When I was a kid, family members were known to say, “You are so stubborn.”
Now, honestly, I’m not sure I was really being stubborn (family dynamics were not the healthiest), but it was a name, a label. What they said was about me, not about something I was doing in that moment. It labeled me a “bad” or “not acceptable.” It would have been so much kinder (and more truthful) to say I was acting a bit stubborn and talk to me about the “why.”
Names and labels can hurt. They also tend to stick and become a part of how we see ourselves and how people continue to talk about us.
That said, please be careful about how you address problems with your husband. He’s a sweetie. He may have issues with his behavior from time to time. Keep the two separate and also let him know he is loved and wanted. Behaviors can change.
Watch the nick names too. (Funny can be funny, but it can also be hurtful.)
Words can inspire. And words can destroy. Choose yours well. Robin Sharma
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you use words to build up your sweetie.
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