[Love] does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians 13:5b-6 ESV
Insist: to be emphatic, firm, or resolute on some matter of desire, demand, intention, etc.
I probably should have included this in yesterday’s post because this is more about selflessness and serving. We don’t demand our own way. It’s OK to ask for and work for what we want, but we are not the only person in the world and we need to make room for others. Our way is not the only way and certainly not the only right way.
Irritable: easily irritated or annoyed; readily excited to impatience or anger.
Resentment: the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult.
I often think that people who are given to irritation and anger are just people who don’t know how special they are. They typically think that others’ behavior is a reflection of them and then they get hurt and act badly. I realize that this is not always the case, but I think it is much of the time.
The kids are not behaving and we feel like a bad parent, get scared and start yelling. Our husband is late and we see that as he doesn’t care about our time and, by extension, he doesn’t care about us. We feel hurt and disrespected. We get grumpy or give him the silent treatment.
Reality is, much of what others do is more about them ~ their attitudes, their thoughts and beliefs, their bad hair day. We just catch the fallout.
If we know that we are valued and have worth. It’s easier to be understanding and kind when the people around us are struggling. Hug that kid and help him get his chores done. Give your husband a welcoming kiss and warm up his dinner plate. Be a team player. Be a woman who is kind and thoughtful, patient and generous. You are a wonderful person, loved deeply by God. What’s a little inconvenience? … just an opportunity to serve another and make their day a little easier. Think of the ripple effect of that!
Rejoice: to be glad; take delight
We’re supposed to rejoice in the truth and not rejoice at wrong doing. I looked that up in several versions and I think it’s all about heart attitude. Yeah! We love it when God wins and truth sets people free. Boo! We hate it when bad destructive things happen. That goes for when bad things happen to people we don’t like … um, yes, that too. We are supposed to bless those who curse us, pray for those who abuse us. (Luke 6:28) We’re talking about serious heart attitude here.
This is what love does. (Tomorrow I’ll finish this up.)
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