Here’s an idea (especially if your guy has a “receiving gifts” love language) ~ give a weekly gift (perhaps on a theme).

For example:

If your husband loves waffles, declare May to be “Waffle Month” and fix them each Friday night with a different kind of syrup.
If he loves fishing, gift him a different fishing lure each week during fishing season.
If he’s into sports, make goodies and cheer along with him on one game a week for his favorite sport.

The idea is to pick an area of his life that is sweet to him and gift him weekly in that area. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it just calls for a bit of creativity.

May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness, and tied with love. L.O. Baird

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Happy Wives Club: The Fastest Way to Overcome Any Misunderstanding (3 Easy Tips) The start of a series by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott. Good stuff.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Reader Question: How Do You Reset Your Sex Life? Practical wisdom for rebuilding your sex life.

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The Romantic Vineyard: New Tradition: Making Monday A Funday I love the whimsy of this idea.  :)

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Tell the truth.

I know we all see ourselves as basically truthful, but really there are all kinds of ways that error or deceit creep in.

We don’t always get all the facts accurately (sometimes this can’t be helped).
We don’t share all the facts.
We emphasize some facts and down play others.
We don’t share anything at all.
We delay sharing and maybe don’t even get around to it.
We gently color the way we share.
We make the truth sound funny instead of being honest about how serious it is.
We get too busy with other things so we don’t have time to talk.

Please understand I’m not calling any of us pathological liars. We’re just human and who in their right mind enjoys hard subjects and conflict.

The problem is, being truthful is a part of building trust and intimacy. These are pretty significant building blocks in a marriage.

No it won’t always be easy. Be sure to pick a good time for the both of you and speak the truth in love.

So be brave and tell the truth. You can do it.

Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.  Ephesians 4:25  ESV

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Too Darn Happy: Being grateful for unanswered prayers Dealing with the yes, no and not yet of prayer.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy: When Your Body Feels Like Your Enemy Love this perspective. What a lovely encouragement.

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Love and Respect: One Simple Way to Improve Your Marriage Shoulder to shoulder. Be the mature one.

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What is your husband’s love language? (There are five – acts of service, physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, words of affirmation. Don’t know? Have him take the test.)

Plan a few things this week that speak clearly and strongly in his love language.

Love is a verb.  Gary Chapman

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Beginner Beans: Simplifying Home Feeling the Spring cleaning urge? Try this schedule. Nice emphasis on dejunking and simplifying.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy: 30 Fun Ways to Feel Sexy this Spring! Develop a sexier mindset and become more intentional about enjoying sex with your husband.

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I love questions. They open the door to knowing another person and who better to know than your sweetie.

So ask him:

What interesting event have you witnessed?
You have the whole day of with no responsibilities. What will you do?
How many different ways can you kiss? (you can list or demonstrate)   :)
Who is the most courageous person you have ever met?
You look into the mirror and it opens into another world. What does it look like?

Spend time sharing your thoughts as well. It’s a fun thing to do on a lazy Sunday afternoon. (If you don’t like these questions there are plenty more in this free download ~ A Year of Questions for You and Your Spouse)

Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much. Francis Bacon

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Receipts

April 12, 2014

in the generous life

What do you do with your purchase receipts?

I ask because Paul and I just finished up our taxes (God bless the folks who created Turbo Tax). Each year we get a little better at taming our paper tiger and that, in turn, makes figuring out our taxes easier.

May I suggest putting an envelope in your purse for receipts? You can empty it out occasionally into your financial papers (need to get your papers in order?). Create a folder in your email for online purchase receipts too. It will be a big help when you need to have all your financial ducks in a row for tax time.

It’s a small practical way to help your household.

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The XY Code: Owner’s Manual Not Included You are unique. Help your hubby out.

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Bowling With Ed: Advice on Love from The Princess Bride Love that movie. Love this post.

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Storyline: One Thing That Taught Me How To Be More Present With My Family Stop and look at the dinosaurs.

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My husband and I were in the “the city” shopping when we stopped for a bite to eat. As we munched we couldn’t help but overhear a gal at a nearby table venting all over her friend.

The problem? She was upset with her husband’s dreams and she had apparently given him an earful about it.

I really do understand how difficult it is to be married to a dreamer. I’m married to a crazy man myself (I say that in love, really).

But dreams are important to people. They make us who we are. You can learn to live with your dreamer without destroying his dreams.

How you ask?

Start by listening. Affirm the heart attitudes and anything that sounds even remotely sane. (I think it’s great that you want to serve the needy, maybe we could start with the local youth center until we figure out what it would take to move to Mozambique.) Ask questions. What is it he really loves about this dream (there may be a number of different ways to make it come true). Pray for and with him. Help him see his dream through your eyes. Don’t tell him no, ask him to help you make a wise and realistic plan (given who you both are and where you are in life). In doing so you help ground the dreamer (who may not have thought through all the practical stuff).

I think also it’s helpful to your dreamer if he understands that your time and energy are limited. You love him and his dream matters, but it’s his dream. You will help where you reasonably can (and you won’t do anything truly harmful or unwise).

And, do realize, that most dreams fade and are replaced by other dreams as we move through life. Paul and I have dreamed many a dream. Some have faded, some we tried and failed, others we chased and caught.

Let your guy have all the dreams he wants. Let him muddle around in them and feel the heart of them. Hold his hand and walk through the process of making them come true (or perhaps encourage him to dream other dreams when they begin to fade).

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul.   Napoleon Hill

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Journey to Surrender: Radical Obedience Be obedient to what you know God has called you to be or to do for your husband.

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Happy Wives Club: The Marriage Tip Only Few People Know (P.S. It Changes Everything) Stick to the original emotion.

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Fierce Marriage: The “15 Second Kiss” Experiment I like this one.  :)

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Wish List

April 10, 2014

in the generous life

Does your husband have a wish list? You know those things he occasionally talks about and wishes you would do (or do more often).

Take care of one of those wishes in the next few days. Bake his favorite dessert (even though it’s a truckload of work). Make love in the light. Go camping with him (just take bug killer).

Spoil him a bit. It’s the generous thing to do.

A dream is a wish your heart makes.  Cinderella

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