First

March 22, 2015

in the generous life

This Week’s Marriage Challenge:
Every day this week, show preference to your husband.

 
One way to show preference to your husband is to treat him with “firsts.” 

Tell him the good news first.
Hand him a piece of dessert first.
Listen to his point of view first.

By blessing him first, you show him you want to honor him and he is important to you.

Success in marriage is less about doing the big things than it is about doing those little things day after day.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you little ways to honor your husband.

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Paul and I are working toward traveling full time in an RV doing small seminars and meeting folks around the country. We’re asking our readers to Send Us Out with a Cup of Coffee (donations of $2 to $5 dollars). We have received 42% of our $15,000 goal (from 176 donors). Thanks, y’all, for your generous support. You can follow the adventure on The Generous Journey.

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We all have tapes (messages that play over and over) in our head, some good, some bad.

What kinds of tapes do you have in your head about marriage (perhaps specifically about your marriage)? 

Good?

Marriage can be heaven on earth.
My husband loves me.
We’re good together.

Bad?

Marriage is hard work with little pay.
We’ll never get out of debt.
We’ll probably end up divorced.

Team up with your husband and talk through what you believe about your marriage. Work to create some new healthy, encouraging messages. Speak them out to each other … often.

You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you know and speak truth about your marriage.

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We are THAT Family: Why I Share About My Broken Marriage in My Book I like the balance. She experiences both brokenness and healing and they both carry weight in her personal story.

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howsyourlovelife: Be the Change A sweet story showing the power of generosity.

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Go Team Go!

March 20, 2015

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One of the more important parts of marriage is “being on the same team.”

When you get married you become a team. You need to work together like a team and communicate like you are team members.

What that means practically is that you communicate fairly often (in ways that the other can understand) and you have some agreement and common direction. You’re “on the same page,” and you support your common goals as you walk through your day.

No, I didn’t say this was always easy. I’m just saying that it will make your marriage better and stronger. It’s an ongoing process that you build one day at a time for a lifetime. It’s worth the effort.

The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.  Fawn Weaver

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to grow your sense of being a team. Ask for help in communicating and building your dreams.

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Life Your Way: How self-care makes me {and you} a better mom It makes it easier to be a better wife too!

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Review of Ask It by Andy Stanley: Make Decisions in a Whole New Way Great book. Great marriage applications!

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OK, so my husband and I had a bit of a mess because of … assumptions. <sigh>

My husband hands me all his receipts and I handle the bookkeeping end of things.

1) He assumed I knew to keep all receipts having to do with the vehicles.

2) I assumed he knew I only kept (a scanned copy of) receipts that had to do with issues that involve our taxes (I figure the government doesn’t care or need us to prove how much we spend on birthday gifts or toilet paper).

Our car had wheel bearing issues a couple of months ago. We got it fixed. Paul handed me the receipt. Nope, government does not care that we had to fix the car. Enter info in bookkeeping software. Shred receipt. (You can see where this is going, right?)

The back right wheel started up with the nasty grinding sound again. No receipt. We looked (but I knew it was gone).

I have to tell you, it was a tense morning. We both had assumptions that made us feel “right,” but we had a problem to work through and being “right” wasn’t going to fix it. We stayed (relatively) calm, figured out when the work was done (bookkeeping), and talked to the fix-it shop guy (who found the record of work done in his records). It’s under warranty and the car will be on the road again soon.

Later (when I calmed down) we had a talk and worked through a practical fix so it doesn’t happen again.

My take away: Assumptions can cause a lot of misunderstandings (and they show up in the most surprising of places). When that happens, stay calm and look for practical fixes. Don’t shred vehicle care receipts.

Assumptions are the termites of relationships.  Henry Winkler

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Prayer Prompt  Pray for calm and wisdom when you and your husband have misunderstandings.

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The XY Code: Make Your Dreams Known Guys can play rough. Learn how to share your dreams in a way he will hear.

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rebelauthentic: Two Kinds of Power … the power to control myself and the power to control others.

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Get a Life

March 18, 2015

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Are you tired? Stressed? Often?

Sometimes it’s season of life (my son and his wife have a new baby and they are both sleep deprived), but mostly our levels of stress and energy are about the daily choices we make.

I would put stress/busyness/tiredness as a top ranking problem in marriage. You can’t be your best self if you are always tired and stressed. You don’t have the energy to build a healthy relationship (maybe just survive the day?).

That’s no way to live and it makes it extremely difficult to enjoy your sweetie.

What to do? Take the time to evaluate your life so you can get a life.

What responsibilities do you have? How can you simplify? What’s most important? Where are you putting your time and energy? Where do you want to put your time and energy? How many cups of coffee do you really need?

Be intentional about how you spend your time and build the life you want.

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.  Hans Hofmann

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you pick your priorities wisely and build a sane and happy lifestyle.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Marriage & Family: Southern Style You, y’all, and all y’all.

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The Forgiven Wife: Growing in a Time of Stress Love her three helpful habits.

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On most marriage blogs you will read about the importance of date night.

I agree. You need to spend regular couple time with your man, but I also know life has a way of making plans difficult. Finding a babysitter, planning around schedules, pulling together some pennies, and so forth can make date night almost more work than it’s worth.

If you are in one of the more difficult seasons in life, funds are tight, whatever … seriously consider doing your date nights at home. Seriously.

The point behind a date night is to make time for just the two of you. Don’t make yourself miserable over the arrangements. You don’t have to live up to some mysterious date night standard. Find something you both enjoy doing and spend a little time together.

Any home can be a castle when the king and queen are in love.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for creative at-home date ideas.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Encourage Your Spouse To Be Healthy Today Your husband is responsible for his own health, however, … you have influence. Encourage your spouse today!

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Intimacy in Marriage: Sexless Marriage? 10 Questions to Ask Before You Leave Reasoned perspectives on a tough situation.

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Keep Your Word

March 16, 2015

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From The Generous Wife archive:

How good is your word?

Do you do what you say you will do, or do you find excuses for why you did not? Do you fulfill your words in a timely way or does it get done … whenever?

When you don’t follow through, you put a dink in your credibility. Aside from harming your reputation, in the long run it damages the trust in your relationships, especially your marriage relationship.

So keep your word and keep your husband’s trust.

Yes, keeping your word is sometimes difficult, expensive, and inconvenient. But the cost of not doing so is even more expensive.  Michael Hyatt

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you pay attention to what you say and to keep your word.

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Respect Dare: Are You Causing Problems in Your Marriage? Do watch the video and rethink how you approach your husband for change.

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The Little Things We Do: On Choosing My Husband Daily “It is the little things that matter most and add up to true happiness in a marriage.”

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