Focus on Your Stuff

October 24, 2013

in the generous life

Last year about this time I was writing in the CMBA half marathon by writing “13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage.” (The full series is here.)

As I was looking through the series, this one stood out to me.

#11 – Focus on your stuff. 

It’s easy to see where your husband needs to grow a bit or where he is messing up, but, honestly, is there anything that you can do about it? You can be a mirror (please be a kind one), but you cannot affect any kind of change in him. It’s his choice.

By the same token, you are the only one who can change you. Put your energy there. We all need to grow and learn to do life better. We play a part in our marriage relationship and any problems there. We can also be a part of the solution. We can model change, humility, healthy boundaries and so much more. 

Don’t spend oodles of time trying to change your husband. Focus on your own stuff.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world your marriage.  Mahatma Gandhi (correction mine)

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Robyn Gibson October 24, 2013 at 10:02 am

Awesome post!

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Chris October 25, 2013 at 5:06 am

You can never change your husband nor can you change your wife. When they make a choice to be a certain way, they will stay that way for as long as they want. Only God can change them for the better though! This is a good post. It does speak truth.

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