Sow Generously in Your Marriage Bed

November 28, 2014

in the generous life

I have two treats for you today.  :)

I have a guest post from J. Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous and I have a giveaway of her new devotional, Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in MarriageHere’s her post. Giveaway info at the bottom.

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intimacyrevealedI love the goal of Lori’s blog, focusing on being generous. Too often, we approach our marriage with a what must I do? attitude. We look for simple solutions or shortcuts to having a holy and happy marriage, when what’s really needed is a commitment to go above and beyond.

This is often true in the marriage bed as well.

An overriding premise of my new devotional book, Intimacy Revealed, is that the Word of God can permeate every aspect of our lives, including the marital bedroom. While I can’t think of any Bible verses that specifically command “Be generous with sexual love to your husband,” this principle of generosity runs throughout Scripture.

Take a look at the following devotional and see what you can gain even from scriptures we don’t normally associate with marriage or marital intimacy.

Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. 2 Corinthians 9:6

Oftentimes when we look at the state of sexual intimacy in our marriage, we attend to what our husband has sown. How well has he met our emotional, relational, and sexual needs? We’re sure everything would be so much better if only he would make some changes, sow something different. Then you both could reap a better harvest for your marriage.

Yes, our husbands should take note of this scripture and sow generously into marriage, but we have to take to heart this verse for ourselves. The Bible is talking to the person reading it—you. So how generous are you in our marriage? In your marital bedroom? Are you reaping just about what you’ve sown?

Perhaps the change needs to start with you—with figuring out how to sow more generously into your husband, your marriage, your marriage bed. By stepping out and sowing more generously, you could inspire something better for you both and for your intimacy.

Questions

What have you and your husband sown into your marriage bed?
Have you been generous or stingy with sexual intimacy?
How can you sow more generously into your husband, your relationship, your marriage bed?
What steps could you take to be more generous with sexual intimacy?

Prayer

Holy God, You sow generously into our lives every single day, saturating us with love and grace. I want to sow generously into my relationships with You and with my husband. Help me to see where I’ve been stingy, withholding good from my husband and from my marriage bed. Give me the courage and the commitment to invest deeply in our sexual intimacy. And grant us a harvest of intimacy that honors You in every way. In the name of Your Son, Amen.

As you read in your Bible, ask how a passage applies to various areas of your life, including your marriage and sexual intimacy. And for more devotionals to nurture your sexual intimacy, check out Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage.

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J, thanks so much for your guest post. We all need to be challenged to be more generous.

If y’all want a chance at receiving a copy of J’s new devotional, please leave a comment to this post and share “what you love most about the holidays.” I will pick a random number on Monday, December 1st and the poster on that spot will win a copy of Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage.

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you how to be more generous – in and out of the bedroom.

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The Forgiven Wife: What Were You Taught About Sex? Oh, wow. I love this post. It would be especially good for those who need to sort out bad sexual messages.

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The Art of Simple: The art of keeping a journal Why not start a husband/wife journal?

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Heather November 28, 2014 at 2:35 am

My favorite part of the holidays is spending time with family! We have a new little one in the house this year and my two year old is just beginning to learn about Christmas, so I’m excited to spend time teaching her about love and giving, and cuddling up to the little one! Quiet mornings with Christmas lights and cuddles with my husband are a treat as well! :)

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Heather Ratliff November 28, 2014 at 4:54 am

I love being together with family during the holidays. Even though we all live in the same town, my family and my sister camp out at my parents’ house for the holiday weekend to enjoy the evenings together.

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Juliet November 28, 2014 at 5:08 am

The holidays is a perfect time to enjoy with my family but more so i get more time with my hubby n get to try new things be it recipes or games or sex styles plus more sexx…what’s not to love!!

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Steven Evans November 28, 2014 at 5:29 am

This would make a great Christmas present for my Janet.

