Receipts

April 12, 2014

in the generous life

What do you do with your purchase receipts?

I ask because Paul and I just finished up our taxes (God bless the folks who created Turbo Tax). Each year we get a little better at taming our paper tiger and that, in turn, makes figuring out our taxes easier.

May I suggest putting an envelope in your purse for receipts? You can empty it out occasionally into your financial papers (need to get your papers in order?). Create a folder in your email for online purchase receipts too. It will be a big help when you need to have all your financial ducks in a row for tax time.

It’s a small practical way to help your household.

line

The XY Code: Owner’s Manual Not Included You are unique. Help your hubby out.

line

Bowling With Ed: Advice on Love from The Princess Bride Love that movie. Love this post.

line

Storyline: One Thing That Taught Me How To Be More Present With My Family Stop and look at the dinosaurs.

line

Links may be monetized.
Image courtesy of patpitchaya / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

{ 2 comments }

My husband and I were in the “the city” shopping when we stopped for a bite to eat. As we munched we couldn’t help but overhear a gal at a nearby table venting all over her friend.

The problem? She was upset with her husband’s dreams and she had apparently given him an earful about it.

I really do understand how difficult it is to be married to a dreamer. I’m married to a crazy man myself (I say that in love, really).

But dreams are important to people. They make us who we are. You can learn to live with your dreamer without destroying his dreams.

How you ask?

Start by listening. Affirm the heart attitudes and anything that sounds even remotely sane. (I think it’s great that you want to serve the needy, maybe we could start with the local youth center until we figure out what it would take to move to Mozambique.) Ask questions. What is it he really loves about this dream (there may be a number of different ways to make it come true). Pray for and with him. Help him see his dream through your eyes. Don’t tell him no, ask him to help you make a wise and realistic plan (given who you both are and where you are in life). In doing so you help ground the dreamer (who may not have thought through all the practical stuff).

I think also it’s helpful to your dreamer if he understands that your time and energy are limited. You love him and his dream matters, but it’s his dream. You will help where you reasonably can (and you won’t do anything truly harmful or unwise).

And, do realize, that most dreams fade and are replaced by other dreams as we move through life. Paul and I have dreamed many a dream. Some have faded, some we tried and failed, others we chased and caught.

Let your guy have all the dreams he wants. Let him muddle around in them and feel the heart of them. Hold his hand and walk through the process of making them come true (or perhaps encourage him to dream other dreams when they begin to fade).

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul.   Napoleon Hill

line

Journey to Surrender: Radical Obedience Be obedient to what you know God has called you to be or to do for your husband.

line

Happy Wives Club: The Marriage Tip Only Few People Know (P.S. It Changes Everything) Stick to the original emotion.

line

Fierce Marriage: The “15 Second Kiss” Experiment I like this one.  :)

line

Links may be monetized.
Image credit © Vladimir Nikulin | Dreamstime.com

{ 4 comments }

Wish List

April 10, 2014

in the generous life

Does your husband have a wish list? You know those things he occasionally talks about and wishes you would do (or do more often).

Take care of one of those wishes in the next few days. Bake his favorite dessert (even though it’s a truckload of work). Make love in the light. Go camping with him (just take bug killer).

Spoil him a bit. It’s the generous thing to do.

A dream is a wish your heart makes.  Cinderella

line

The Forgiven Wife: Beautiful? This is one of the best articles I’ve read about body image.

line

Darby Dugger: When a Wife Falsely Accuses Her Husband Refuse to be judge, jury and executioner.

line

Becoming Minimalist: 9 Common Pursuits That Rob Us of Happiness You have everything you need to choose happiness now.

line

Links may be monetized.
Image credit © Migfoto | Dreamstime.com

{ 0 comments }

Paul and I recently facilitated a Financial Peace University course.

I think my favorite thing about it is the difference in the people by the end of the course. They go from white-knuckle scared of their finances to feeling confident. They know at the beginning of each month where every penny will go and they have a financial plan and safeguards in place. They’re smiling and laughing and you see a greater ease between spouses.

Finances are typically a battle ground in most marriages. Why not take this battle out by attending an FPU class. (If you’ve gone through the course before, perhaps take a refresher course or reread the book.) Finances can actually bring couples together!

If you want something you’ve never had, you’ll have to do something you’ve never done.  Dave Ramsey

line

Refine Us: Speak Life Our words have power.

line

Hot, Holy & Humorous: Tips for Confidently Baring It All for Your Hubby How to get over your trepidation and share your body more freely with your husband.

line

The XY Code: Really, You Look Great to Him Believe him when he says you’re beautiful.

line

Links may be monetized.
Image courtesy of Ambro / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

{ 0 comments }

Time for a bedroom check.

Stand back and take in the overall look of your bedroom.

Does your room look peaceful and welcoming?
Do you have laundry to put away?
Do you have any clutter that needs to be removed?
Is there anything you can do to pretty up the room?

Your bedroom is a special room just for the two of you. Stay on top of the little messes so that your room is a place of refreshing and intimacy.

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. Leonardo da Vinci

line

The Romantic Vineyard: Romantic Night Time Picnic Date What a lovely idea! I love a good symphony.

line

The Forgiven Wife: Time for a New Style in your marriage.

line

Are you shopping online this week? Please start on the Shop and Support TGW page. It won’t change your purchase price, but I will receive a small commission.

line

Links may be monetized.
Image credit © Crodenberg | Dreamstime.com

{ 0 comments }

I hear tell that No More Christian Nice Girl (When Just Being Nice – Instead of Good – Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends) can be downloaded for FREE today (Monday, April 7th). It’s co-authored by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler of CWives. I get her Dare of the Month by email and they are always fun and helpful. I’m going to download a copy of the book and tuck it in my to-read folder.

On April 8th-10th, the e-book will be discounted to $1.99, and then $6.99 from April 11th-19th. Regular price is $9.99, so snap it up as soon as you can.

I realize that not everyone is into ebooks (they don’t feel nearly as nice as a real book), but there are often great deals (and who doesn’t want to save a few pennies now and then). If you don’t have a Kindle, you can read them on your phone, tablet or computer using a nifty little app.

We have more choice than ever before about where and how we buy and read books.  Sara Sheridan

line

Love and Respect: Are Love and Respect the Same Thing? His need is different, but equally important.

line

Unveiled Wife: Honest Truth About Communication In Marriage Focus on growing your skills.

line

Becoming His Eve: 20 Ideas to Beat Rainy Day Blues on Date Night Don’t let the weather stall out time with your sweetie.

line

Links may be monetized.
Image courtesy of Amazon.com

{ 1 comment }

Three Needs

April 6, 2014

in the generous life

Today is the first Sunday of the month and time for a cyber prayer meeting.

Just as an exercise, pick three things in your marriage that need prayer. Pray for those things for yourself and for all the other generous wives (there’s a good chance a number of gals are struggling with the same thing).

If you want to share or have a specific prayer request, feel free to leave a comment. Be aware that this is a public forum, so please be discreet and kind.

Our prayers may be awkward. Our attempts may be feeble. But since the power of prayer is in the One who hears it and not in the one who says it, our prayers do make a difference.  Max Lucado

line

Links may be monetized.
Image credit © Smirno | Dreamstime.com

{ 12 comments }