An Analogy and a Contest

January 2, 2014

in the generous life

I’m a natural organizer. However, there is one place in the house that is always a challenge for me ~ my nightstand.

If I don’t routinely work with it, it becomes a mess (a mound of books, tea cups and odds ‘n’ ends). There are other parts of the house that stay clean and orderly (though occasionally a bit dusty because they are not used as often).

Between the two areas, I think I prefer my nightstand. Yes, I love the neat and clean areas, but the challenging clutter of my nightstand is a truer reflection of my life. It’s where ideas and moments of reflection come together. It’s dreaming and planning. It’s notes and prayers.

As I mull over that image I start thinking about marriage (occupational hazard). It too lives on the edge of messy and to keep it from becoming a big mess you need to stay intentional. Stay aware of the different areas and needs in your marriage and keep them cared for.

Sometimes I just list every area of my marriage – emotional, relational, spiritual, sexual, intellectual, etc. – and do a bit of journaling and brainstorming. It helps me see where things are getting too messy or where they are getting a little “dusty.”

Time for a contest …

Please share your “new year’s thoughts, resolutions, words or goals” as a comment to this post. Let’s share our ideas and be inspired and encouraged by them. On January the 16th I’ll pick a number and the poster on that spot will win a paperback copy of 31 Days to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire. (Sheila has a number of other great books as well. Check them out here.)

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.  Lao-tzu


Intimacy in Marriage: One Thing That Can Radically Improve Sex I don’t think I can say “AMEN!” any louder.


Becoming Minimalist: 11 Resolutions For a Better You—Proven by Science I know when I do these things I feel a sense of calm and balance.


For Better – Or What?: A New Day, A New Life A wonderful list of ways to create positive moments in your marriage.


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{ 21 comments… read them below or add one }

MJK January 5, 2014 at 8:13 pm

My one word is “love”. I want to concentrate on showing love to my enemies or people who do not like me. It’s easy to love people who love you, but it’s a whole different thing to love your enemies.


Amy Field January 8, 2014 at 4:13 pm

My New Year’s Resolution is to spend more time in the bedroom with my hubby and to not say “no” unless I have a really good reason. Needless to say he’s very happy about this!


Vanessa Blaney January 11, 2014 at 1:03 pm

My new years resolution is to keep hold to the commitments that I make to my husband so that we can build a deeper bond of trust and respect :)


Jennifer January 13, 2014 at 10:04 am

My word for this year is Choice. I have the power to choose joy, to choose how to react to my circumstances, to choose what to do with my time and talents.


Lisa January 14, 2014 at 1:43 am

My husband and I are committing to doing Bible study and Scripture memory together. We’re learning Philippians 2:3-4 for the study we’re doing now.


Jacinda January 14, 2014 at 4:10 am

Didn’t have much time to think… Mother of 4 which 3 are healthy growing boys.. My husband and I enjoy reading GW and GH some days we just throw our heads and laugh and say someday… A goal to increase thoughtfulness, kindness, a helping attitude and taking every little opportunity to spread the Good News.


Betsy January 14, 2014 at 5:26 am

My resolution for this year is selflessness. To focus more on others than myself. That is what we are commanded to do, so that is going to be my challenge for the year!


Carolyn January 14, 2014 at 6:12 am

My word for this year is PATIENCE. It starts with patience for myself, that I cannot try do everything anymore, and be “perfect”; patience with my husband starts with a gentle voice and attitude that he also cannot do everything and be everything for me.


Susan January 14, 2014 at 6:28 am

One of my goals is to just let some things go, and not bottle them up!


Janet January 14, 2014 at 7:18 am

I feel like God has been teaching me a lot in the last few weeks. One very important concept I want to hold on to is that “I am not a failure – I am beloved.” And a second is (as someone else posted) to learn to do everything “in the name of Jesus.”


Danielle January 14, 2014 at 7:37 am

My one word is Focus! Focus in my time w/ god. Focus in my exercise & eating right. focus on my husband. Focus on my kids. Tune in more & make my time


Gleniece January 14, 2014 at 7:57 am

Good Morning, Lori. I appreciate your daily tips. We all need a little help now and then. My word for the year is: Intentional. My marriage is a good one, but without purposeful thought to reach out I could easily withdraw. Or without choosing to give of my time, I could easily be stingy. God has given us wives a great gift: our husbands. And I want to make the most of that gift.


Jenean January 14, 2014 at 7:58 am

SIMPLE: my word for the year. Try to keep things simple and not burden myself with planning every minute of my life. Take things as they come, trust The Lord with them and enjoy my life and what he has blessed me with in this season.


Sara Catherine January 14, 2014 at 8:17 am

My word for the year is gratitude — my resolution is to stop comparing myself to others and be thankful for all that I have.


Chelsea McCafferty January 14, 2014 at 10:14 am

This year I am praying for better health for my family. We are making healthier choices on our side and praying the Lord would bring healing where only He can. :-)


Lauren Johnson January 14, 2014 at 11:21 am

To spend more time in the word.


Whitney January 14, 2014 at 6:58 pm

My husband and I have resolved to be more intentional in spending time together. We plan to spend one night a week on a simple date, and once a month on a dinner or dessert date away from home. It’s been fun so far! =)


Erin January 14, 2014 at 9:01 pm

My goal is to prioritize my marriage & family first and to learn to say NO more often.


Jo January 2, 2016 at 7:53 am

My husband and I have put ambiguity the top of our list. Clarity instead of wasting precious time trying to decode what we are saying to each other!


Ron Hatfield January 2, 2016 at 10:49 am

My resolution for this year is to have more sex with my beautiful wife and to make sure she sees it as an important part of our marriage that we can have fun with,the way God intends us to!


Brad Miller January 5, 2016 at 5:30 pm

I will INVEST in my marriage with the intentionality of Michaelangelo!


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