I’d like to share a bit about a good resource and an upcoming opportunity.

Shannon Ethridge is an author and advocate for healthy sexuality and spirituality. Over the years I’ve watched her tackle some of the toughest subjects with grace and insight. Awhile back I reviewed her book The Fantasy Fallacy and her new book The Passion Principles is on my to-read list.

I just found out that Shannon will be doing a Passion Principles Workshop for Women in California (Orange County) on October 10th-12th. If you are in the area, do consider taking advantage of this opportunity.

Passion Principles Workshop for Women
Where YOU can learn to:

Understand the Fluidity of Female Sexuality
Expose the Deeper Meaning Behind Your Own Sexual Thoughts
Overcome your negative body image issues
Find healing for past sexual abuse or promiscuity
Fully Integrate your Sexuality & Spirituality

Whether you’re younger or older, married or single,
The Passion Principles Workshop for Women will help YOU
experience Sexual and Emotional FREEDOM!

To register or find out more, click here.

And, just to make this a bit more interesting, I have a copy of her new book, The Passion Principles, to give away. Please leave a comment to this post about why you would like to read this book. I will pick a random number this Saturday (Sept 27th) and the poster in that spot will win a copy.

Learning is not attained by chance; it must be sought for with ardour and diligence.  Abigail Adams

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you grow in your understanding of your own sexuality.

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Calm.Healthy.Sexy.: 3 Questions That Can Reduce Stress and Increase Calm in Your Life Smart perspectives for building a little sanity into your time use.

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Unveiled Wife: Why Can’t I Spend My Money The Way I Want? Let God use your personal struggles to teach you about oneness.

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From The Generous Wife archive:

Years back my husband bought a box and we dubbed it “the gift box”.

We’d leave little gifts and notes for each other. It was fun to leave something for him and then peek now and then to see if he’d found it yet. Sometimes there would be a gift or note there for me when I went to peek.

You could also just leave gifts for each other on your pillows, keyboards or whatever place you tend to notice. The idea is that people like little gifts and notes. Make room for that in your life. Even if your husband doesn’t do that for you, do it for him (and perhaps he will learn to give gifts by watching you).

May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness, and tied with love.   L.O. Baird

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for creative ideas in gifting your sweetie.

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Lysa TerKeurst: 10 Ways to Graciously Say No When You Feel Pressured to Say Yes An important skill to learn and practice.

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Life of Joy: Communicate Well Love these perspectives on attitudes and timing.

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Make Room for Play

September 23, 2014

in the generous life

A handful of commenters on yesterday’s contest post mentioned how tough it is to make time for a hobby with kids, hubby, work, etc.

Some seasons are just busier than others, but please hang on to those hobbies. They are a special expression of you and add color to your life.

A few thoughts:

Make a date once a week for hobby time (even if it’s just for 10 or 15 minutes).
Reduce the size of your projects (so you can finish projects and be encouraged).
Use your hobby when possible with projects or work related activities.
Mix in your hobby with husband or friends, so you have double duty ~ hobby time and time with others.

It’s good to do a little bit to keep your abilities and interests going. Then when seasons change you haven’t lost much momentum and can add more time and energy.

Play energizes us and enlivens us. It eases our burdens. It renews our natural sense of optimism and opens us up to new possibilities.  Stuart Brown, MD

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find time for personal expression. Pray the same for your sweetie.

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Modern Married: What are you dreaming about? One Question That Will Awesomize Your Marriage. When was the last time you shared your dreams?

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The Forgiven Wife: Are You Naked and Unashamed? Why we restrict our own sexuality.

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I’ve been under the weather of late, so writing has been a bit of a challenge.

I was wandering through the archives (hoping to stumble across a little inspiration) when I ran across a post about hobbies and at the same time realized I hadn’t done a contest/giveaway in awhile.

Rolling those two ideas together with my new hobby Zentangle® ~ I’m sharing a part of the hobbies post here and inviting you to share about your hobbies to enter to win a copy of One Zentangle a Day. (The winner has the option of choosing a book from the Marriage Book Library as an alternative prize). A bit of jumble there, but it’s all fun and someone wins a prize.

