Passion Pursuit + a Contest

September 2, 2013

in the generous life

passionI like practical and do-able. Theories and hypotheses are fine (and needed at times), but if something doesn’t make a tangible difference, if it doesn’t effect real change, I tend to set it down and move on.

I also get hugely frustrated with folks who tell you to do something, but don’t bother to tell you how … not even a hint.

With all that in mind …

I am very impressed with Passion Pursuit by Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery. It’s a 10-week study about married sexuality that is chock full of practical wisdom and insightful questions. It has a strong biblical emphasis with much to think about and work through. I didn’t feel like I was left guessing.

My take is that anyone who sincerely works through this study will find significant help and direction for building intimacy in their marriage. (paperbackKindle, optional DVD)

It’s time for a contest and because I like the book so much I’m offering it as the prize (if you buy a copy because you can’t wait to get one and you happen to win, you can pick a different book from the Marriage Book Library).

Please leave your ideas for stocking stuffers (small gifts are really good any time of the year) as a comment to this post and on September the 16th I will randomly pick a number and the commenter in that spot will win the copy of Passion Pursuit.

God wants to do a mighty work in your marriage. His desire is to reclaim and rebuild the beautiful gift of sexuality.  Linda Dillow & Dr. Julie Slattery, from Passion Pursuit

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Sandra September 3, 2013 at 7:26 am

My husband likes to go to gun shows and buying and selling cars. He loves collecting old guns, ammo, holsters…So I give him vouchers (that I make) to pay for the entrance and money to go toward the purchases. Then I buy him some years the Kelly Blue Book for cars (so he keeps the updated version). He loves wearing Crocks (or the clone) so I buy him new pairs becasue they get slick and he has fallen. He loves peanut butter cups and Snicker bars so I buy them and when he says he needs something sweet to eat I break out a few for him. Snything to keep my swetheart happy :-)


Melody September 3, 2013 at 7:27 am

Stocking Stuffers: I always get my husband some new socks, sometimes extra warm ones for hunting or maybe just everyday ones if I know he could use some new ones. Also I usually pick him up some type of flashlight or head lamp- he loves those things!!


lisa b September 3, 2013 at 7:47 am

My husband has a favorite type of pen so i buy those as stocking stuffers. He also loves m & ms so i put a few bags of those in there too


Martha September 3, 2013 at 8:40 am

I get a bag of chocolate kisses and stuff in a pair of lacy “whatevers” and then leave a kiss on his pillow when I am wearing them.


Alisa Garrigues September 3, 2013 at 8:44 am

A technology magazine that showcases the newest and best gadgets.


Val September 3, 2013 at 9:37 am

A deck of cards with “52 reasons I love you! ”

It was fun to make and a good time of reflecting about my love for him and what I appreciate!


Nancy September 3, 2013 at 9:46 am

Some of the things I get for stocking stuffers include: jump drives (or thumb drives- portable storage that plug into the USB for your computer), sports themed calendars, interesting tech like kinetic flashlights, mini levels, multitools (think Swiss Army Knife), goofy T-shirts from Tanga or Woot, his favorite candy, small gift cards to Amazon for his Kindle or iTunes for iPhone/iPad apps… the fave last Christmas was a ballcap torch – a miniature flashlight that clips to the ballcap so you can walk around hands free in the dark…


Joann September 3, 2013 at 12:07 pm

My husband loves those Hershey’s Hugs and Kisses, so I always get them for him. After that it depends on what I find – he may get a whole stocking full of coupons for various activities he enjoys (or might enjoy) ;-)


Courtenay September 3, 2013 at 12:13 pm

My hubby likes all things tech related, so good gifts for him are things like batteries and cables. Or anything with buttons. Sometimes my best gifts to him are just finishing projects he started but didn’t have time to finnish. With a good attitude of course!


Brittany September 3, 2013 at 12:35 pm

Card games! They don’t take up much space, so they’re super easy to take on trips.


Gina September 3, 2013 at 2:10 pm

chocolate and more chocolate!! my husband loves them :)
he loves to do tricks of magic so I also leave him materials he can use: coins, cards…


Cassie September 3, 2013 at 3:36 pm

This year my husband is getting a head lamp in his stocking! He races triathlons which are often dark in the morning when we arrive. I saw others have head lamps on like for camping. Don’t have to hold a flash light while you put your things together! So head lamp it is!


Rebecca September 3, 2013 at 6:09 pm

My hubby always uses Zebra pens – I just went out and bought some so I could stash them away for when he needs some more because he is forever losing them! =)


jasmine September 3, 2013 at 11:20 pm

Handmade vouchers for a head, foot and full body massage redeemable at any time :)


Megan C September 4, 2013 at 7:27 am

I love getting him practical stuff that might be a bit of a splurge. Like a fancy razor with extra blades or fancy coffee, soft pj pants, etc.


