Don’t Hide the Bad

March 3, 2014

in the generous life

Most of us put a lot of effort into being good, looking good, and doing good. And while, that is admirable in one sense (yes, we want to do good, not bad), I think it can be something of a trap.

If that is all we show to others and acknowledge to ourselves, we may have a hard time facing our own personal brokenness (we will fail, act badly, etc.) and so we hide, we deny our need for help, we blame others, and so forth.

To complicate matters further, we expect our husbands to be good, to look good, and to do good. Something they can’t do perfectly either.

If we rightly understand who we are and why we need Jesus, we can acknowledge our needs and receive help and grace. If we rightly understand who our husband is and why he needs Jesus too, we can walk with him in understanding and grace.

I know it hurts to admit to something that is not pretty or nice, but the only way things get better is if we open up to God (and sometimes others) to face and deal with our messes. We are all both broken (still fighting our sin nature in a fallen world) and magnificent (made in the image of God, sweetly redeemed and growing to be more like Jesus). It’s OK to be honest about the reality of who we are and the struggles we face. 

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.  Hebrews 4:16 ESV


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LaCharla March 3, 2014 at 9:50 am

Beautifully said! We forget sometimes that He’s not waiting to condemn us. I think this is especially true for those who struggle with perfectionism, since we never meet our own standards.

Thank you for this clear, simple reminder of the overwhelming grace of our Savior!


Kath March 3, 2014 at 2:28 pm

Such inspiring words…
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