♥ ♥ ♥ WooHoo! Today is Valentine’s Day ♥ ♥ ♥
Romance your man!
Fawn of Happy Wives Club wrote an excellent post called 3 Easy Ways You Can Strengthen Marriages Around You Every Day (do take the time to read the whole post).
Her second point jumped out at me because I just hate it when people say “marriage is hard work.” (Seriously it really aggravates me.) They make it sound like you’ll be slaving away in a rock quarry for the rest of your life.
Intuitively I knew it was a bad way to express it but I struggled to explain the why. Fawn does this beautifully when she writes:
2. Help them change their thought that marriage is “hard work”. Most of us are underpaid and underappreciated for the work we do. When you call marriage “work,” you subconsciously tell yourself you are giving more than you are receiving. But when you use words like “effort” or “investment,” there is an expectation there will be a reward. The more effort you put in the more reward you will get out. The more investment you put it, the larger the dividend that pays out. By helping your friend change her phrase,“marriage is hard work,” to “marriage takes effort,” you have just changed how she sees her marriage.
Kudos to you, Fawn.
If you want to read more by Fawn, check out her new book Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage.
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