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This post may sound a bit psycho-babble, but please hear me out.

Years ago I had a friend who had a rough patch or two in her past. She has good reason to hurt and one day she “felt scared.”

Because she “felt scared” she assumed there was a reason for this fear in her life. So she went looking for whatever it was that was making her feel scared. The problem was there wasn’t really anything in her life that was a problem, but her feelings were real and she couldn’t let it go until she found something scary. She ended up picking something and making it scary, which meant this thing had to be fixed so it wouldn’t be scary anymore.

The sad thing is, she picked her husband.

She nearly destroyed her marriage because she needed something current day to explain why she felt so scared.

I share this because recently something similar happened to me. I realized I was feeling worried, tense, and scared. It went on for several days. Yes, there are things that are not great in my life, but nothing that would explain the level of my feelings. I finally had a sit down with God and said, “Lord, please, you’ve got to help me sort this out.” The upshot of it was that I’m in a period of significant change. In my history that has usually been a bad thing. I was dragging the past into my present. My present is just fine (not perfect, but good).

At this point, I just needed to hang out with God and talk to Him about my past and the lies that I’ve believed because of it. I’m sorting it out and actually doing quite a bit better.

Y’all, learn from this. Are your current feelings accurate for your current situation? How much of your current situation is being affected by past wounds and feelings?

(One of the healthiest things you can do is meet regularly with a friend for prayer and encouragement. It gives you a safe place to talk this stuff out. If you feel stuck or over your head, please seek professional help.)

Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.  Jonatan Mårtensson

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Running Interference

April 23, 2014

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I was trying to write when Widget, my dog, decided it was time to play. He jumped up on the bed, nudged me, “talked at me” (Rhodesian Ridgebacks are very vocal), and dropped his bone next to me (“Come on mom, play with me!”).

Paul saw my dilemma and grabbed the bone and called him to the other room for a little play time. 

Now Widget is peacefully curled up next to me, content and quiet. It was a lovely gift to have my husband run interference for me.

I’m looking for opportunities to do the same for him. Playful dogs, phone calls, and more can interrupt our days. When Paul is busy, I want to be there to run interference for him too.

The average American worker has fifty interruptions a day, of which seventy percent have nothing to do with work.  W. Edwards Deming

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What I’m Reading

January 31, 2014

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♥ ♥ ♥ 14 days until Valentine’s Day ♥ ♥ ♥

I’m always fascinated by other bloggers and their reading lists. It’s a window into their world and I find many a good resource. So, I thought I’d try something like that on the last day of each month.

Awhile back there was a sale on Kindle books and I snapped up several by Andy Andrews. They are relatively short, quick reads.

The Noticer (actually I read this one twice) – This is a sweet story of how a mysterious older gentleman befriends a young Andy and helps him turn his life around. The lessons learned are so poignant, it’s now on my “to read yearly” list.

The Noticer Returns – More great lessons as the mysterious older gentleman continues to help people turn their lives around. Also on my “to read yearly” list.

The Traveler’s Gift is highly motivational. The story centers around a man whose world is crumbling around him. He finds help by meeting various folks throughout history and learning truths from them. If you are feeling stuck it would be a good read.

The Butterfly Effect is an extremely short book that is designed to show you the great impact you can have on the world around you. I personally wouldn’t buy this one if you are buying any of the other books (as much of the material is in his other books).

I also read:

Unglued – I’ve seen this book around (the cover is cute) and when I ran across it at the library, I picked it up. If you are struggling with anger, fear, or any raw hurtful emotion, it’s a book written for you.

Revelation I’ve always been unhappy with  the last book of the Bible. Horses with lion heads and plagues galore. Geesh! To top it off there are multiple opinions as to what it all means! Well, awhile back I ran across Ben Witherington III (UK prof) and I really like his books. He writes college level so it’s a slow read, but I’m very impressed with his research and perspectives. I’m finally making peace with Revelation.

Jesus > Religion – Jeff Bethke created a video that went viral. This book expounds on his beliefs. He’s hard on religion, but he understands real grace and has an amazing handle of being the church, loving each other and reaching out to a world that needs Jesus. I tend to fall into the performance trap and this book was very helpful to me.

I’m a part of a group that is reading and discussing this book:

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality – I can’t recommend this book enough. It’s deeply challenging, but what a life changer. (my review)

To go along with that book I’m reading this book (it ties in very nicely):

Changes That Heal is written by Henry Cloud (of Boundaries fame). He talks you through the necessary steps of healing and maturing. Amazing read.

What are y’all reading? I’d love to hear. Please feel free to share in the comments.

The worth of a book is to be measured by what you can carry away from it.   James Bryce

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