It’s OK to Be Different

November 23, 2012

in the generous life

Yesterday I wrote about making changes to accommodate the need to grieve during the holidays. Everyone pretty much understands that, but there are really any number of reasons that you might want to change what you do.

I know that sounds like a no brainer, but it’s easy to get caught up in what is considered normal and forget that you can do things differently.

You don’t have to celebrate Thanksgiving with turkey (you can have pizza if that’s what your family loves). You don’t have to edge your flowerbeds with brick like all your neighbors (you can xeriscape the whole yard!). You don’t have to make love at night before bed (you can have sex when you have more energy, like in the morning or just before dinner). What others do, expect, or see as normal may not work for you or your husband … and that’s OK.

I think, for the most part, we are governed by what is expected of us. I’d like to encourage you to think differently and invite your husband to do so as well. Look around at your marriage, your family life, your home, your work and your play. What isn’t working? What isn’t fun any more?

Try something different.

I think being married to Paul has broken me of “normal” and that’s a good thing.  Lori Byerly

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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Jay Dee - November 24, 2012 at 3:00 pm

I agree, you will never grow if you stay in your comfort zone and follow the crowd.


Jesse November 25, 2012 at 1:52 pm

This is one of my favorite tips yet!!!! I am not your average gal, and I have always been ‘unique’. Even the way we got married was not the norm, but still there were so many things about marriage that I thought had to be a certain way. One of the major ones for me was having sex before going to bed. I was very young (18) when I got married and had no real mentor or person I could talk to at the time. I started dreading sex. It felt good, and I found my husband attractive, I was just never ‘in the mood’. It was because I was tired!!! I realized at some point that we could have sex any time! I know, so revolutionary. =D Anyway, a very great example of thinking beyond your norm.


Kim November 28, 2012 at 10:20 am

Boy do I find that is true! My hubby and our daughters are not normal and doing what is “expected”: spending gobs and gobs of money on Christmas. We also frequent the thrift store. I know there are folks in our world who really look at us askance and it has been a little tough to get used to. As Dave Ramsey says, though, “Who wants to be normal? Normal is broke.” We have a delightful Christmas season and are very happy with where our time, attention and money goes.


Kelly November 30, 2012 at 7:39 pm

I’m a chaplain at a long term care hospital and do a lot of grief counseling. Grief needs space especially during the holidays. Some people work too much to forget, others do nothing because they are paralyzed. We just need to give people time. Thanks for linking up with us at No Ordinary Blog Hop. Every blessing, Kelly


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