One thing I commonly hear from guys is how absolutely blessed they are when their wives initiate lovemaking.
I try to remind wives to do that more often. I do understand it can be uncomfortable. It can feel awkward or scary and most of us don’t have a lot of practice doing it.
Bottom line ~ practice is the only way you get better at something and the better you get at it, the easier and more fun it gets.
If your husband routinely enjoys sex with you, asking him to have sex is going to be a delight for him. If your husband struggles with sex (for whatever reason), you may want to have a couple of conversations about it and discuss what are the best ways for you to ask for sex. Never be afraid to get professional help (have a doctor check out his health, talk to a counselor, etc.).
Be considerate about when you ask for sex. Is he extremely tired or hungry? Is he really short on time or inconvenienced by it in some way? (I know some men enjoy a quickie, just be sure he can get to work on time.)
Use simple words. Try, “Is this a good time for a little lovemaking?” Or you could leave a note in his lunchbag asking him to “meet you in the bedroom at 9pm for a little bedroom fun.” Hints or obscure ways of communicating are usually not a good choice.
You could also use an item or action as a signal that you are interested in sex. I’ve seen pillows with the word “Tonight!” on them. Everyday items work too, depending on where you put them (just make sure he understands the gesture, perhaps leave a note with it the first time or two).
Start simple and be very clear about what you want. Now go put a smile on your man’s face.
Love is the greatest gift when given. It is the highest honor when received. Fawn Weaver
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