Run to Him

November 9, 2014

in the generous life

Knowing Jesus makes me a better person and a better wife.

Spending time with Him changes me and shapes me. His Words are life and the Bible is full of practical instructions for better living and building better relationships.

That said, I have to actually spend time with God in prayer and study to benefit. The words “spiritual disciplines” come to mind. Those words used to make me cringe because finding time to do something regularly didn’t always happen in a life full of kids and work and chaos. Time with God became one more thing on my already overburdened to-do list that might or might not get done. If it didn’t I felt guilty. If it did, I felt OK (and that’s not the best measurement for self worth).

I am learning to approach God differently and I thought I would offer a suggestion that might be helpful to y’all too.

Gather your Bible and any other items you like to have on hand when you hang out with God (a devotional, a journal and pen, etc.). Put them in a container and place them near a comfortable spot.

Consider the term “self care.” You need time for yourself and time with good friends. God’s a good friend. It’s important that you make this kind of time for your well being and sanity.

If you can make time with God easier (by gathering your God time items) and change your perspective (He’s your friend, someone to relax with and lean on), then it’s far more likely that you will make regular time for Him. You won’t need to put Him on your to-do list because He’s the treat you look forward to.

… Mary … whispered in her ear, “The Teacher is here and is asking for you.” The moment she heard that, she jumped up and ran out to him.  John 11: 28-29 MSG  (perhaps an odd scripture, but Jesus was important to her and she ran toward relationship)

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see Him as a dear friend and refuge, not a to-do list item.

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Welcome Friends

November 8, 2014

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

How are you when it comes to hospitality?

I ask because it’s something Christians are supposed to grow in and we are facing the holiday season when we typically hang out more with friends and family.

I’m for simple, so why not grab a pen and paper and write down a few things that you could do that would make your home more welcoming ~ emphasis on few and simple.

My list:

Sweep porch and wipe down front door. (I’m still looking for a cool wreath.)
Add coffee and hot cocoa supplies to my shopping list. I’m making a hot drink spot in my kitchen.
Do a daily 2 minute bathroom surface wipe down (after the family gets moving for the day).  
Smile at my family in the morning (hospitality starts with your family). 

It doesn’t take much to make your home more welcoming.

Practice hospitality.  Romans 12:13b  NIV  

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you what real hospitality looks like (not the unrealistic House Beautiful kind).

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The Forgiven Wife: Do You Vote? You have to speak up to be heard. (Same for marriages.)

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I’m an Organizing Junkie: How to Create a Gift-Giving Battle Plan A simple, organized plan for handling holiday gifts.

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Choices Are Fun

November 7, 2014

in the generous life

My husband and I take Wednesdays off (I highly recommend a weekly day of rest). We went to Green Bluff to pick up a gift for our daughter-in-law (who is getting ready to have our third grandchild, prayers appreciated). Then we went to our local coffee shop to sip coffee and chat with the locals.

On our way out I caught the gal who delivers these yummy caramels. Turns out her daughter makes them and she’s the delivery gal. She was kind enough to give us a couple of samples (Lavendar and Butter Pecan). They were delightfully creamy and sweet.

Well, I got to thinkin’ about our current contest (share your small gift ideas <- click here to comment and enter, contest ends November 14th) and thought I might make the prize a bit more interesting. Winner gets the choice of a six pack of Ghirardelli Intense Dark Sea Salt Soiree candy bars or a 10 pack of MamaB Caramels (if the winner lives in the US, choice of six flavors). Of course, if candy isn’t your thing, the winner may choose a book from the newly updated Marriage Book Library instead. Don’t you just love having choices.

A few takeaways from today’s post.

A day of rest is good thing.
Be friendly and talk to folks (you might get free caramel samples).  ;)
Small gifts can be found in out of the way places. Keep your eyes open.
Even the simplest of outings with your husband can build intimacy.
Sharing your ideas is a kind and generous thing to do (and you might win something yummy).

Enjoy your day. Enjoy your sweetie.

