When I talk to struggling gals, one of the first questions I ask is, “How’s your self-care?”

This usually results in tears and/or a litany about the busyness of life.

How's Your Self-Care? ♥ Make time for those things that refresh you.

 

And, I guess that’s the point. If we are not careful we fill our days and don’t make time to take care of our ourselves. We get tired and frazzled. We’re not at our best and life slides into exhaustion and chaos.

The answer?

Slow down. Think it through. Make a list of all the must-do’s (put self-care on the list) and begin to say no to everything else for awhile. With a little trial and error, find a good balance between work, play and rest. You really don’t have to do it all. 

Make time for those things that refresh you, that feed your soul.

Self-care is not selfish. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.  Eleanor Brownn

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you make time for yourself.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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DAY BY DAY
(Originally posted March 16, 2014)

Years ago, my husband came up with this simple prompt for praying for your spouse.

Day by Day ♥ A prayer tool.

Sunday – pray for his Spiritual walk 
Monday – pray for his Moods and Mental health 
Tuesday – pray for his Thought life 
Wednesday – pray for his Weaknesses to be healed 
Thursday – pray for his Time usage 
Friday – pray for his Friendships 
Saturday – pray for his Sexuality

It’s a great help as it keeps you praying daily and gives you a bit of direction. Please feel free to use this or modify for your husband’s particular needs.

More things are wrought by prayer than this world dreams of. Alfred Lord Tennyson

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you develop the habit of prayer for your husband.

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Celebrations are a great way to have fun with your husband, family, and friends. Serious or silly, it’s all good.

Today is National Pi Day (the number π (pi) is a mathematical constant, the ratio of a circle’s circumference to its diameter, usually approximated as 3.14159). Because today’s date is March 14th (3.14), it seemed like a good idea to celebrate pi. (Need more holidays to celebrate? Brownie Locks and the 3 Teddy Bears)

National Pi Day ♥ Celebrations are a great way to have fun with your husband, family, and friends.

I encourage y’all to bake a pie (or stop by the store and pick one up) and celebrate pi day with a little pie.

Just for fun (because very few people are really going to complain about pie for dessert).

Keep your fork, there’s pie!  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Thank God for the person who invented pies.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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Make up your bed and lay out three different underwear choices (if you struggle to find three nice sets, it’s time to go shopping).

Invite you husband to pick out a set for you to wear for the day.

His Choice for the Day - You’ll be on his mind all day long.

I guarantee you’ll be on his mind all day.

Life’s too short to wear mediocre underwear.  Author Unknown (but I’m pretty sure she has a happy husband)

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find ways to invite your husband to desire.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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When you think about your husband, do you go to his strengths or his weaknesses first?

Which Way Do You Go? - Train your eyes to see the good.

That question is a little check up on the condition of your heart and marriage.

If your answer was more about the negatives, take the time to list out all his good qualities. The next time you start to head off into negative land, grab your list and intentionally turn your thoughts a new direction.

I’m not saying you should ignore the negative or that you shouldn’t face and address problems. I’m saying having a positive image of your man is a healthy thing to do for your marriage relationship.

Train your eyes to see the good.  Bob Beaudine

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see the good in your man.

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If you listen carefully, from time to time, you will hear your husband wish for something. He’ll mention a book he wants to read or he may talk about a fun time he had camping a few years back.

He might not start his sentence with, “I wish,” but if you listen carefully you can hear wistfulness or desire.

Listen for the Wish - What does he talk about? What does he wish for?

Can you play into those wishes?

Sometimes you can do something immediately (grab him a copy of that book), but other times you may need time to plan and save (a camping trip over Spring break?).

Listen to the tone of his voice. What does he mention in conversation?

Make his wishes come true.

The most fantastic, magical things can happen, and it all starts with a wish.  Jiminy Cricket

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you hear the wishes of his heart.

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I’ve been thinking about date nights.

Getting in a rut is fairly common, as are date nights that play into what one spouse enjoys.

I’ve shared about taking turns planning date nights, but it still tends to run to evenings where one spouse is having more fun than the other.

Divvy Up Your Date Night - Split the choices, double your fun.

As an idea, why not divvy up the date (meal, activity, dessert, etc.) and give each spouse a few choices. That way both spouses get to do something they truly enjoy on any given date.

A couple could go out for dinner (her choice of restaurant) and a movie (he gets to watch the new movie he’s been looking forward to). Or maybe he grills dinner (her dinner choice) and she sets up the badminton net for a game (his activity choice). Afterward they have friends over for games (her choice) for homemade ice cream (his choice).

The options are pretty limitless and both get something they enjoy.

The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.  Flora Whittemore

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband make time for dates.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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