How Will You Spend the Holidays?

October 30, 2012

in the generous life

If you haven’t done so already, make the time to talk with your husband about fall and winter holiday plans. What do you want to do? Not do? How will you handle expectations? Gift giving? (If you kept notes from last year, bring them out. After Christmas Talking)

Why not ask your husband to spend a week or so praying and brainstorming with you to see if you can come to agreement on what is important, what you will do and what you won’t do. Remind yourselves that you need to make choices that are good for the two of you and your family. Get rid of traditions that don’t work and make a few that you would like to try.

If you find yourself in serious conflict (it can happen), I really encourage a 3rd alternative solution. There are often more than two choices. Take the time to explore all your options.

What is 3rd Alternative?

Here is the short version from Patty Newbold of Assume Love:

What is a Third Alternative?
Step One: Jump the Net
Step Two: Write New Specs
Step Three: Brainstorm

Here’s the long version from – The 3rd Alternative by Steven Covey

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Hannah Williams November 1, 2012 at 9:55 am

Great thoughts! Adam and I are spending Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with his, but we haven’t spent too much time talking about how we’re handling gift giving, expectations, etc. I really like the idea of spending a week together and separately praying about it. What a great way to build spiritual intimacy!


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