I think love is caramel. Sweet and fragrant; always welcome. It is the gentle golden colour of a setting harvest sun; the warmth of a squeezed embrace; the easy melting of two souls into one and a taste that lingers even when everything else has melted away. Once tasted it is never forgotten.  Jenny Colgan

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you help you see your husband in a new light.

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Holley Gerth: Words are Weapons: Handle with Care Love this gal.

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Life Your Way: Updated 2014 Thanksgiving planner now available! Take the hassle out of your holiday.

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Now’s the Time

November 6, 2014

in the generous life

Expectations. We all have them, but do we communicate them well?

The holidays are coming, Do take some time to talk through your holiday expectations with your husband.

Better to talk it out now, than have some unhappy surprises later. (Work to make room for what you both want.)

The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people half way.  Henry Boyle

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you talk (calmly and respectfully) with your husband about the holidays.

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Ann Swindell: Keeping Marriage Fresh and Fun Make your relationship a priority.

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Need a dessert for the holidays? Look through Heavenly Special Tea’s page of Scones, Curds and Mixes. I like the idea of #2009 Raspberry White Chocolate Scones with #2036 White Chocolate Raspberry Dessert Mix topping. (When you order, please put “Lori Byerly” down as the consultant. Thanks so much.)

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Snuggle Up

November 5, 2014

in the generous life

The weather is getting colder where I live and it’s time to bring out the winter things. I’ve organized all my tea and extras in one spot. Our puzzles and games are all in one place. I’ve put a couple of throws on the couch for snuggling.

 

Whatever season you are approaching, a little preparation can make it easy to snag a bit of couple time with your sweetie.

Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home. ~Edith Sitwell

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find everyday times to connect with your husband.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Freshen Up Your Foreplay A list of ideas to spice things up!

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Of The Hearth: Rekindling the Romance of Early Marriage A few strategies to warm your hearts.

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I just finished reading Gaye’s ebook 17 Ways to Live Calmer, Healthier & Sexier (I’m bummed it took me so long to get around to reading it, but my to-read list does tend to get out of control).

At any rate, it’s good and … get this … it’s free!

Just go to her blog Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and look for the pink banner across the top. Sign up to follow her emails and you will get the ebook as a free bonus.

A word of encouragement. So much of Gaye’s book is the very good king of practical, doable stuff. Please don’t pass over it glibly. Really do take one small idea and work it into your life and then pick another. It’s that kind of effort and practice that can change your life (and marriage) for the better.

The idea is to make a number of small changes over time, so that eventually you’re living the life you really want – a life that’s calm, healthy and sexy! Gaye of Calm.Healthy.Sexy.

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for direction when it comes to making changes in your life.

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The Forgiven Wife: Is Fantasy Okay in a Christian Marriage? Sorting it all out and what to do if fantasy is a problem for you.

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Storyline: 5 Habits of a Successful Celebrator It’s important to celebrate!

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My husband and I won a Ghirardelli Intense Dark Sea Salt Soiree candy bar at a small local store (they have weekly giveaways).

I have to say that was (notice the “was” because it didn’t last long) the best candy bar I have ever had. Paul agrees.

I mention it because I like mentioning good things, but also as a reminder that the holidays are approaching and small gifts are good, as are gifts that don’t clutter the home (trust me these won’t stick around long enough to be called anything more than yummy).

If candy bars aren’t your thing, not to worry, just tuck a reminder on your shopping list to begin to look for little things for the holidays. If you buy a few things at a time between now and then, it won’t crunch the budget and you can take the time to find appropriate items for your family and friends.

With that said, we need a contest.

Please leave your small gift ideas as a comment to this post. On November 14th I’ll pick a random number and the poster in that spot will win a six pack of these scrumptious candy bars or the book of her choice from the Marriage Book Library (which I’ve recently updated).

I’m looking forward to hearing all your ideas!

May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness, and tied with love.  L.O. Baird

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you plan wisely for the holidays and gift giving.

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Momastery: What If Your Life Is Already The Best Thing? Must read post. I really mean it. You’ve got to read this post.

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Encourage Your Spouse: No Conditions or Prerequisites: Just Acceptance Accept the current reality and learn to adapt.

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