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May 10, 2014

in the generous life

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. Just a few thoughts for those of you who will be on the receiving end of that celebration.

One of the kindest things you can do is receive with joy and warmth whatever people do and say to express their love. They are offering you their heart in the best way they know how.

People speak different love languages, have different life experience and generally hear through a filter of their own unique understanding. What people offer you as an expression of love will reflect that mishmash of personal design, experience and understanding. Be careful not to judge that as “bad,” “stupid” or “worthless,” but rather “genuine,” “precious” and (their kind of) “thoughtful.”

If you’re faced with a unique gift or situation, just respond with a smile, a hug and a “thank you.”

Gracious acceptance is an art … Accepting another person’s gift is allowing him to express his feelings for you.  Alexander McCall Smith

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christina May 10, 2014 at 6:08 am

i love u Lori n i love all tht u share. Thanks :)

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Mama Rachael May 10, 2014 at 8:16 am

I had to share on facebook…. “If you’re faced with a unique gift or situation, just respond with a smile, a hug and a “thank you.”” Beautiful.

#notbeingdisappointedonmothersday

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Karen May 10, 2014 at 9:58 am

Thank you. I have the hardest time being gracious on Mother’s Day. It the one day a year that I would really really like attention to be placed purposely on me. My kids are too young to understand what Mother’s Day is (3 kids under 5yo), and my husband doesn’t get what the big deal is. So, try as I might, I always end up disappointed because nothing was planned and nothing was done. I need to learn to graciously accept the gift of the words “Happy Mother’s Day!” because they are the only gift I receive, and they could mean the world!

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Rosemary May 10, 2014 at 11:07 am

Since Mother’s Day is tomorrow, this may be too late, but it’s something to think about for next year (or any time in between when you suspect you are going to be disappointed). Consider planning something for yourself. Pick a restaurant where you would like to have brunch and make a reservation. Or make a picnic lunch (yes, I know, that means you are doing the work – but that’s okay) and take the family to the park. Or buy yourself some flowers and a balloon. Or make breakfast, put it on a tray, and eat it in bed. Whatever you choose to do, gather your family around you and tell them how happy you are to be spending the day with them. Tell them that Mother’s Day is special for you because it reminds you of how lucky you are to have so much love in your life, and how much you enjoy spending time with them all year long. (Tell yourself those same things.) Consciously relax and be gracious all day. It will make a difference.

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Lori - The Generous Wife May 10, 2014 at 10:14 am

I think one of the most challenging things that I’ve learned in marriage and life is that other people are not like me. They have different values and communicate them differently. It can make for some painful moments in relationships until you make the effort to see things through their eyes and try to learn their language.

I do ask for what I need and want, but that’s tempered by the understanding that to others I have different values and speak a different language as well. They’re learning too.

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