About Communication

February 21, 2013

in the generous life

A friend and I were talking about communication. We both felt that we were pretty good at speaking, but the listening part … um.

It’s so easy to hear the first few words and “know” where your spouse is going with it. It’s easy to interrupt or spend your time thinking about how you will respond. Bad habits all around.

So learn from our chat and the next time your husband speaks … listen well.

The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.  Ralph Nichols

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Fawn Weaver February 21, 2013 at 4:09 am

What a fantastic quote! I recently heard someone say the world is in desperate need for people who will simply listen. That is so true!

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Tyson Cooper February 21, 2013 at 5:10 am

Very true. It’s hard to actually listen sometimes especially once you know your spouse really well. I often interrupt my wife trying to complete her thoughts and often I’m wrong (I guess I don’t know her was well as I think I do!). And while it’s important to listen sometimes simply starting to talk can be difficult. Here’s a suggestion to help with that: http://www.uplifting-love.com/2012/09/turn-it-off.html.

Thanks for the good suggestion!

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Becky Morgan February 21, 2013 at 4:15 pm

I’ve definitely been guilty of jumping to conclusions/making assumptions when my husband talks to me, as well as not really giving him my full attention (which also leads to assumptions! ;) So, one of the most impactful suggestions a counselor ever told me was to “POSTURE TO LISTEN” – that when my husband wants to talk to me, I make a habit of stopping and actually turning toward him, giving him my full attention. Body language speaks volumes, and that simple act of turning towards him helps me remember to truly listen to him.

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The Generous Wife February 21, 2013 at 4:52 pm

@Becky I have to break what I’m doing to listen well. If not my husband gets, “uh huh, yeah, uh huh,” and I really haven’t heard a thing.

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