Criticism is hurtful and hard to live with. We don’t want to go there with our husbands, but how do you talk about what’s bothering you without sounding like a shrew?
Here are a few ideas:
♥ Look at your body language. Do you look tight and angry? Before you speak up, loosen up. Roll your shoulders a bit. Smile. Take a moment to relax and gather your thoughts.
♥ Watch your tone of voice. Stay calm and friendly-sounding. Start your conversation with kind or thoughtful words.
♥ Aim your concerns toward behavior and circumstance, not toward him personally. It’s a whole lot easier to hear, “hon, the mess in the garage is getting to me,” than, “you’re such a jerk!”
♥ Invite him to be a team player in solving the problem. Be willing to brainstorm and help. “Is there a good weekend this month? I’m willing to help out.”
Criticism is personal and tears down your spouse’s sense of self worth. It’s generally a litany of all they have done wrong.
Instead take the time to get yourself in a good place and speak graciously about what is bothering you.
Be an encourager. The world has enough critics already. Author Unknown
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you have gracious speak, especially when faced with a problem.
This Month’s Marriage Challenge ♥ Bless your husband with small acts of kindness and generosity.
Holley Gerth: When It Looks Like It’s Over An excerpt from Holley’s new book. Sweet, sweet message.
Kathi Lipp: What to Do When Your Husband is Overwhelmed Nice selection of ideas for those times when your husband is struggling.