How’s It Going?

January 22, 2014

in the generous life

For those of you who made marriage goals for the new year … how’s it going? (If you’ve fallen off the wagon, no sweat. Just pick yourself up and start again. Perhaps create some reminders to keep you on track. I use sticky notes on my computer.)

My word is “gracious” and my one thing to work on is to “ask for what I want and need specifically.” I hint too much and that’s not really kind (or mature, for that matter).

I think I’m doing fairly well with the asking. The “gracious” thing is truly a learning experience. I’m watching my tone of voice. I’ve apologized a few times. I’m more present in conversations. I’m considering my husband’s perspectives more seriously. Graciousness touches all areas of life. The concept is getting bigger for me, so I may need to slow down and pick one or two things to work on.

Oh, and, don’t’ forget to show your man a little love today. It’s National Love Your Husband Day! (thanks, Connie for reminding me).

Practice is the hardest part of learning, and training is the essence of transformation.  Ann Voskamp


Do Not Disturb: 5 Ways to Sustain Sexual Freedom in Marriage: #5 Create Opportunities Loved this story. Great ideas for making physical intimacy memorable.


Marriage Life: Do We Treat Strangers Better? Just a little reminder to treat your husband with kindness and grace.


Storyline: How Competition Made Me Less Successful Encourage every one to cross the finish line. I think it has interesting applications for marriages and communities of believers.


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Whitney @ Come Home For Comfort January 22, 2014 at 9:23 am

Thanks for the check-up! Our goal was to have date night once a week. It has been amazing to see how excited my husband has gotten about this goal! We’ve had at least one date night a week, with several other intentional times together during the week. I can’t wait for the rest of the year!


Chris January 22, 2014 at 9:52 am

In addition to continuing with some efforts I’ve already been making in my marriage, I had two marriage goals for this year:

…Spend more time supporting my husband’s relationship with God.
…Work on becoming more comfortable and confident in the bedroom.

So far, we’re off to a great start. In fact, I am already seeing some growth in our marriage in both these areas. I have a history of giving up, and it’s nice to see reminders that I’m becoming more successful in tackling that as well.


Lori - The Generous Wife January 22, 2014 at 6:06 pm

Good for y’all! Great reasonable and do-able goals.


Sea Monkey Mama January 22, 2014 at 8:26 pm

I’ve chosen to focus on thankfulness this year — anytime I find myself waiting or without distraction, I begin saying thank you for specific things about my husband and other aspects in my life. My attitude as a whole has improved dramatically, and I am finding it easier to be gracious toward my husband (and others) as well.

Thanks for the check up and continual encouragement!


Olivia January 28, 2014 at 8:37 pm

Hey Ladies, just writing in to ask if you could please pray for my in-laws. They’re at a cross roads in their marriage. Both have been so hurt by each other and there is talk of divorce. They’re already emotionally divorced. They don’t even sleep in the same bed together anymore. This pains my heart to see. I know that even so, God is still so much bigger, I believe he can heal their broken hearts and their marriage, and turn this all around for his glory. Your prayers would be so appreciated.


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