#10 Find Out What It Means to Me

October 10, 2012

in the generous life

I’m “running” in the CMBA half marathon (blogging daily from Oct 1st to 13th) by writing “13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage.”


13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage

#10 – Respect really is a big deal.

A man’s heart yearns for respect. You can tear him to bits one piece at a time with disrespect.

If you love your man, show high regard for him. Give him the best, share the good news with him first, care about his needs and wants, etc. He’s of great value. Let him know that frequently.

Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect.  Amy Grant

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Sara Lyn October 10, 2012 at 10:25 am

This is so true!! I assume you’ve probably read Eggerichs’ “Love and Respect.” That book really opened my eyes to how important respect is to men and hopefully my husband has seen the benefits of that knowledge. :) I’ve really been enjoying your things you’ve learned about marriage this past week. And your links are fantastic, too. Great blog!!!


Jenny October 11, 2012 at 7:48 am

This is something that we must remember every day! My husband has told me that what he needs most from me is for me to be proud of him and to support him through everything; and if he makes a decision, that he needs me to respect it, even if I may not agree with it. He won’t make a decision that will hurt me in any way, he’ll never make a decision that would harm our marriage, and he’ll always take my feelings and opinions into account. He needs me to trust him to do the right thing and make the right decisions for us. I used to struggle with that, because I was scared to death to let someone else be in control! But after the first few years of marriage being pockmarked by arguments because I just wouldn’t let things go and because I tried to be in control of the decision-making process, I finally came to the realization that, 1. my husband is a very intelligent man and has his head on straight, 2. my husband loves me and would never make a decision that would hurt me in any way, 3. in order to love my husband, I need to respect and support him. And you know what? He’s not the only one who has been blessed by my changed attitude – I’ve been blessed as well. I was miserable trying to be in control and being afraid to let go. It’s nice to let him take the reins, resting in the knowledge that he knows what he’s doing, and that he will make godly decisions. And our marriage dynamic is so much better, more loving, more relaxing, more fun.

A great truth to hold on to!


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