Seth Godin’s recent post, Cat food is for people, has really stuck with me. His basic premise is that a lot of giving is more about the giver and how they feel about themselves when they give the gift (rather than if the person really wants the gift).
In thinking about gifts for your husband, do you give him books that you want him to read? Do you buy him clothing that suits your taste? Do you give him items that he “should” like? Do you invite him to go places and do things in celebration that you like (or make you look or feel good)?
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t take into consideration our wants and likes or that we shouldn’t give people things we like and enjoy giving. I’m just saying that when it comes to gifts, it’s not a bad idea to consider what the other person really wants. It doesn’t have to make good sense to you. It doesn’t have to be something you like. It’s supposed to be something they would like and enjoy. That’s why it’s a gift for them.
Next time you are buying or making a gift for your sweetie, do a check. Is this about him and what he wants?
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