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This weekend Fifty Shades Darker will hit the theaters. It’s the second in a trilogy of erotic movies.
Before I talk about the movie, I would like to talk a little about a simple concept.
Cause and Effect
An action is taken and there is a natural effect or consequence to that action. It happens all the time around us. If you pick up a hot pan you will get burned fingers. If you tickle my 2-year-old grandson you will get giggles, lots and lots of giggles. If you don’t pay your bills on time you will get a poor credit score. You get the idea.
Good and bad. When you do something there will be a natural effect or consequence to your actions.
With that in mind, let’s look at the cause and effect of Fifty Shades Darker.
If you watch the movie your body will get aroused. It’s a physiological thing you can’t control. When you see something sexual your body responds with arousal. The harder question is where will you spend that arousal and are you OK with that?
If you watch the movie you will have exposed your mind and heart to images of sexual acts (and most of them not that healthy). Visual images stick. Once something is seen, it can’t be unseen. Theses images may fade in time, but they can do a lot of damage on the way out.
When you watch a movie, you emotionally experience (to some degree) the experiences of the different characters. The more you identify, the more impact the movie can have on you. It’s an emotional hook, especially if you are a little “relationship hungry.” You can feed your emotional hunger with the emotions you feel while watching the movie. Fifty Shades Darker is about an extremely unhealthy couple having a lot of unhealthy sex. Is that “good food”?
Let’s be smart, gals. The consequences of watching an erotic movie are just not worth it. It may seem to be a fun and relatively harmless thing to do (“All my friends are going!”), but the effect is a pull toward things that are destructive to you and your marriage.
You don’t need to watch erotica to get aroused. You don’t need erotica to feel romanced. You don’t need to watch others have sex to come up with creative ideas or feel sexy. You can find everything you need in the privacy of your bedroom with your husband and your own creativity.
A very good resource:
Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dannah Gresh & Dr. Juli Slattery.
It’s one of the best books around on the subject of erotica. If you don’t need to read it for yourself, read it for your friends and acquaintances (many of whom will have seen the movie).
Another good resource:
Sex Chat for Christian Wives This resource will go live on Valentine’s Day. Four great marriage bloggers will be discussing godly sexuality. Right now you can subscribe to the podcast or ask a question. I’ll remind you again on Valentine’s Day. I’m looking forward to what they have to say.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 NIV
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you make wise and marriage-honoring choices.
This Month’s Marriage Challenge ♥ Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.
Motherly: 7 reasons moms need minimalism Must read article.
Her View From Home: Sex – What We Aren’t Bringing to the Table Prayer. changes. everything. Including sex.
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