Talk Sex-Positive

May 10, 2013

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

My take is that where the mouth goes, the rest of you will follow. 

If you talk “sex negative” then you’re not likely to be interested in sex, but if you talk “sex positive” you may change your attitudes and begin to look forward to sex.  (I’m not talking about ignoring real problems, do get help.) 

When you’re with friends, talk about how handsome your guy is or how much you love him.  Tell your sweetie what you love best about his body.  The next day after sex, do a little self talk and replay what was good.  It wouldn’t hurt to let your husband know what blessed you as well. 

Let your mouth lead the way in a good way.

Watch your words, they become actions …  Author Unknown

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{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Jay Dee - May 10, 2013 at 8:31 am

Being the higher-drive spouse in our marriage, I have no problems being sex-positive. But, what I have found helpful is the next morning to re-affirm with my wife how much I enjoyed it, find something specific that was particularly arousing, and then hint towards the next encounter.

I think part of our job as the higher-drive spouse is to help lead the other in these matters.


Lynn May 13, 2013 at 11:10 am

My husband says sometimes he feels like he’s some sort of animal because of his need for sex. How do I let him know I don’t think so, and that I am overjoyed that he desires me?


The Generous Wife May 13, 2013 at 11:53 am

@Lynn Ask him if he will read a book with you about married sexuality. I would recommend A Celebration of Sex by Rosenau or Sheet Music by Leeman. Perhaps if he hears other men talking about sex as normal and healthy, he can see that he is quite normal and that sex in marriage is great.


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