Don’t Buy In

November 22, 2013

in the generous life

Wow. The spending season really is upon us. Stores are opening early for Black Friday (some even days earlier).

I’m actually kind of freaking out about it. So I thought I would encourage you (and myself in the telling).

It’s wonderful to give and receive gifts, to share meals with friends and family, and to be a part of seasonal activities. But please don’t buy into the “buy, buy, buy” and the “busy, busy, busy” of the season. Buying more and doing more will not make the holidays bright (think frazzled with empty pockets).

Thanksgiving is about being grateful to God and Christmas is about celebrating His birth. Ask yourself (and your sweetie and kids) what will make these holidays meaningful. Don’t spend beyond your means. Have fun as a couple and family. Love on others. Worship Him.

Simplify. Simplify. Simplify. (so that you can really enjoy the season)

All that said, I am going to share a number of activities and gift giving ideas over the next few weeks. A part of the mission of The Generous Wife is to offer a pool of ideas from which to choose (sort of a jump start to your creativity). Use what works for you and toss the rest (or take a few notes and use the ideas next year). Please don’t feel the need to do it all or buy it all.

Just want y’all to hear the balance of what I’m saying here.

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.  Hans Hofmann


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LadyJ November 22, 2013 at 4:39 am

We are a blended family that has 6, now adult, kids. Our first Christmas together, my ex wanted to take my 3 to his family for Christmas, an 8+ hour drive away. I struggled with what to do. I meet with my pastor to get help; Brother John gave me the best advice in the world. Christ was not born on December 25th – So stop focusing on that day. Pick a day and celebrate Christmas.
We have done that now for 14 Christmases. Now that our children are grown with kids of their own, our tradition has allowed them to; 1) Make their own family traditions with their kids. 2) Let them spend time with the spouse’s family. 3) Give us a whole day just for us when we get together. And best of all….4) Taken the stress out of Christmas!
This year we are gathering on December 28th – so we even can take advantage of the great after Christmas sales!


Jesse November 22, 2013 at 12:36 pm

Thank you for saying this!! It is something my husband and I are passionate about. The consumerism, and the messages commercials send out make me sad. Very sad. I think it is even more sad when we as believers in Christ fall for this. I realize we are just as weak and flawed as the rest of the world, but I feel we should make an effort to not be trapped in these lies.
This doesn’t need lead to extreme change necessarily, just purposeful. Think, talk, act with purpose. Decide is right for your family. Set boundaries and stand by them.


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