Are You Up to the Challenge?

December 9, 2013

in the generous life

My husband and I have been talking about how change happens in a marriage.

It’s really about intentional choices made by one or both in the marriage. It’s tough. You have to think about it, make decisions and then actually do it … consistently.

Well, my husband, ever the guy, had to make a challenge out of it. :)  But, really, that’s not a bad idea, so I thought I would share it with y’all (changing words to reflect our lovely feminine gender).

I am challenging you to a year of effort for a better marriage. One year of doing everything you possibly can to make your marriage better. One year of focusing more on you than on your husband – no matter what he needs to change in his life. One year of making him feel loved, appreciated, and respected. One year of giving without worrying about what you get in return.   Paul Byerly (gender changes mine)

Kinda gutsy, huh? But if you were to do this for a whole year, think of how it would impact your husband and your marriage.

I’m sharing this with y’all now so that you can have some time to think about it before the new year. I will mention it a couple more times before January. I would suggest that you not tell your husband what you are doing, just make small simple changes over the year. If he asks, you can tell him that you are learning to be more generous, but let the experiment run all year. Personally I think journaling what you plan to do and what happens would be a good idea.

I hope to offer some suggestions and encouragement all during the year and I will be praying that 2014 will be a great year for your marriage!


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Robyn Gibson December 9, 2013 at 4:29 am

This is an awesome idea! I can tell you that, you will also see a significant change in your relationship with God! Again, what a terrific idea. I did this 2 years ago in our marriage but it never occurred to me to share it as a challenge to readers. And the journaling is a very good suggestion.


Cassie December 9, 2013 at 4:29 am

I think I will target 4 different things to work on each quarter. With the plan that by the end of each quarter that trait or skill will be almost a habit that I don’t have to think about as much to accomplish! Changing a manageable 4 things is much better than creating a huge list I could never accomplish. Thank you for the challenge!


annie December 9, 2013 at 6:25 am

This is a great idea working on ones self and changing yourself. When God changes a person it’s permanent. Keep our focus on God and our relationship with Him and all around can be Awesome. :)


Tara December 9, 2013 at 4:45 pm

I’m in! I think OneFleshMarriage’s 10 day challenge (for our second year in a row) will fit nicely into this plan too. The 10 days went really well last year, and I am dedicated to growing with God, but I love the idea of really trying to bless my man this year. That’s a habit I want to get into.


Christine December 9, 2013 at 6:12 pm

Thought I’d share this 30-day Husband Challenge from Revive Our Hearts:

I did this challenge a few years back with about 30 other ladies. We held each other accountable, sharing our successes and failures daily, via email. It was great experience. Much growth!


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