Gals Do It Too

September 19, 2013

in the generous life

My husband wrote a rather hard post yesterday – 10 Sure Ways to Make Arguments Worse! He was talking to the guys about how they can make communication anywhere from difficult to impossible (and hopefully be inspired to do something different!).

I thought it might be interesting to look at the themes in what he wrote and put a feminine spin on them. What would that look like? Here are a few things I came up with.

* Not really listening – interrupting, finishing his sentences, ignoring him

* Being irritating or hurtful to get him to back off – sarcasm, raising your voice, threatening to withhold what he needs/wants 

* Minimizing the negative effect of what you do and maximizing what he does – “you never/always”, bringing up the past and piling it on, blaming the problem on your spouse (not acknowledging what part you play)

If you see yourself in any of this, it’s time to intentionally work for some change. Perhaps set up ground rules the next time you and your sweetie need to talk about something difficult. Regardless of what your husband does, you can choose to discuss issues fairly and kindly.

So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.   Romans 14:19  ESV

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Nicole September 19, 2013 at 7:54 am

I would also add to your list trying to guilt him and assuming you know what he’s thinking, and letting him know what it is! LOL I’m guilty of that and a few of yours. Work in progress for sure. :)

Blessings,
Nicole @ WKH

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Lori - The Generous Wife September 20, 2013 at 8:19 pm

Yes, that’s a common one. Guilty and trying to catch it before it comes out of my mouth.

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