My husband and I have been talking about how change happens in a marriage.
It’s really about intentional choices made by one or both in the marriage. It’s tough. You have to think about it, make decisions and then actually do it … consistently.
Well, my husband, ever the guy, had to make a challenge out of it. :) But, really, that’s not a bad idea, so I thought I would share it with y’all (changing words to reflect our lovely feminine gender).
I am challenging you to a year of effort for a better marriage. One year of doing everything you possibly can to make your marriage better. One year of focusing more on you than on your husband – no matter what he needs to change in his life. One year of making him feel loved, appreciated, and respected. One year of giving without worrying about what you get in return. Paul Byerly (gender changes mine)
Kinda gutsy, huh? But if you were to do this for a whole year, think of how it would impact your husband and your marriage.
I’m sharing this with y’all now so that you can have some time to think about it before the new year. I will mention it a couple more times before January. I would suggest that you not tell your husband what you are doing, just make small simple changes over the year. If he asks, you can tell him that you are learning to be more generous, but let the experiment run all year. Personally I think journaling what you plan to do and what happens would be a good idea.
I hope to offer some suggestions and encouragement all during the year and I will be praying that 2014 will be a great year for your marriage!
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