How to Get Through a Whole Year

December 19, 2013

in the generous life

I was talking with a few friends and shared the challenge about growing our marriages in 2014.

I am challenging you to a year of effort for a better marriage. One year of doing everything you possibly can to make your marriage better. One year of focusing more on you than on your husband – no matter what he needs to change in his life. One year of making him feel loved, appreciated, and respected. One year of giving without worrying about what you get in return.   Paul Byerly (gender changes mine)

I was surprised by the response ~ “It’s so overwhelming! A whole year! I can’t add more to my day!” I hadn’t thought about it. But, really, typically women’s lives are so full of to-do’s, adding anything does seem mighty overwhelming.

So let’s look at it a little differently.

Let’s start simple and doable, not so much adding things, but slightly changing what we already do. If you do decide to add something, ask yourself what you can let go of (sort of a one in and one out principle). We’re building something new slowly and consistently.

The journey of a whole year is made one step/day at a time. Don’t think about all 365 days (other than knowing you are taking time to work some changes in you). Just think about the current day and the one or two things you are practicing. I’ll toss out ideas and bits of encouragement as we go along. They’ll be good ideas to bless your spouse whether you are taking the challenge or not.

By changing nothing, nothing changes.  Tony Robbins


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Andrea M. December 19, 2013 at 3:16 am

I want to make a difference in my marriage … in MYSELF … in 2014. I asked the ladies in my online Bible study group this morning if they’d like to join me in the one-year challenge. Looking forward to reading more about your ideas in upcoming blog posts. Thanks for all you do, and Merry Christmas! :)


KJ December 19, 2013 at 5:59 am

Thank you for the reminder that any lasting change takes place one step at a time. Yes, I too can feel overwhelmed attempting to be a better ____(wife, mom, friend), but step by step, it’s not such an overwhelming thought.


libl December 19, 2013 at 6:01 am

I’m game! I’ve lived under so much hurt and negativity, I need a vacation from y current self. This sounds great!


Gaye @CalmHealthySexy December 19, 2013 at 8:46 am

Thanks so much, Lori, for sharing my post.

I love the idea of making small changes, adding one small thing, or taking one small step at a time in order to improve our marriages in the coming year. That seems very do-able.


Kim B December 19, 2013 at 4:52 pm

I would love to. We are doing well but I am always ready to try to do better! Thanks so much for all your posts and helpful info.


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