More and Better

July 2, 2013

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

My husband is just one of those thoughtful people. He’ll jump up to help someone carry a heavy load. He’s chatty and friendly. I remember someone suggesting that I should be jealous of the attention and help that he gives other people. It took monumental effort, but I did not laugh. The reason I don’t worry, is that he clearly shows a preference for me. He loves me, serves me and generally makes my life easy. By comparison, he loves me more. I don’t doubt his love.

My husband and I explored this idea years ago when we needed to set up some healthy boundaries with other people. We came to the conclusion that talking with others was fine, as long as our spouse got more and better. Serving others was great, as long as our spouse got more and better. That doesn’t mean that we don’t love and serve others, it’s just that we chose to value each other more than any others.

Do you show a preference for your husband? Does he get the best treatment? Do you tell him the good news first or compliment him in front of his friends? Make your marriage relationship special and secure.

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{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Beth July 2, 2013 at 1:11 pm

Thanks for sharing this perspective, Lori. So many couples need this–especially the ones where they are not doing “more and better” and wonder why their marriage is faltering. Great thoughts!


Lori - The Generous Wife July 2, 2013 at 7:24 pm

Thanks, Beth. Actually I find that it is an amazing safeguard in my marriage as well. It’s hard to look elsewhere when things are so special between you and your spouse.


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