A Quick Clean Up

February 11, 2017

in the generous life

♥ ♥ ♥ 3 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

Try this on those days when your bedroom looks more like a mess than a love nest.

A Quick Clean Up - From mess to love nest.

 Grab a laundry basket and tuck it by the door of your bedroom (as you come across items that don’t belong in the bedroom, tuck them in the basket).
 Make your bed.
 Put away all clothes (closet, drawers, hamper).
 Gather and toss all trash.
 Put away anything left.
 Put laundry basket just outside your bedroom.

Look around. Your bedroom will be close to neat by now. If you have the time and energy you can dust and vacuum. On your way out, grab the laundry basket and put away non-bedroom items.)

Why can’t the house clean itself? It seems to get dirty by itself!  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you keep your bedroom neat so you and your husband have a nice place to get away.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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I’m an Organizing Junkie: Using Trays to Keep Your Home Beautifully Organized A simple way to corral clutter.

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Gary Thomas: Forsaking All Others He’s number one.

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♥ ♥ ♥ 4 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

I think it’s a healthy thing to be able to ask plainly for what you want and need. This includes asking for sex. However, it can feel less than romantic to always ask for sex in a few straightforward words. A little creativity and finesse can be a good thing.

For the fun of it, pick a household item to signal you are interested in a little bedroom play. Make sure he knows what it means and use it from time to time to signal your desire for physical intimacy.

Signal Your Interest - Time for a little bedroom play!

You could light a candle in front of him and take off your top. Or you could find a small, cute pillow and tuck it on the bed. Make a point of tossing it at him and then pull back the sheets. If he seems uncertain, speak plainly about what you want. After a few times he’ll make the connection.

Another interesting communication tool is Coins in a Bowl.

Keep the fire lit in your marriage and your life will be filled with warmth. Fawn Weaver

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Prayer Prompt  Ask god to help you and your husband be creative and yet plain about your sexual needs.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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(in)courage: Craving Connection Challenge: Week 1 Get a glimpse into their new book. If you considered buying it when I recently reviewed it, here’s another chance to examine it.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Why I’m Chasing My Husband this Valentine’s Day Your spouse matters!

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Be His Friend

February 9, 2017

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♥ ♥ ♥ 5 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

I was reading over the comments from the last giveaway where gals shared about friendship.

I read things like, “My friends are kindhearted, honest, and real. They see the good in me. They give thoughtful gifts and make time for me when I need it. They are a healthy support, will laugh and cry with me, give me godly advice, and pray with/for me. They’re loyal and trustworthy.” (This is a collection of many of the comments all schmunched together.)

When I got done reading them all I thought, “I want to be like that!” Then I got to thinking about my sweetie. He’s my best friend. I want to be like that for him.

Be His Friend

Such an amazing list of characteristics. They express values that are important to me. How do I live those out for my man?

I think I will pick one of the phrases above and figure out how to live that better with my husband. What does trustworthy look like? Do I see the good in him? Prayer? Laughter?

There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate. Linda Grayson

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to teach you how to be a good friend to your husband.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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Life Of Joy: Doing It For Yourself? What’s your motivation? (Do it for him too!)

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Messy Marriage: Get Past the Awkwardness of Praying with Your Spouse A challenge to pray together.

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♥ ♥ ♥ 6 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

WORK VS. EFFORT
(Originally posted February 14, 2014.)

Fawn of Happy Wives Club wrote an excellent post called 3 Easy Ways You Can Strengthen Marriages Around You Every Day (do take the time to read the whole post).

Her second point jumped out at me because I just hate it when people say “marriage is hard work.” (Seriously it really aggravates me.) They make it sound like you’ll be slaving away in a rock quarry for the rest of your life.

Work vs. Effort - Your marriage is worth the “effort” and “investment.”

Intuitively I knew it was a bad way to express it, but I struggled to explain the why. Fawn does this beautifully when she writes:

2. Help them change their thought that marriage is “hard work”.  Most of us are underpaid and underappreciated for the work we do.  When you call marriage “work,” you subconsciously tell yourself you are giving more than you are receiving.  But when you use words like “effort” or “investment,” there is an expectation there will be a reward.  The more effort you put in the more reward you will get out.  The more investment you put it, the larger the dividend that pays out.  By helping your friend change her phrase,“marriage is hard work,” to “marriage takes effort,” you have just changed how she sees her marriage. 

Marriage is an amazing adventure with the love of your life. It’s worth a little “effort” and “investment.”

Kudos to you, Fawn.

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see all you do in your marriage as “effort” and “investment.”

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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howsyourlovelife: 17,828 What are you doing with your days? (3 tissue warning)

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Of the Hearth: 35 Encouragements Every Husband Would Love to Hear I love posts like this because sometimes I’m word challenged. It’s nice to get a little help. Especially good for guys with the “words of affirmation” love language.

