Life a bit busy? How’s your love life?
The reason I ask is because it’s easy to put sex off a day or two when life gets busy. Most folks think about sex at bedtime and if you’ve had a long, busy day it makes it easy to say, “tomorrow.” The problem is that too many busy days means too many “tomorrows”. The longer you put off sex, the harder it is to get back to having a regular sex life and keeping that sense of intimacy that comes with sex.
Sometimes it’s tough to see the consequence of putting off sex. If you cut back on shopping, your fridge gets bare. If you cut back on laundry, your clothes are all in the hamper (and you wind up wearing that paint-stained Tshirt). When you cut back on sex for a few days, there is no immediate in-your-face consequence. Relational stuff is like that. It just takes a bit longer before you realize that you don’t feel as close, you’re fussier than normal with each other or you realize your spouse is in a funk about it.
Treat your marriage and sex life like it is a deeply necessary part of your life (because it is). Plan it into your life the same way you plan other important activities. If you’re going to drop something because you are a bit busy, let it be something other than your bedroom life.
Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom. Song Songs 2:15 NIV
Do Not Disturb: Small Stuff or Big Deal? Are you willing to trust and surrender to Him? NBD = Now Bow Down
Intimacy in Marriage: Sexual Redemption. Could Her Story Be Yours? So nice to read about the thought processes behind change.
The Romantic Vineyard: What Jurassic Park Taught Me About Love With a title like that you know you have to read it. :)