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Whitney @ Come Home For Comfort November 28, 2014 at 5:45 am

I love decorating my home for Christmas! Thanks for the giveaway. :)

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Emily November 28, 2014 at 5:48 am

I can’t pick just one thing that I love most about the holidays it’s so much- reading about the Christmas story, being with family, decorating cookies, seeing all the lights, the music, watching Christmas movies with friends & hot chocolate, snow.. an endless list really. I love it all!

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Toni November 28, 2014 at 5:52 am

Thank you for this! Those are good questions that hopefully we will answer soon.
I love the idea of keeping a husband/wife journal! I used to journal a lot but stopped over a year ago. A lot of things have changed since I’ve journaled last. I haven’t journaled the new found dreams from over the past year and the changes that have taken place so keeping a husband/wife journal is a great idea!
Song of Songs/Solomon is a good bible study I feel is good for a husband and wife. And maybe sharing this scripture (if fell lead to)with your spouse will get their attention from Prov 5:18-19 “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wide of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

I love being together with those you love. Gifts are great and wonderful, it’s the time with those that mean the most is the best gift and can’t be replaced.

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Stacy November 28, 2014 at 5:59 am

Thanks for the chance of winning! I love decorating with my family and experiencing Christmas through the eyes of my children. So very special!

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Mama Rachael November 28, 2014 at 6:50 am

I want a copy of J’s book!

I love the family. I love the chance to feast and celebrate. To celebrate by giving Thanks, to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. Yep, good times.

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April November 28, 2014 at 7:11 am

I love adding something new to my decorations each year!

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Rachel S. November 28, 2014 at 7:28 am

I love the family time. They days my man takes off from work and spends with us not working just being :)

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Jeff November 28, 2014 at 7:58 am

I would!d love to give my bride a copy for Christmas.

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Susan K November 28, 2014 at 10:08 am

I love Christmas! … the family time, the lights.

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Joy Keys November 28, 2014 at 10:34 am

My favorite part of the holidays would be spending time at home with the kids on winter break. I love relaxing and having some good laughs together. Memories are made when families spend down time together. My oldest is off to college next year and I really look forward to this year and our down holidays that we can share.

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J. Parker (@HotHolyHumorous) November 28, 2014 at 10:46 am

Thanks so much for inviting me here, Lori! I love getting to spend time with your readers. Many blessing to everyone who leaves a comment. May God bless your marriages with intimacy in all areas!

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Lori - The Generous Wife November 28, 2014 at 11:23 am

Thank you so much for being generous and sharing your time and talents with us.

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J. Parker (@HotHolyHumorous) November 29, 2014 at 9:56 am

Oh, I just realized that it would be nice to share my own answer to “what you love most about the holidays.” (Sadly, I’m one of those bah-humbug people until about a couple of weeks before Christmas. I know, I know…I’m trying. It’s just a LOT of hullabaloo for one day! ;) )

But what I love most about the holidays may well be my church’s candlelight service, standing there with my own family and my extended family of church friends and worshiping God’s amazing gift of His Son to shed light and bring salvation to us. And we always sing “O Holy Night” — my favorite Christmas hymn. I’m getting shivers now just remembering the beauty of that moment.

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Alisha Bilderback November 28, 2014 at 10:49 am

I like the food: treats, appetizers, etc!

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Ashley November 28, 2014 at 10:50 am

What I love most about the holidays is who I get to spend them with. It’s just me and my husband since we have no kiddos. This allows the holidays to definitely be more intimate, which we’re both happy about, but I’m sure that’s the part he enjoys the most. It just makes me happy to be able to see all the different ways I can make him happy during the holiday seasons :) plus it gives us more excuses to “celebrate” during those times too ;)

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Amy S. November 28, 2014 at 10:56 am

My favorite part of the holidays is all the wonderful cooking and just being together as a family!

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Steve November 28, 2014 at 12:36 pm

Family, Friends, Food. That about covers it!

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Kenny G November 28, 2014 at 12:43 pm

I love the extra time I have with my family and most importantly with my queen. This would be a great gift for her.

