Pick a day of the month and use the number as a theme for an evening (or afternoon) with your guy. (I suggest you pick a low number, but you can pick a higher number and go all out, if you wish.)

Fill an Evening with Number Fun - Turn on the creativity for date night fun.

Let’s say I pick the “third” day of the month and plan a “three” date. On that day I could:

serve a three course meal
give him three small gifts
invite him for a walk, three times around the block
have a movie night trilogy (with three kinds of snacks)
give him three looong kisses
 challenge him to use $3 to buy gifts for you at a dollar store, you do the same for him
ask him three questions

Fill an evening with numbered expressions of fun.

Creativity is intelligence having fun.  Albert Einstein

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for creative ideas for date night.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Warmhearted Like a Friend Offer small gestures of kindness.

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Love Hope Adventure: You Have Permission to Be Happy Your happiness can make a difference in the world.

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A week ago, I was a crafts judge at a small community fair. I sat at a table and evaluated dozens and dozens (and more dozens) of paper mache creations, bits of woodwork, and painted knickknacks. I will own that I gave out a lot of blue ribbons. Most of these kids put their heart and soul into their work. It was a time to encourage creative effort and give the kids some affirmation.

A Marriage Lesson from the Community Fair - He hasn't outgrown his need for affirmation.

After all the judging was done and all the items displayed for the fair the following day, I watched a mom and son wander through (probably more set up help for the fair). The boy was peeking here and there, furtively looking for his entry. When he found it he absolutely beamed (a blue ribbon). He had the most amazing smile and I saw him stand a little taller.

Our big guys were once little guys and, honestly, I don’t think they’ve outgrown their need for affirmation (any more than we have).

This weekend look for opportunity to brag on your man. Bless him with the “blue ribbon” of your appreciative words.

Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.  Margaret Cousins

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find opportunities to verbally appreciate your man.

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The Romantic Vineyard: 8 Ways To Keep From Draining The Life Out Of Your Marriage Nice list of marriage building ideas.

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THURSDAY THROWBACK – A LITTLE HELP?
(originally posted August  10, 2013

Is there a chore your husband dislikes?

A Little Help? - Make his day easier.

Why not do it for him this weekend?

If it’s too hard to do by yourself, then help him do the chore and hopefully it will get done more quickly with a bit of fun.

Help one another; there’s no time like the present and no present like the time.  James Durst

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you opportunities where you can help your man.

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Of the Hearth: How Humor Benefits Your Marriage Add more humor to your marriage.

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Love and Respect: If You Don’t Know What You Mean, How Will Your Spouse? Make the effort to communicate.

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Tell me the Good

August 17, 2016

in the generous life

Each night before bed, Paul or I will say, “Tell me the good.” Then we take turns talking about all the good things that have happened that day. (We got the idea from The Romantic Vineyard.)

Tell me the Good - a great way to connect each day!

Anyway, it’s a great way to connect and share the good.

Yes, we talk about the stressful things in our life too, but taking the time to share the good things at the end of each day means we finish the day with gratefulness and a sense of being blessed. 

It also makes a big difference in the way I face the following day because I wake up more positive.

Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see the good in your day.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: You’re Not Kissing Enough There are amazing benefits to kissing.

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Life Of Joy: Clean Bedroom Challenge Update You go, girl! One baby step at a time.

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Grieve Well

August 16, 2016

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Awhile back I was talking to a gal who had just lost a parent. She was in a busy season and found she often stuffed her emotions just to function.

The problem is when you stuff difficult emotions (like pain, sadness, or shame), you stuff some good emotions along with them. Your range of emotions gets smaller and smaller and the pain still exists. It just chews you up on the inside (poor sleep, anxiety, numbness, and more).

Grieve Well ♥ Own your emotions & ask God to help you process the loss & pain.

As hard as it is, it’s always a good thing to feel the difficult emotions and process them.

If you are grieving (loss of job, the betrayal of a friend, a dying loved one, etc.), do your best to simplify life and take whatever time you need to grieve. Own your emotions and ask God to help you process the loss, disappoint, fear, and pain.

Let hubby know what’s going on too. It will help him understand your sadness and he might even be a help or some comfort. (You also model the vulnerability of sharing your hard feelings ~ a beautiful kind of intimacy).

I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.  C.S. Lewis

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you face and process the hard emotions.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Enrich Your Marriage and Encourage Others Download a free 20 page workbook for 12 date ideas.

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Becoming His Eve: Talk, Don’t Assume Give your spouse the opportunity to talk and explain.

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I don’t know about y’all, but I struggle with correction. Not the information-correction (like I have the wrong time for a meeting) or the I’m-doing-something-wrong correction (we all need that), but the my-way-is-better-than-your-way correction.

So much of life is about preferences (which are neither right nor wrong). Being told your preference is wrong/lesser and someone else’s preference is right/better just feels icky. Even if that other person has your best interest at heart, even if they think they have a better way … it still feels like disrespect, or you’re the kid and they’re the adult, or they don’t value your individuality as something equal to their own.

Correction Challenge

In marriage, it’s OK to talk about what you’d like to do (even if it’s radically different than what your husband wants), but do please be careful about trying to correct your man and his perspectives. His way of doing things is just as fine as yours. You are both adults and need to navigate your differences (which is a whole ‘nuther post), rather than correcting each others’ differences like there is something wrong.

Challenge: Listen to yourself this week. Do you challenge your husband’s preferences with your own? Do you present your ways as better than his? If you do, apologize and restate your position as an equal preference.

Let’s assume that each person has an equal opportunity, not to become equal, but to become different. To realize whatever unique potential of body, mind and spirit he or she possesses.  John Fischer

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you let your husband be himself, with all his differences.

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The Romantic Vineyard: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Marriage Playing Words With Friends Choose your words carefully.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: The Beatitudes in the Bedroom: The Meek Align your desires with His.

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Holy Home

August 14, 2016

in the generous life

Ask God to make your home holy.

What do I mean by holy?

Holy Home

The dictionary says holy means “dedicated or devoted to the service of God.” It’s setting your home life apart to live it God’s way.

How do we make our homes a place that honors God and His way of doing life? What would that look like practically?

Speak respectful and kind words. Practice hospitality. Meet your spouse’s sexual needs (and ask hubby to meet yours). Help each other find your passions and dreams. Be helpful. Be patient. Take a break to cool off if you argue. Share.

The list will look a little different from household to household, but we can each seek a way of making our home a place of love and ministry that brings glory to God.

In our home let love abide and bless all those who step inside.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt Ask God to show you what it means to make your home a place of love and care for others.

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