Lift the Latch

April 19, 2013

in the generous life

My sweetie, The Generous Husband, just did a great post on Gatekeeping

Gatekeeping is when you have a position of power over a given area in a relationship or situation and you are the one who chooses what will or will not be done. The term is usually used in a negative sense ~ a gatekeeper stops something that needs to be done so that others will recognize their position of power.

The thing about all this is, if you act generously from your position of power, you can do an amazing amount of good. It’s incredibly healing to others when you meet them at their point of need, especially if you are the only one who can do so.

When you are talking about sex, you are your husband’s only legitimate sexual partner. When you are available you are an incredible blessing to him. It’s an act of acceptance and care that is particularly generous and healing.

Why not take a look at your marriage relationship and find those areas where you are potentially a gatekeeper. What areas of your relationship rely on your choice? Then choose to be a blessing and give generously.

Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are travelling the dark journey with us. Oh be swift to love, make haste to be kind.  Henri-Frederic Amiel

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Gaye @CalmHealthySexy April 19, 2013 at 6:09 am

Hi Lori – Thanks so much for sharing my post. I have watched that video perhaps a dozen times now, and I’m still moved by it every time.

I love the idea of identifying areas where we are the “gatekeeper” in our marriages, and using that “power” to bless our spouses.



Fawn Weaver April 22, 2013 at 3:45 pm

What a great message, Lori! I hadn’t thought about the fact that I’m a “gatekeeper” in terms of sex or any other area. That’s a pretty fantastic analogy. Thanks!


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