I’ve been watching a good friend struggle over time use recently (I’m fighting the battle too). Her husband has needs, she has needs, her kids have needs, her boss, her friends, chores to do, projects, ad infinitum.
Dejunking your house gives you a little breathing room and brings on the calm. The same is true of “dejunking” your schedule.
The hard truth is we have a limit to our time and energy. We cannot do everything we want to do or that everyone else wants us to do. We need to choose and hold to those things that are important and learn to say no to less important activities.
If you feel like you are racing around crazy each day, I recommend grabbing a pad and pen and pretending for a moment like you have absolutely nothing to do for the next couple of hours. Begin by listing those people and activities that are important to you. Making time to read to your kids. Making love with your man [however many] times a week. Working on that personal project. Those sort of things.
Then (and only then) take the time to write down those screaming chores and the 157 other responsibilities you need to take care of by next Tuesday. Work them in and around the important stuff. Some things you can cross off the list (life won’t end if you don’t get to them). Other things can be delegated or postponed to a later time.
Center your time use on the important stuff. Make a life that is worth living, that is sane, that brings joy. Yes, you will upset some folks with your choices, but at the end of your life do you really want to have lived the life that others expected of you or the life God had planned for you?
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. Roy Disney
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