You’re Kidding, Right?

August 24, 2012

in the generous life

Here’s the last little bit on 1 Corinthians 13.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:7  ESV 

Honestly, this part has been a struggle for me to understand. I’ve known a lot of abuse in my life and, while I could understand “bearing” and “enduring,” the “believing” and “hoping” thing was … well … “You’re kidding, right, God?”

Over the years I’ve muddled around in it, banging my head against the hurts and the things I wanted to say and do. God continued to work in my heart and understanding (I”m so glad I’m His workmanship, it would be impossible to do this on my own).

I think the Amplified version helps a bit.

Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

I don’t think we need to be blind to reality to live out this scripture. Bad stuff happens all the time and people do and say horrible things. Real love isn’t blind. I think it just sees far more than the natural eye. We can love, knowing that God is big enough to work in and through it all … and knowing that God is working in us so that we can love with His kind of love.

That friend that betrayed me? I can love her, pray for her, wish good for her and believe that God still loves her and is working in her life. That time of brokenness and wrongdoing doesn’t have to be the last thing said about her life. I can forgive her. I can hope for and believe better things for her.

The people who molested me as a child? Same thing. Yes, it’s a far bigger stretch, but I can still see the potential for God to work in the situation, redeem the people and work good out of the bad.

His love really is that big and He wants to show His love through us. He wants that love to characterize our lives and our marriages.

So when your husband is home late for the umpteenth time or, even when he does something really hurtful or destructive, serve him up a little love. I’m not saying don’t deal with or ignore real problems. I’m just saying do it with love, from a position of kindness, understanding and generosity. 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  1 Corinthians 13:4-7  ESV

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mrs. dave August 24, 2012 at 4:03 am

This is good stuff! I recall struggling with forgiveness, and the Lord helping me overcome. But loving and wishing good for those people is another story. I know God desires this. I do not know who has repented and accepted Christ’s forgiveness, and if I did, it WOULD make a difference to me. How many people have I hurt with my words and actions? More than I care to remember. The Lord reminds me of this when unforgiveness tries to sneak back in. The old Golden Rule strikes again! Thanks for this wonderful reminder!


Anna August 24, 2012 at 7:28 am

Thank you, this post couldn’t have come up at a better time. I was just starting to give up hope but now I understand the situation better. Your advice was spot on, and exactly how I confronted an issue this morning. Thanks again.


The Generous Wife August 24, 2012 at 8:23 pm

I’m glad the post was an encouragement to y’all. It’s not easy, is it? But, it sure feels good when you are able to face a difficult situation with grace and kindness.


Calli September 3, 2012 at 1:07 pm

Does the Lord expect us to be a martyr? I have a hard time believing that he expects us to continue
to forgive aldultery over & over again, because he does forgive us. Doesn’t he want us to be happy?


The Generous Wife September 3, 2012 at 2:42 pm

@Calli ~ I honestly think there are times to end a marriage. Ongoing adultery would be one of those times, but in keeping with the post, you can still address this from a position of kindness and thoughtfulness. Speak respectfully. Make wise choices, especially ones that benefit or protect any children.


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