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♥ ♥ ♥ 7 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

This weekend Fifty Shades Darker will hit the theaters. It’s the second in a trilogy of erotic movies.

Be Smart About Cause and Effect - Avoid Fifty Shades Darker

Before I talk about the movie, I would like to talk a little about a simple concept. 

Cause and Effect

An action is taken and there is a natural effect or consequence to that action. It happens all the time around us. If you pick up a hot pan you will get burned fingers. If you tickle my 2-year-old grandson you will get giggles, lots and lots of giggles. If you don’t pay your bills on time you will get a poor credit score. You get the idea.

Good and bad. When you do something there will be a natural effect or consequence to your actions.

With that in mind, let’s look at the cause and effect of Fifty Shades Darker.

If you watch the movie your body will get aroused. It’s a physiological thing you can’t control. When you see something sexual your body responds with arousal. The harder question is where will you spend that arousal and are you OK with that?

If you watch the movie you will have exposed your mind and heart to images of sexual acts (and most of them not that healthy). Visual images stick. Once something is seen, it can’t be unseen. Theses images may fade in time, but they can do a lot of damage on the way out.

When you watch a movie, you emotionally experience (to some degree) the experiences of the different characters. The more you identify, the more impact the movie can have on you. It’s an emotional hook, especially if you are a little “relationship hungry.” You can feed your emotional hunger with the emotions you feel while watching the movie. Fifty Shades Darker is about an extremely unhealthy couple having a lot of unhealthy sex. Is that “good food”?

Let’s be smart, gals. The consequences of watching an erotic movie are just not worth it. It may seem to be a fun and relatively harmless thing to do (“All my friends are going!”), but the effect is a pull toward things that are destructive to you and your marriage.

You don’t need to watch erotica to get aroused. You don’t need erotica to feel romanced. You don’t need to watch others have sex to come up with creative ideas or feel sexy. You can find everything you need in the privacy of your bedroom with your husband and your own creativity.

Amazon affiliate link: Pulling Back the ShadesA very good resource:

Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dannah Gresh & Dr. Juli Slattery.

It’s one of the best books around on the subject of erotica. If you don’t need to read it for yourself, read it for your friends and acquaintances (many of whom will have seen the movie). 

Another good resource:

Sex Chat for Christian Wives This resource will go live on Valentine’s Day. Four great marriage bloggers will be discussing godly sexuality. Right now you can subscribe to the podcast or ask a question. I’ll remind you again on Valentine’s Day. I’m looking forward to what they have to say.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.  Proverbs 4:23  NIV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you make wise and marriage-honoring choices.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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Motherly: 7 reasons moms need minimalism Must read article.

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Her View From Home: Sex – What We Aren’t Bringing to the Table Prayer. changes. everything. Including sex.

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Little Adventures

February 6, 2017

in the generous life

♥ ♥ ♥ 8 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

Amazon affiliate link: Craving ConnectionCongratulations Amanda! 

You were the 18th poster in the Craving Connection Giveaway and have won a copy of Craving Connection. (I’ll contact you shortly by email.)

For those who didn’t win, consider buying a copy and invite your friends to a small group study of the book. Or you could snuggle up with hubby to read and discuss (it’s written to women, but many of the concepts would work for men too).

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A couple of my friends opened a coffee shop. Paul and I finally got around to visiting and it was just lovely.

It was homey and comfortable (small groupings of furniture) with great coffee and treats (we had french press coffee and something chocolate). We will likely go again.  :)

There are opportunities like this all around us. It just takes a bit of awareness to see them and then a little intention to follow through.

I recently heard of a new (to me) museum in my area (a date night idea!) and a friend just started selling healthy, natural skin care products (a nice way to make my skin soft for hubby). 

These little adventures add interest to life and opportunity to connect with your husband. Keep your eyes and ears open!

One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.  William Feather

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see opportunities to have fun with your sweetie.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Is It Okay to Sleep Naked? It’s even better than okay — it’s a good idea.

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Beating 50 Percent: Yes, Having A Vision Matters In Your Marriage Go on a vision retreat!

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♥ ♥ ♥ 9 days until Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

It’s the first Sunday of the month and time for a cyber prayer meeting!

Pause right now and ask God to move in all the marriages represented by this blog (add in the marriages of your family and friends as well).

Lord, Hear My Heart - Join together to pray for marriages everywhere.

As you pray, also talk to him about your personal marriage struggles and thank Him for all the good. You may want to pray something similar for the other marriages as most problems are pretty common to all marriages.

If you have any personal prayer requests, feel free to leave them as a comment to this post (please be discreet and kind, as this is a public forum).

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  Philippians 4:6  ESV

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Prayer Prompt Please spend a little time praying for the marriages of family, friends, and generous wives everywhere.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge  Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.

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