I discussed yesterday’s post with my husband and he asked me a question that got me to thinking.
If I had argued back would you have come to the same conclusion about not dumping anger?
I think I would have eventually (because God was obviously working on me), but it would have taken longer. A part of the reason I saw the problem so quickly was that I was faced with the contrast between my anger dumping and my husband’s quiet and calm.
We can learn from this.
When something cranky is brewing, look for different ways of engaging or don’t engage at all. Whatever you normally do … well, don’t. Take a break. Stay calm. Pray. Listen. Ask a question.
I’m not saying that you should give your sweetie the silent treatment or that you shouldn’t speak up when you need to. I’m suggesting that you stay calm and try something different when there’s tension in the air. Sometimes silence is best and can help people calm down enough to then go on to address the real problem.
Well-timed silence hath more eloquence than speech. Martin Fraquhar Tuppers
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