#11 Deal With Yourself

October 11, 2012

in the generous life

I’m “running” in the CMBA half marathon (blogging daily from Oct 1st to 13th) by writing “13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage.”


13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage

#11 – Focus on your stuff. 

It’s easy to see where your husband needs to grow a bit or where he is messing up, but, honestly, is there anything that you can do about it? You can be a mirror (please be a kind one), but you cannot effect any kind of change in him. It’s his choice.

By the same token, you are the only one who can change you. Put your energy there. We all need to grow and learn to do life better. We play a part in our marriage relationship and any problems there. We can also be a part of the solution. We can model change, humility, healthy boundaries and so much more. 

Don’t spend oodles of time trying to change your husband. Focus on your own stuff.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world your marriage.  Mahatma Gandhi (correction mine)

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Anna October 11, 2012 at 6:02 am

Hi, I just want to say, I really like your posts everyday. This one was particularly insightful. I really appreciate reading your ’13 things you’ve learned about marriage’ list.


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