Take a Break?

October 31, 2013

in the generous life

One of the software programs acted up and made it impossible for me to get into the back end of The Generous Wife. I’ve learned over the years to stop, take a breath and pray for Paul. He’s an amazing techie and he eventually figures out the problem and fixes it.

Today was a bit different because we have about 12 plates spinning and they are all fairly important and time sensitive (we try not to get that busy, but sometimes life conspires against us).

I said to Paul, “Why don’t you take a break from trying to fix TGW and work on The XY Code for awhile.”

He responded that his mind didn’t work that way. He found it hard to set down the problem. He needed to fix it first.

In the back of my mind I’m thinkin’, “What you really mean is that you don’t want to take a break. A break would do you good, but you’re just being stubborn.”

Some of y’all are probably laughing about now, because it wasn’t fifteen minutes before I found myself faced with a lunch break. I was sewing a vest for my son (costume for a harvest party). It was unbelievably hard to set it down and walk away. I don’t know whether it did me any good, but I was deeply grateful that I hadn’t spoken my thoughts out loud to Paul.

I guess what it boils down to is we need to respect the general make up of our spouses and their perspectives. No, they won’t always be right, but they will likely get it right most of the time (they have lived with themselves for a lifetime). It’s OK to offer a suggestion, just don’t get peeved if they don’t take you up on it. They can probably sort it out.

(… and he did get me back into The Generous Wife. Yeah, techie man!)

Look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.  Steve Maraboli

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Cassie October 31, 2013 at 5:34 am

We do each work in different ways. It is funny sometimes to see how God has made us so different.

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Kim November 3, 2013 at 5:00 am

Great advice, Lori! I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in a similar situation. Thanks so much for sharing the piece on sharing your story. It’s great food for thought and change. Invisible is a great description for me as well, especially through high school. It carried much less risk than being more high-profile.

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