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Lauren Johnson November 28, 2014 at 1:01 pm

Watching my kids open their presents!

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Christa November 28, 2014 at 1:05 pm

The last few years have been rough for us as a family and it seems that we hit a crisis right at the start of the holidays which tainted and broke our holiday spirit (3x retrenchments, an acoustic neroma diagnosis, depression) – but this year I look forward (in faith) to peace and harmony and lots of real loving family time…

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James Flikkema November 28, 2014 at 1:10 pm

I love eating the delicious spreads at get togethers, celebrating the birth of Christ, eating, getting together with family and friends, eating, decorating, eating, singing the songs and watching the movies of the season. Did I mention eating?

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Diane November 28, 2014 at 2:01 pm

I love having my adult children home for the holidays. Having family together is a very special thing.

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Jamie November 28, 2014 at 7:08 pm

My favorite thing about the holidays is picking out our Christmas tree every year. My husband and I have gone to the same Christmas tree farm every year since we’ve been married and now we love taking our three kids and seeing how excited they get about finding the perfect tree!

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Anita November 28, 2014 at 9:09 pm

I love road trips – radio off and laughing with the kids.

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bp November 28, 2014 at 9:34 pm

I love the traditions we enjoy during the holidays and look forward to these each year.

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Kelly November 29, 2014 at 1:25 am

One of the many things I love about Christmas is watching my children grow and grasp the meaning of why we celebrate Christmas. Being able to spend the extra time with my husband planning cooking surprising our children brings a special bond. Christmas morning my husband and I make a super special breakfast while all eight children laugh giggle and make memories upstairs in anticipation of what’ s to come. This is the first year where we only have 4 children home. Life is changing but I will still be praising Jesus and cooking with my love.

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Denise November 29, 2014 at 4:58 am

I love spending time with family. This Christmas will be a little more special for us, it’s our granddaughters first Christmas.

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Barb November 29, 2014 at 7:08 am

Thank you for this opportunity, ladies! My favorite thing about the holiday season is having my adult children come home more often. I enjoy the time, time, time with all of us together. Guess what my love language is! ;-)

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Amy November 29, 2014 at 9:05 am

What I love most about the holidays is the chance to do lots together with our family. A break from school and a few days off work means we can take more walks together, play more games, spend lazy pj days watching movies and cuddling on the couch, laugh more over longer meals, and spend more time reading together. I love my family – my husband and our two kids – and I am so blessed to share life with them.

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Darcy November 29, 2014 at 1:58 pm

My favorite part of the holidays is the extra time spent with family.

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Teresa R November 29, 2014 at 6:29 pm

My favorite part of the holidays is all the colorful Christmas lights; and seeing them through the eyes of a child

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HisWifeForLife November 29, 2014 at 9:48 pm

Seeing our DD and our grandsons (aged 4 and 3) who live 600km (about 375 miles away) in the same room as my brother and his family and my mum (who also lives a long distance from us and only sees my brother once or twice a year)!

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Carole November 30, 2014 at 10:36 am

My favorite thing about the holidays is spending time with my family. My children are older and busy so my husband & I really enjoy having them home more.

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Melanie November 30, 2014 at 9:57 pm

The thing about the holidays is being able to spend time with my husband without his having to worry about the next day or two days. As a school teacher and church elder and pathfinder director, it is nice to spend time with him. Not having to worry about everything else. A time to relax and refresh and to have alone time.

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Corine E November 30, 2014 at 10:08 pm

Thank you for this post. This is one of the many areas that I am working on changing. I have not been a good bed partner for my husband and I am trying to change that with the Lord’s help and reading posts and blogs like this. I have a lot of personal fears and roadblocks I’m trying to get past to show my husband how much I love and appreciate him. His love language is touch also so I really need to step up my game :-). What I’m looking forward to this holiday is our Christmas morning with just my husband, our 4yr old son and our baby who is currently 4 1/2 months. What precious memories will be made

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