OK, so my husband and I had a bit of a mess because of … assumptions. <sigh>
My husband hands me all his receipts and I handle the bookkeeping end of things.
1) He assumed I knew to keep all receipts having to do with the vehicles.
2) I assumed he knew I only kept (a scanned copy of) receipts that had to do with issues that involve our taxes (I figure the government doesn’t care or need us to prove how much we spend on birthday gifts or toilet paper).
Our car had wheel bearing issues a couple of months ago. We got it fixed. Paul handed me the receipt. Nope, government does not care that we had to fix the car. Enter info in bookkeeping software. Shred receipt. (You can see where this is going, right?)
The back right wheel started up with the nasty grinding sound again. No receipt. We looked (but I knew it was gone).
I have to tell you, it was a tense morning. We both had assumptions that made us feel “right,” but we had a problem to work through and being “right” wasn’t going to fix it. We stayed (relatively) calm, figured out when the work was done (bookkeeping), and talked to the fix-it shop guy (who found the record of work done in his records). It’s under warranty and the car will be on the road again soon.
Later (when I calmed down) we had a talk and worked through a practical fix so it doesn’t happen again.
My take away: Assumptions can cause a lot of misunderstandings (and they show up in the most surprising of places). When that happens, stay calm and look for practical fixes. Don’t shred vehicle care receipts.
Assumptions are the termites of relationships. Henry Winkler
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