and begin to share your day over dinner. Ask him a fun question or two. It doesn’t have to be much, just something that heads you back in the right direction.

Then look for opportunities to share more. Share your thoughts on a movie you just watched with him. Ask him what he wants to do this weekend? Talk about a struggle and ask for his perspective. Whisper a prayer as you snuggle into bed.

Intimacy is built one step at a time.

The goal is to have a conversation in a way so that you can have another conversation tomorrow.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find the time and opportunity to share with your husband.

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Storyline: One Word That Makes All The Difference In Relationships Love is defined by actions, not sympathies.

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One Flesh Marriage: 4 Ways to Stop Using the “D” Word in Your Marriage How to express your concern and grow together as you face challenges.

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Intimate Talk

August 13, 2014

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When my husband and I were in the most difficult season of our marriage and not communicating well, my husband had the great idea of putting a loveseat in our bedroom.

It became the place for intimate talk. We had to sit close (he would often rub my feet), but it wasn’t the bed (our place of intimacy) and it was private (in our bedroom).

Smart move.

Do you need a place for private talk?

Keep your words soft and tender because tomorrow you may have to eat them.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt Pray for unique and creative solutions for issues in your marriage.

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Goins, Writer: The Secret to Having a Marriage that Never Goes Stale Seven sage words of advice.

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(in)courage: Let’s Stop Editing Our Lives This post really spoke to me. Don’t fall for the fakey-fakey stuff on social media.

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Should

August 12, 2014

in the generous life

In thinking about yesterday’s post about making room for each other’s differences, it reminded me to warn y’all about the word “should.”

When you use that word you are adopting a standard and expecting someone else to meet that standard (as in “you should like the Broncos”). If it’s not an ultimate truth (like “we should speak the truth in love”), you are talking about values and preferences that may or may not work for your husband.

Keep an eye on your words and look for the word “should.” Do you mean “should” or do you really mean “I would like for you to [whatever]“?

Remember … it’s OK to be different. It doesn’t make one of you right and the other wrong.

Vive la différence!  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt Pray for the grace to allow your husband to be different.

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The Forgiven Wife: He Only Wants Me for Sex Act on what you know to be true.

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Calm Healthy Sexy: 12 Ways to Add Some Adventure to Your Marriage We all need a little adventure.

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