The Wrong Question

February 26, 2013

in the generous life

My husband wrote an interesting post yesterday. I’ll give you just a snippet (the rest is here) and a few comments of my own.

I have noticed recently that some people are asking the wrong questions. For example, someone might ask, “What kind of new car should I buy?” rather than “Should I buy a new or a used car – or drive what I have another year?” Another example would be asking, “When should I tell my father-in-law how wrong he is?” rather than “Should I tell my father-in-law how wrong I think he is?” An extreme example would be “Should I commit adultery with my secretary or the lady I met at the bar.”

If you do not ask the right question, you cannot get the right answer.

Have you ever felt miserable or confused over a choice (or made a choice and wondered how it could turn out so badly). It’s probably because you don’t have all the options on the table. Back up a step or two and ask more questions. Pray. Watch out for assumptions (I repeat, watch out for assumptions). Pray some more. Grab your sweetie or a good friend and brainstorm, maybe even let them ask the questions. 

At the end of the day, the questions we ask of ourselves determine the type of people that we will become. Leo Babauta

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