Yesterday I wrote about making changes to accommodate the need to grieve during the holidays. Everyone pretty much understands that, but there are really any number of reasons that you might want to change what you do.
I know that sounds like a no brainer, but it’s easy to get caught up in what is considered normal and forget that you can do things differently.
You don’t have to celebrate Thanksgiving with turkey (you can have pizza if that’s what your family loves). You don’t have to edge your flowerbeds with brick like all your neighbors (you can xeriscape the whole yard!). You don’t have to make love at night before bed (you can have sex when you have more energy, like in the morning or just before dinner). What others do, expect, or see as normal may not work for you or your husband … and that’s OK.
I think, for the most part, we are governed by what is expected of us. I’d like to encourage you to think differently and invite your husband to do so as well. Look around at your marriage, your family life, your home, your work and your play. What isn’t working? What isn’t fun any more?
Try something different.
I think being married to Paul has broken me of “normal” and that’s a good thing. Lori Byerly
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