Leavin’ and Cleavin’

November 21, 2013

in the generous life

It’s time for the yearly reminder …

Our marriage relationship is very important.  Yes, we need to love on and respect extended family, but not at the expense of our husband.

God is very clear – when we marry, we LEAVE our home of origin and CLEAVE to our spouse, creating a new family and home. 

This, of course, does not mean that we stop loving or respecting our parents, it just means that our spouse and our marriage relationship takes precedence over any other relationship, even those we have with parents or other family members.

In practical terms at the holidays, it means that we take into consideration what is good for our spouse, that we stand up for our spouse if a family member gets out of line, and we don’t ask our spouse to be someone they are not at family gatherings.  And, I hope it goes without saying, we don’t treat our spouse differently in front of our family than at other times.

I realize that this can make for some stresses and strains during the holiday season, but I strongly encourage you to highly value your husband and your marriage during the coming holidays.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  Genesis 2:24 NKJV


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Carrie Starr November 21, 2013 at 5:37 am

Thanks so much for sharing our post! Love this focus on cleaving to your spouse. It’s so easy to put everyone else first during this busy holiday season. Who better to spoil than our spouses? They deserve our love and focused attention!


everydayMommy November 21, 2013 at 6:29 am

Thanks – a timely reminder!


Whitney November 21, 2013 at 4:55 pm

Thank you so much for this reminder!


Lori - The Generous Wife November 21, 2013 at 7:44 pm

And certainly a timely reminder for me. There’s all kinds of signs that point to me being a mother-in-law soon, so I’m taking my words to heart. I want to be the kind of MIL that graciously let’s go, but has a welcoming home and a warm hug when family visits. New season for me!


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