One of the things mentioned on my recent survey about The Generous Wife, was that it was hard to walk out many of the generous ideas in a marriage that is struggling.
As someone who has had a broken marriage in the past (complete with painful divorce), let me say that I totally understand.
But let me give you a perspective that might help. (And, honestly, this perspective works for any marriage regardless of condition.)
One of the best times to be generous, kind, thoughtful, etc. is when your husband is acting badly. People in pain, people who are confused, people who feel unloved typically act out badly … and they are at their greatest point of need at that moment.
Because of this, you can effect incredible good. You can really get their attention and you can make a difference in the atmosphere of your relationship. You have an excellent opportunity to make change for the good in your marriage.
A few days ago, I linked to this amazing blog post about a gal dealing with an angry woman ~ She Yelled and Called Me Names. If you have the time to read, this is a wonderful example of what I am talking about.
Yes, it’s hard to be gracious in the face of anger, pessimism, or selfishness, but it’s worth digging a little deeper into God and turning things around with generosity, kindness, and love.
Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots. Author Unknown
Refine Us: Redefining The List Love keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5
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