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August 21, 2015

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
Have you had that talk with your husband? The one about which things are private and which are not?

Intimacy requires a certain amount of privacy, things you only share with each other.

Take the time to discuss where the line is between public and private. And, honestly, there will likely be some difference of opinion. This is one place where you’ll probably want to give in and honor your spouse’s need for privacy* even if you don’t quite understand it or agree with it.

The sense of intimacy in your marriage is a tender plant and needs to be guarded.

(*I’m not talking about abuse and such. When you have serious problems, the need for help trumps the need for privacy.)

Once you’ve lost your privacy, you realize you’ve lost an extremely valuable thing.  Billy Graham

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and our your spouse set healthy privacy standards.

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(in)courage: Meeting God at the Post Office “Kind words matter. Simple gestures are better than grand flourishes.”

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Unclutterer: Organizing now to save time in the future How organized do you need to be?

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
Yesterday I shared a point about not comparing your marriage to other marriages. In a similar vein, I’d like to encourage you not to buy all of society’s standards. Everything from keeping up with the Jones’ (which generally means stressed finances), to busyness, to personal and marriage goals, and more.

Remember, you are building a marriage and a life that needs to serve you and your husband well. It doesn’t have to (and probably shouldn’t) look like everyone else’s marriage and life.

Spend time in prayer and talking with your man. Dream a bit. Make plans. Live your lives (instead of someone else’s).

The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.   Flora Whittemore

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find life and marriage standards that work for you and your man.

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Ferguson Values: No Respect. No Respect. Typically you get what you give.

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Life Of Joy: Set a Guard Over Your Mouth Watch out for those little birdies!

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This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
I’m a member of The Christian Marriage Bloggers Association. It’s a gathering place for bloggers for friendship, prayer, encouragement, and more.

cmbaloveThis month we have a challenge to promote another marriage blogger. I picked Marriage 4:29 because they are new bloggers and, in looking at my marriage feeds this morning, their post stood out to me.

3 Ways to Stop Comparing Your Marriage

I love their dependence on prayer and common sense approach to life. Do take the time to read the whole article and wander around their site for more goodies.

… and I’m going to add a 4th point to the discussion (see now you have to click on the link to read the other three).   smile

Your marriage shouldn’t look like other marriages. OK, there will be similarities, but you and your husband are different people, in a different season of life, with different callings, and so forth. How you build your marriage should be unique to the two of you. If you compare your marriage to others, you are comparing yourself to the wrong standard. God has something planned especially for you.

When you focus on what God has for you both, then it is easier to see other successful marriages without envy or bitterness. Those other folks are just having a good season in their marriage and you can cheer them on to more success. Having others with healthy marriages is good for you (buddy up) and an encouragement to the world that good marriages do exist and that God’s plan is amazingly sweet!

Comparison is the thief of joy.  Theodore Roosevelt

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you and your husband what he wants for your marriage.

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Of the Hearth: Which Documents to Keep and Which to Toss I love this simple printable. Not only do you trim down your paperwork, but you can more easily find what you need with fewer papers around.

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The Romantic Vineyard: Considering This Question Could Change Your Marriage–What Identifies You? You and your husband are deeply loved by Christ.

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Dream Come True

August 18, 2015

in the generous life

This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
I’m writing this post as a full time RVer. smile  

A few days ago, Paul and I pulled away from our home (that is now rented by friends) and drove off into the sunset. OK, it was really 11 am and we were headed to a nearby RV park.

We stayed there for a couple of days (where a friend helped us put up a new awning) and then spent a couple of days with our son and family (their land has an RV spot). Now we are on the road around Washington to test out our traveling skills.

Just wanted to share with y’all because you have been a part of the journey. Thanks so much for your prayers, support, and encouraging notes and emails.

I also wanted to share because I know many of you (and hubbies) have dreams too.

Dreams are important. They give passion to life. A shared dream can add intimacy to your marriage.

Let my success of reaching a dream be an encouragement to y’all that dreams can come true. Give your dreams a bit of attention. Take another step. Brainstorm with your hubby. Invite your friends to help along the way. Enjoy the adventure.

Cherish your visions and you dreams, as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.  Napoleon Hill

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Prayer Prompt  Thank God for your dreams and ask Him to help you take a few more steps toward them.

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Encourage Your Spouse: 16 Reasons a Date Night is the Best Choice Nice perspectives, great motivation to make time for each other.

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Unveiled Wife: What Is Escapism? And Is It Destroying Your Marriage? Reality keeps rolling along. Face and deal with your problems.

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Make It Positive

August 17, 2015

in the generous life

This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
From The Generous Wife archive:

Tempted to speak a negative? How can you turn it into a kinder more positive connection with your man?

“I hate it when you leave your tools all over the place. You’re driving me nuts!” can become, “Hon, you did a beautiful job! Can I help you finish the clean up?”

“Will you stop with the football games! I’m sick of football.” can become, “At half time would you take a quick walk around the yard with me? I’d love to show you something.” (then sit and enjoy part of the game with him)

It boils down to thinking before you speak. How can you show that you value him and invite him to connect (either in his world or yours). I know sometimes, you just have to talk about what is bothering you and that’s OK (it’s healthy to talk about what you need and want), but, when you can, gently turn your words to bless him and connect with him.

Gentle words, quiet words, are after all the most powerful words. They are more convincing, more compelling, more prevailing.   Washington Gladden

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you put a watch over your words and speak more kindly.

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Of the Hearth: 20 Easy Ways to Flirt with Your Husband Preach it, gal. 

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One Flesh Marriage: 5 Things Marriage Has Taught Me About Myself Yup. Time to grow up.

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Be Present

August 16, 2015

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It’s easy to get busy and move through your days without connecting well with your husband. You rush through breakfast to get out the door to work. You work your way through chores and fall into bed at night. There is helping the kids with homework, phone calls to make, and projects to finish. I get it.

To fight the drift, make room this week for a challenge.

This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
take time to be present with your husband.

 
Set your phone down and share a meal. Invite your husband to make love. Ask him to go for a walk and talk about your day (invite him to share his). Listen to his words or enjoy companionable silence. Be present.

Nothing is worth more than this day.  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you govern your time so you have the time to connect with your husband daily.

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Be Stubborn

August 15, 2015

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When Paul and I first married we had a number of strikes against us. Folks were taking bets on how long we would last (and they used words like “months” and “weeks”).

Well, we survived … and flourished too!

At the heart of that survival was a certain amount of stubbornness. We believed in God and we knew He could help us if we would only hang in there long enough. We did and He did.

Marriages will have their problems, but God has solutions. Hang in there. Pray. Work toward solutions. Don’t give up.

Be stubborn.

Perseverance, secret of all triumphs.   Victor Hugo

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband be really, really stubborn about your marriage.

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The XY Code: Why Work Wins Some thoughts about why men escape to work.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex and Antidepressants Move toward reestablishing yourself as a sensual wife.

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