Practical Generosity

September 18, 2012

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

My husband was working through some preparations for a conference that we will run shortly.  Every so often he would ask a question or ask for a helping hand. 

Honestly, I was getting a bit peeved that he kept interrupting me at the computer.  Then I made a quick reassessment of the situation.  I wasn’t doing anything that was absolutely necessary at the moment.  I could reasonably take a bit of time and be a help.  We really needed to get everything ready and what he was doing was time sensitive.  So, I stopped being grumpy, helped out a bit and now I’m back to the computer with little out of my day.  He’s happier and I’ve helped move things along.

I think sometimes, being generous has a very practical element to it.  It’s about meeting your husband where he is, blessing him with what he needs and wants.  I did have the time to help (if I had been into something important that I really couldn’t break from, he would have understood), my husband liked the company and it helped the work move along.

What does your husband need or want?

Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day.  Sally Kock

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Victoria September 18, 2012 at 8:44 am

Hi there,

how do you find a list of seminars that you do, or are they private conferences? My husband and I both take the generous husband and wife and would love to go to something by y’all. We just moved to Washington, so I think we are in y’all’s neck of the woods.


The Generous Wife September 18, 2012 at 9:56 am

@Victoria Sorry the conference that I mention in this archive post was for the day job where we are the nuts and bolts people for dealing with speakers, hotels, bookstore, etc.

We’ve spoken at a few small marriage conferences and groups in the past, but our main focus is Internet ministry. We currently have no seminars or conferences planned, though we continue to pray and discuss the possibility. If we do plan one, I will mention it on the blog.

Welcome to the beautiful Northwest. :)


Beth September 18, 2012 at 1:55 pm

These small adjustments in our way of looking at a situation can make all the difference! Can’t they, Lori? Thanks so much for reminding us of how to gain perspective on what’s most important. :)


viviene September 18, 2012 at 8:32 pm

It looks very simple but it does make a difference. These past few days I’ve decided to wake up earlier (which is really hard to do) to open the door for my husband before he leaves the house. I also prepare the clothes he needs to wear. They are just little gestures but it is my way of telling him I love him. =)


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