Fly Away Little Birdies

February 27, 2013

in the generous life

My husband and I are officially empty-nesters.

My son just moved out and my husband and I are actually alone for the first time ever (I had a daughter when Paul married me).

Perhaps because we started off as parents (with all the stresses and strains that that brings), we worked hard to make time for each other. We had date nights (many on the cheap), talk time after the kids were in bed and generally focused on our relationship as something that would (hopefully) last past the child rearing years.

Well, it’s nice to say it did. As our nest empties out, I love being able to look at my sweetie and find that he is not a stranger. He is my friend and lover.

 I share this for two reasons.

1. I’m doing the happy dance and I have to share it with someone.
2. I hope it encourages y’all.

The intentional effort to build your marriage during all seasons of life is worth the relationship you will reap. I do know how hard it is to engage (in any way) with your sweetie after a hard day of chasing kids and working (at home or about), but really it is worth it.

Keep investing in little ways every day.

Whatever you do in your life, always go the distance. Ken Norton

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Tyson Cooper February 27, 2013 at 4:59 am

Congratulations on creating a marriage that is based on you and your husband instead of on the events swirling around you in your lives. My wife and I look forward to the day when we too are empty-nesters and can spend significantly more time with each other further strengthening and growing our marriage.


The Generous Wife February 27, 2013 at 9:58 pm

@Tyson Thanks so much. Praying for your empty nest days.


Fawn Weaver February 28, 2013 at 6:08 pm

WOW! Love this, Lori! It is always so wonderful and encouraging to hear empty nesters talk about enjoying this season of their life. To actually look forward to being together. And that has everything to do with the amount of time and effort you put into building your friendship for the past 20+ years. It’s truly a beautiful thing.


Kim March 1, 2013 at 9:44 am

Empty nesting is yet another wonderful stage of life to be embraced like any other. Congratulations on being empty nesters and still loving each other to pieces!!


Lori Ferguson March 1, 2013 at 5:22 pm

How awesome – congratulations!


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