Yesterday, during the sermon, our speaker was talking about holiness and how God sometimes uses painful circumstances to deal with our sinfulness (the refiner’s fire bringing dross to the surface to be removed). He also talked about how we can choose to intentionally face and deal with our problems.
I got to thinking about this in terms of marriage. How much easier (and far less painful) it is to face and deal with our problems, rather than letting them grow and then getting run over by the painful consequences later.
If you are talking bad about your husband behind his back, stop it now before it sows anymore destruction in your marriage (and it might be a good thing to ask for his forgiveness as well). If you’re into porn (an increasing number of women are), get help (Dirty Girls Ministries) instead of continuing on and growing the addiction, possibly being found out and having to deal with your husband’s hurt over years of secrecy. If you are hiding your spending, get help (Financial Peace University). Whatever it is, get it out in the open and deal with it, now while there is less damage and you have more choices.
I know, I know. None of this is easy, but, honestly, dealing with it now by choice is far easier and less painful than having to deal with the mess and the consequences down the road.
Whatever weakens your reason, impairs the tenderness of your conscience, obscures your sense of God, or takes off the relish for spiritual things then it is sin for you, however, innocent it may be in itself. Suzanna Wesley
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Try it! ~ Want to improve your marriage? Try eating slower. (from Simple Marriage)
I love TED talks ~ Is Shame Ruining Your Marriage Intimacy? (from Winning at Romance) It’s 20 minutes long, but it’s well worth the time.