My husband had an opportunity to get some great firewood (we heat our house with wood).
I went along for safety. It’s a wise thing to have folks around when you are using potentially dangerous equipment. As he worked I kept thinking there had to be a generous tip there somewhere.
I think the thing that struck me about this was the nature of just being there. Sometimes your spouse needs you for safety. Sometimes for comfort, companionship or just for fun. The list really is pretty long because two are better than one.
Be there for your man.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to show you opportunities to be there for your man.
Life of Joy: Do the Hard Thing Give your spouse room to think things through.
To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Made for Each Other: Embracing Differences in Marriage Great personal story of how differences made their marriage better.
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From The Generous Wife archive:
Make an appointment at a photo studio to get some nice photos done of you and your husband (or grab a friend with a digital camera and have them take as many pictures as you need to get the look you want).
Why not make it a yearly date (so that you have lots of lovely photos over the years) and, because you and your husband are looking so spiffy, add a bit to your date by going someplace special.
(Don’t forget to make a few extra prints for sharing with family and friends for the holidays. They are nice to tuck in Christmas cards and such.)
A good snapshot stops a moment from running away. Eudora Welty
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you get a few really good photos. (I realize this is kind of an odd prayer prompt, but please understand that not all of us are photogenic. <waving hand> I figure God understands and cares about the little things.)
Life Your Way: The 2014 Christmas planners are HERE! A couple of days ago I encouraged y’all to start planning for the holidays. Well here are free downloads for all kinds of organizational help.
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Have you and your husband talked lately about your personal dreams (individually or as a couple)?
That’s the sort of thing that gives a bit of sparkle to your lives. It also gives you the opportunity to support each other or work together doing something fun and creative.
If you don’t have any dreams, why not take a lazy afternoon and brainstorm some possibilities. What would it take to make those dreams come true?
You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning. Barbara Sher
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you discover those things that will set your hearts on fire.
Storyline: Who Will You Let Shape Your Story? Keep an eye on the subtle influence of others on your life and marriage.
Calm. Healthy. Sexy.: Redefining and Reclaiming “Sexy” What’s your definition of “sexy?”
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Lately my husband has been obsessing about leftovers. OK, that’s probably an overstatement. Compared to me, he’s more concerned about using up the leftovers. Honestly, I have no idea why. We have plenty of food and we generally get through the leftovers.
That said, it’s something on his mind and concerns him. As a respectful thing, I’m going to take this seriously and do what seems reasonable to help.
I figure if something bugged me, concerned me or generally mattered to me, I’d want my husband to take me seriously.
I’m just returning the favor.
What does your husband talk about? What are his concerns? Can you help (even if you think it’s a bit quirky)?
Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10 ESV
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you honor your husband’s perspectives and concerns.
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The holidays are just around the corner.
May I encourage you and your husband to develop a rough outline of activities and a spending plan now? (Yes, I know it’s a bit early, but it takes time to talk things through and make a plan that works for the both of you).
There are gifts, meals, parties and more that will soon come barreling your way. Know how much you have to spend and keep your holiday involvement sane.
If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. Jim Rohn
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God for wisdom and direction for your holiday plans.
Hot, Holy & Humorous: What’s the Aim of His Sex Drive? Is it only about the sex? Or do we believe it’s more?
To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Top 10 Ways to Beat the Stay at Home Mom Blues Practical wisdom for a challenging season of life.
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In a world full of people who couldn’t care less, be someone who couldn’t care more. Author Unknown
I really like this quote, especially in regard to my spouse.
Every so often we deal with cranky posters or cranky neighbors or cranky drivers on the road. We deal with thoughtless folks and difficult situations. It’s just a part of life and engaging with people. My husband, bless him, tends to shoulder more of it than I do. It’s so nice to be that person who offers him a safe and comforting place to settle into, to be that person who actually cares.
Be in your husband’s corner. Be that someone who cares, listens, prays and encourages.
Prayer Prompt ♥ Pray for your husband’s relationships and general work environment. Ask for grace and calm for your man in the face of a thoughtless world.
Pearl’s OysterBed: Top 3 Roadblocks to a Thriving Sex Life (for moms of littles) (and how to break through) First in a series from guest author Amanda Amanda Uher.
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Are you struggling with something (personally or in your marriage)?
Try something different.
I know that seems a bit elementary, but it’s sort of human nature to keep doing the same thing, only harder, in hopes you will get a different result. What you are doing now is the basis for what you have now. If you want a different outcome, you have to do something different.
If you want greater intimacy with your spouse, what could you do differently? If you want to be more financially stable, what could you do differently? If you want more time to be creative, what could you do differently?
It’s certainly an interesting challenge. (After writing this post I’m giving my life the once over for areas where I would like to see some change.)
By changing nothing, nothing changes. Tony Robbins
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God for wisdom and creative ideas where you need to see change.
Becoming Minimalist: On Mission Apply this to your marriage mission too!
The Forgiven Wife: When I Stopped Seeing Sex as Sex Reframing how you look at sex.
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