… about hobbies.  They can be a remarkable part of your life.  They offer personal fulfillment and recreation and they can offer great couple time, whether you and your husband share the hobby or share with each other about what you are doing with individual hobbies.  It’s all good.  It’s the stuff of which life is made.

If you’re not sure what to do, why not ask all your friends what their hobbies are.  Most folks are happy to teach you what they know so you would have ready made teachers.  It’s also lovely to have folks who know the ropes so that they can help you avoid the ick and enjoy the ah, as some hobbies have a bit of a learning curve.

Please leave your comments about hobbies as a comment to this post. I will pick a random number on September 30th and the poster in that spot will win a copy of One Zentangle a Day (or a book from the Marriage Book Library). 

What are your hobbies?
Which ones do you do with your husband?
Which are just yours?
Any helpful hobby advice?

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you develop a hobby (if you don’t have one) and ask for ways of sharing your hobby with your sweetie (or share his).

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Storyline: Getting Over My Guilt About Not Doing Christian Ministry “He reminded me my life was my ministry, whether it happened inside a church building or not.”

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Becoming Minimalist: 9 Lies that Keep Our Schedules Overwhelmed “Don’t ever get so busy chasing the wrong things that you miss enjoying the right things.”

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His Treasures

September 21, 2014

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

Clean or fix up something that has value to your husband.  Clean his car, mend his favorite jacket or gather all his photos into a photo box or album. 

A caution: Do think through what you do because some fix ups can be more hurtful than helpful.  Fixing up an antique will diminish its value.  You also have to know your husband well enough to know what will bother him or not.

To err on the side of kindness is seldom an error.   Liz Armbruster

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for wisdom and direction when it comes to blessing your husband.

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A Moment to Connect

September 20, 2014

in the generous life

Grab your sweetie and go out for a cup of coffee (or other beverage).

 

It won’t cost much. It won’t take long. Just take a moment to connect and enjoy each other’s company. (If kidlets are an issue, tuck them into bed and enjoy your drink on the patio.) 

Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.  Simone Signoret

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Prayer Prompt Pray for opportunities to connect with your husband.

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Of The Hearth: Caring for Your Family by Purchasing Life Insurance I don’t know anyone who likes talking about this stuff, but it’s so important. Please read and do what it takes to take care of yourself and your family.

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The XY Code: Are Men Emotionally Lazy? Understanding Emotional Intelligence and gender differences.

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Hi, gals, I have a treat for y’all today. Aja Dorsey Jackson (of Making Love in the Microwave) has written a guest post challenging us to be brave and be honest. It’s tough, but it’s true.

One of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 24:26: An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.

I’ve written about this short verse from all different perspectives because it speaks so well to the power of honesty in creating intimacy between two people. As I’ve grown in my marriage, I’ve learned that honesty goes deeper than answering a direct question with the truth vs. a lie; it requires being open and vulnerable in every way, including being honest in your pain.

Some of your biggest arguments likely happen when instead of telling your spouse your true feelings – that some word or action made you feel hurt or left out or insecure – you give into the natural inclination to protect yourself and to strike back. It doesn’t feel normal to encounter what you perceive as an attack and instead of protecting yourself to expose all of your other sore spots. It’s easier to point a finger right back than to say “this hurt me” and to be completely honest about why.

But in order to protect you have to hide, and sometimes deceive. Approaching issues in your marriage wearing protective gear promotes dishonesty, the layer of protection keeping you from getting as close as possible to one another. Instead of laying our vulnerabilities on the table and working toward understanding, we enter into marriage conflicts dressed for battle, and a battle is often what we get in return.

Your challenge is to promote intimacy by being honest with your spouse the next time you’re upset. Be honest with yourself about what it is that is truly making you upset, and share that honest answer with your spouse. Lower your weapon (dishonesty) and have the courage to tell your spouse how you feel without accusation and anger. Trust your spouse enough to be honest with him, and trust God enough to protect your heart so that you don’t build walls in your relationship by trying to do it yourself.

Aja Dorsey Jackson is a mother of two, freelance writer and author of the blog, Making Love in the Microwave, giving practical marriage tips to busy couples. Download her free e-book to build a stronger marriage in 15 days. 

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you share your heart honestly with your husband (without anger and accusation).

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: What’s Your Attitude Towards Sex? Thinking More Positively Take the initiative. Make that mind-shift.

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