I was reading CWives’ Valentine post Valentine’s Day Victory in Your Bedroom and this jumped out at me.
Perfectionism: “I was planning on having sex today but then _______ happened. Now it’s all ruined so forget the whole thing.”
While this is about sex, I think the concept applies to every area of marriage. If we have an idea in mind and something makes it less than perfect, how often do we just throw out the whole idea? (And in doing so miss out on a lot of great couple time and fun!)
Being married to an adventure loving messie, I’ve had to learn to go with “imperfect” and I must say that (for the most part) it’s been great. No, it’s not “perfect,” but my life would have been quite boring without him. I’ve had to stretch a bit and let go of unrealistic expectations. I’ve had to risk and deal with failure at times. But, honestly, I like myself better and I’ve come to enjoy adventure. Messes can always be cleaned up, but a life lived small because of perfectionism can’t be re-lived.
Let go of perfect expectations and enjoy imperfect life with the love of your life.
A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault. John Henry Newman
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