Moving Past Our Own Needs

February 3, 2013

in the generous life

♥ ♥ ♥ 11 days to Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

My husband and I have been reading and talking through Philippians. Lately we’ve talked a lot about selfishness vs. servanthood.

This one verse stood out to me. Paul is talking about Timothy.

For I have no one like him, who will be genuinely concerned for your welfare.  Philippians 2:10  ESV

… genuinely concerned for your welfare.

Do I do that for my husband? Do I genuinely care about him, his needs, his dreams, his projects, etc.?

It’s not that we can’t or shouldn’t take care of our own needs. It’s not that we shouldn’t ask for what we need.

It’s just that we need to also be willing to move out beyond our own needs into servanthood and care about the well being of our husbands.

What that means practically for me is that I take the time to watch and listen, to learn about him and his day, to learn about the responsibilities that he carries. I can pray. I can help (sometimes). I can be there for him. It’s not just about me.

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Happy Wives Club: Last 5 Minutes to Say All There is to Say An amazing exercise. Amazing.


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{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Kimball February 4, 2013 at 8:39 am

Love this, but I prefer the term “service-mode” over “servanthood.” I know it may not be that much different, but for my self-esteem and willingness, “service” is more positive than “servant.” Service is something I choose to give whereas “servant” is a lower being who has to do what they do or they are out of house and home, looking for a new lord/master to work for.


Robyn Gibson February 5, 2013 at 9:57 am

This is so good and we (well, I do) need to be constantly reminded that just as Christ chose to serve. I just love that image!


Fawn Weaver February 5, 2013 at 11:53 am

One of my favorite books of all time is It’s Not About Me by Max Lucado. And although that isn’t specific to marriage, your point is truly valid. When it comes to marriage, if both spouses say to themselves, “It’s not about me,” both will have their needs (and desires) met. It’s a built-in support system. Thank you also, Lori, for sharing our link!
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