Take It Seriously

July 16, 2013

in the generous life

I had an interesting talk with a friend of mine.

She was deeply saddened by a number of recent divorces among her friends. Most of these friends were Christians and most divorces were about “incompatibility” or “not being in love anymore.” She was frustrated over why they didn’t work to fix their marriages and upset about the fallout for their children and friends.

… and she has reason to feel that way.

She has courageously worked to build her marriage. She has dealt with her stuff and offered grace to her husband. She has sown faithfulness and integrity into her marriage. The fruit of that is amazing and sweet.

I do understand that not all marriages can be saved. I know first hand about things like ongoing infidelity and abuse. I just wanted to remind us all that there are consequences for the choices we make and we need to take marriage seriously.

Make good choices. Fight for your marriage. Invest in your marriage. Yes, that can be quite expensive in a personal sense, but the benefits far outweigh the cost. 

When we fight for our marriages we honor God, we honor each other and we honor our friends and future generations.

No one can go back and change how it started but a new future for any marriage can begin the moment one person begins to invest in it. Fawn Weaver

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Debi - The Romantic Vineyard July 16, 2013 at 8:35 am

Well said, Lori! Imagine the difference in our culture if all the Christian marriages would stay the course even when it seems they are “incompatible.”


Liz July 16, 2013 at 11:53 am



Joe July 16, 2013 at 1:07 pm

I have to take issue with something in your posting.
Saying, “I do understand that not all marriages can be saved…” What does that say about the power of God to change a person?
God can raise Lazarus from the dead heal the blind & lame, forgive all of our sins; yet be completely incapable and powerless when it comes to marriages?
The God I believe in is omnipotent (ablle to do ALL things). Nothing is too big for my God.
God Himself came to earth and sacrificed Himself for His adultrous bride. He has never stopped believing in us and He extends grace continually. He has His arms open wide and has promised never to leave or forsake us.
I am called to be like Christ in everything. He gives me the strength, wisdom, and grace to walk each day according to His plan. I must trust Him in every aspect of my life, marriage included.

[I speak from the experience of standing for my marriage for over 2 years now. I promised to love, honor and cherish my wife as long as I live. No matter what.]

With and through God, NOTHING is impossible!


Lori - The Generous Wife July 16, 2013 at 3:09 pm

It’s not that God can’t change a person (He can do all things), it’s just that He allows us to make choices and some of us will choose badly.

God is all powerful and could “make” all people come to Christ, but He allows us to make choices and some of us will choose badly.


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