Kathryne September 4, 2013 at 10:29 am

I usually try to find a few special sweet treats that he usually doesn’t buy for himself to put in there, usually something lacy for me = ), practical things like mints for while he is at work, a small gift card for coffee. Practical things, but things that having makes life more fun. = )


Laura P September 4, 2013 at 11:14 am

Well, in Germany (where i’m from) we have advent calenders, with a pocket/little stocking for each day, and usually they are filled with little gifts or chocolate. A lot of effort goes into them! With my brother a few years ago I took a needle and syringe and sucked out the filling of one of the chocolates and replaced it with chili! The whole family knew and we all waited in suspense as he bit into it. The expression on his face was priceless! We all had a really good laugh. It went on for days, cause he broke open each chocolate on each subsequent day, making a complete mess every time.
But for my husband the best idea i’ve had was massage oil and bath oil. He works REALLY hard, and often his muscles are all tense and painful. A good massage and a bath helps enormously!


April September 4, 2013 at 11:16 am

Stocking stuffer scavenger hunt. Place about five items in the stocking that tastefully represent something that’s going to lead to unwrapping the best gift of all, YOU! I say tastefully because kids may be present in the room that day unless you wait until all is quit in the house ;)


Pussywillow September 5, 2013 at 5:53 am

Little says “love” to my prince quite like food (treats), but his food sensitivities have severely limited what he can have, so I make honey-roasted pecans (with safe ingredients!) for his stocking. And he loves to share food with friends, so I make honey roasted *almonds* (which he can’t have anymore–we still have lots of almonds left from when he could!) for him to pass around.


Erin September 5, 2013 at 8:10 am

I have gotten fun flavored Chapsticks, a small box of See’s candy which is his favorite chocolate candy, CDs of old bands/groups that he likes, and some colorful PostIts for his desk at work.


Erin September 5, 2013 at 11:51 am

Great ideas! I actually came to the post looking for ideas because my hubs love language is gifts. Mine is not, and I have a hard time planning ahead for small things like this that mean a lot to him. So far, I have itunes gift cards, music (he is a cd junkie!), new strings for his bass, t-shirt and swedish fire steel (or other fun bits) from and camping accessories. This is going to be his best stocking ever.
Thanks generous wives!


Beth September 5, 2013 at 12:11 pm

New underwear & tube of lube that is scented. Maybe spell out I love u with smarties?


Anna September 6, 2013 at 4:34 am

We are still newly weds :) so I am only learning what my husband really likes.
THANKS for all the comments, there are some GREAT ideas here.
So far to make a small gift I usually buy some special food that I know he likes.


Hannah September 7, 2013 at 8:52 am

The book sounds great, Lori!

In my family, we often open stockings on Christmas Eve with pizza and wings, and end the evening with cookies and cider (or eggnog). We like to put gift cards in each other’s stockings, but also packs of gum, candy (both store bought and homemade), music cds, calendars, journals, and pens since we’re always misplacing them.

Thank you for linking up with Marriage Moments Mondays on Becoming His Eve!


Abbie September 7, 2013 at 2:07 pm

My husband is the outdoorsy kind, so I buy things like mini-maglites, pocket knives, multi-tools, and of course, bags of his favorite candy, Reese’s cups.


Danielle September 7, 2013 at 2:27 pm

A new bathing suit for me that I would never leave the house in. He asks for another every year lol :)


Erica September 7, 2013 at 2:52 pm

My hubs is really hard to shop for, as something small I would consider a stocking stuffer he will typically just go out and buy it himself if he really wants or needs it. There are a couple of types of candies that I buy for him just at Christmas, so it makes it kind of a tradition. Otherwise, I will get him something that he has mentioned would be nice to have, like a specialty tool (last year it was a hatchet), or a replacement for something he has that is nearing the end of its life.


patti September 7, 2013 at 3:07 pm

Golf balls and tees


Laura A September 7, 2013 at 6:30 pm

I get my hubby a paperback book he’s been wanting and a couple of his favorite candy bars.


karen September 8, 2013 at 2:22 pm

A note containing a list of things that I would like to do together with him during the coming year. It can be trips, meals, or anything you think he would enjoy ;)


jill hoke September 13, 2013 at 11:34 am

I like to get small personal grooming things at the dollar store.


Sharon September 13, 2013 at 12:28 pm

A coupon book for favors, both non-sexual and otherwise. ;)


Whitney September 13, 2013 at 12:50 pm

Nice pens!


Bobbie Jo September 13, 2013 at 1:53 pm

I get him points to use towards each of the video game systems. (Usually you can find deals on some of them around Christmas.) Then he can use them throughout the year to buy new games or new content and he doesn’t have to spend his monthly “fun” money. :-) He loved that in June he was still getting new stuff from Christmas!


Heather September 14, 2013 at 7:02 am

My hub loves music, so I have purchased an iTunes gift card for him to use on the new music of his choice. He was like a kid in a candy store trying to decide what songs to buy!


Tricia September 2, 2015 at 3:49 am

Lotions from Bath & Body and dark chocolate are my go-to stocking stuffers.


Jenn A September 2, 2015 at 6:20 pm

Gift cards to the coffee shop, small tools, cologne, jerky.


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