He’s an Orange, Not an Apple

May 18, 2013

in the generous life

Every now and then I hear a gal talk about someone (other than her husband) with a wistful tone. There is something about that someone that they hold dear and the undertone is that their husband doesn’t measure up.

Well, of course, he doesn’t measure up! He is a totally different person and she’s holding him up to the wrong standard!


She’s comparing apples to oranges. We need to appreciate people for who they are.

Yes, it’s great that your first boyfriend always brought you flowers. Appreciate that someone valued you and brought you a gift you enjoyed.

Now drop it. It’s not a standard that you can use with other people (and certainly not your husband).

Your husband is a remarkable person. He sings silly songs, has mad techie skills and knows when you need a hug. Enjoy him for the unique person that he is.

Don’t ask him to be an apple. He’s an orange.

Comparison is the death of joy.  Mark Twain

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Gaye @CalmHealthySexy May 18, 2013 at 5:36 pm

Thanks so much for mentioning my post, Lori! I really appreciate it.



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