You have a sex drive.
Yes, really you do. You may be aware of it or you may have buried it. You may like it, love it or hate it.
Years ago I hated mine and buried it the best I could. God was understanding, but not terribly impressed and set about to convince me that it was “very good” and that I needed to let Him heal the hurts and teach me about sex.
Well, I wasn’t terribly impressed with that, but saying no to God doesn’t work too well, so off on an adventure I went.
I think the concept that has helped me most over time is that we are stewards over our lives, our bodies, our relationships, etc. We’re supposed to take care of ourselves and others and that’s a serious responsibility.
I didn’t choose to be abused sexually as a kid, but it was my responsibility to deal with the fallout as I became an adult. It was my responsibility to choose what I believed, what I exposed myself to in books, movies, etc., and how I chose to deal with my sexuality and my marriage relationship.
So, yeah, ouch. I realized that much of what I believed and how I was acting was at odds with His Word. That was the first step for me, admitting that I needed to let God help me own my sexuality and the truth about my sexuality. At first it was pretty overwhelming and there were days when I was in so much emotional pain I thought (maybe even wished) I would die. I had enough history with God to know that if you hang in there long enough, He comes through, heals, and helps you through the process of learning and growing up. So I cried through the pain, prayed for courage and wisdom, and day by day walked toward sexual health.
There was a time when it became easier and a time when it became joyful. I’ll be honest and say there are still times that I struggle, but they are few and far between. It has been worth the pain and struggle … because it was the right thing to do and because it is a good gift from God.
your sexuality, you are missing out on something
wonderful that God desires for you to experience.
When you ignore, bury, or generally down play your sexuality, you are missing out on something wonderful that God desires for you to experience. It is His good gift to you. You’re also missing out on the pleasure, intimacy and joy of sex with your sweetie.
So God created man in his own image … male and female he created them … And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply …” And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. portions of Genesis 1:27-32 ESV
(I’ll be sharing more thoughts about sexuality over the next few days.)
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to teach you about your sex drive and how He designed you to work sexually.
Do Not Disturb: Intentional Sex? Great list of reasons to plan for sex.
Jon Acuff: 2 reasons you shouldn’t compare yourself to other people. and Inspiration vs. Comparison I love his perspectives. Try this one on for your life and your marriage.