Over the last few months I’ve heard a number of women share about their struggle with the needs of their husband and children. It feels like they are being asked to choose one over the other in the busyness of life.
1. Cut back on your responsibilities (you’re too busy).
2. I think it helps to understand the nature of the relationships.
♥ You have a covenant relationship with your husband ~ you chose to be one with him for life.
♥ You have a love and release relationship with your children ~ your job is to prepare them for life (they will eventually grow up, leave, and cleave to their own sweetie).
There is often an immediacy with children (they need your help now). They are dependent on you and hubby for many things in many seasons of their childhood and adolescence.
Your husband is an adult and “can wait” momentarily when there is an immediate need with the kids, but understand your relationship with him is ongoing and for life. He cannot wait for weeks or months and still feel loved.
What that means practically is you need to build a different relationship with husband and kids. Your marriage relationship is foundational and needs to have great importance (routinely make time for hubby). Because your husband is an adult he can understand the moment (kid throwing up) or season (baby time) when you have less time and energy for him.
The important thing is to always return to a marriage focus when the moment is past and find small ways to connect during busy seasons (perhaps even team up with hubby to help each other through the season).
All the people you love are important. Kids are an amazing blessing, but please understand the nature and importance of your marriage relationship. Be intentional about keeping it strong.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 ESV
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you build your marriage relationship all life long.
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